Yeah, the little bit I've worked while taking care of J. full-time has taught me that I will neglect my work, and not J. That isn't good for my chances of getting more freelance work in future.
Three days per week is great because it means I get four days per week home with him. More days with me than in day care. I like that ratio. We have a pretty sweet setup for April-June. He will be in a staff daycare at L's school, so she can pop in and see him at least once during the day. It's very affordable, too, because it's a staff daycare, so I'll likely be spending about 33% of what I earn on childcare. Then, come summer, L. will be caring for him full-time while I work part-time. The only downside of the sitch is how early L. gets up for school and how far she travels to get there, so getting J. to and from daycare may mean it isn't really a good full-time option for us next year. But, we can see how it plays out. We will almost certainly be putting him in daycare full-time come fall.
The one decent bit of advice I got from Dr. Sears on the matter is that I shouldn't waste my time home with him thinking too much ahead to when he'll be in daycare. I should enjoy my time with him and give him all I've got. So, when I'm not doing the small project I still need to get done by April 1, that's what I'm doing.
I sometimes wish I had a lot of money and could stay home with him if I chose. But, hey, that's not how it is for me and I'm fortunate that I could stay home 3.5 months with him and that L. could stay home for 2 months with him and that I can afford to go back part-time for a few months after my leave. A lot of people aren't anywhere near that lucky.
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Three days per week is great because it means I get four days per week home with him. More days with me than in day care. I like that ratio. We have a pretty sweet setup for April-June. He will be in a staff daycare at L's school, so she can pop in and see him at least once during the day. It's very affordable, too, because it's a staff daycare, so I'll likely be spending about 33% of what I earn on childcare. Then, come summer, L. will be caring for him full-time while I work part-time. The only downside of the sitch is how early L. gets up for school and how far she travels to get there, so getting J. to and from daycare may mean it isn't really a good full-time option for us next year. But, we can see how it plays out. We will almost certainly be putting him in daycare full-time come fall.
The one decent bit of advice I got from Dr. Sears on the matter is that I shouldn't waste my time home with him thinking too much ahead to when he'll be in daycare. I should enjoy my time with him and give him all I've got. So, when I'm not doing the small project I still need to get done by April 1, that's what I'm doing.
I sometimes wish I had a lot of money and could stay home with him if I chose. But, hey, that's not how it is for me and I'm fortunate that I could stay home 3.5 months with him and that L. could stay home for 2 months with him and that I can afford to go back part-time for a few months after my leave. A lot of people aren't anywhere near that lucky.
It doesn't make it less hard though.