What /needs/ to happen is that the parents need to come up with a plan to address the situation, as it doesn't just go down this way the nights that I'm there, but all the time. So the two of them really need to decide what they want to do as a family and then do it. They should also let me know so I can do the same thing and set up a family routine.

Right now it's kind of chaotic because there /is/ no routine, and I'm a pretty routine-oriented person, especially when it comes to toddlers/preschoolers.

I don't spend my nights dreading babysitting and I don't think it's causing me actual pain, but I /do/ dislike the bedtime schtick (or lack thereof) and that needs to change. Perhaps I need to be more on top of letting the moms know that the situation has really escalated.