I didn't realize you had planned to move to Western Mass & start a family - that's a pretty big change to go from thinking that to moving to Florida. I can see why you are so upset about this, I would be too. So did she for sure decide to take the job then? I guess if she does take it maybe you could move to Florida just for a year or two. That way she'd get experience & be able to use it to get a job in Western Mass? If she hasn't told them yet, I think you really need to talk about this with her some more and ask about when she wants to start a family, etc.