We're in a rush, sure, but not moreso than anyone else who has decided they are ready to add to their family and want to get it going. But we're not interested in giving up, and maybe what I'm writing is kind of vague, I don't know.
We're not interested in giving up our dream of becoming parents, but we do a lot of talking about how far we are willing to go and what options we are willing to pursue to add to our family by one means (my being pregnant). We're also working with a pretty aggressive doctor who probably plows through options fairly quickly. What I'm not ruling out is that for whatever reason (mainly to improve his success rate), I will be fast-tracked to IVF... and IVF is something we decided not to pursue long before we got started.
When you have a ready supply of sperm around, you can kind of try for years. We don't really have that sort of option and we are at the whim of our doctor's office. He's okaying our inseminations and he's the one who decides how long we can try each protocol. Usually people have already been trying for a year or more before they get to where we are. You try for a year, you try some drugs, then you start getting into more invasive stuff - IUIs and IVFs and all of that. We sort of sped ahead to the IUIs and to do those, they require drugs (at my office). And most of those drugs are only supposed to be tried for a couple of months.
It's not something we're taking lightly. Fertility drugs are not natural and don't do great things for your body, and we don't want to take them for an extended period of time. We're not so hung up on having a biological child that we will do /anything/, risk /anything/, etc. We want to be parents. We would love to do the pregnancy thing but it is not required. It's just what we're trying right now, because it seems like the right time.
It might seem like we're rushing but you have to remember that I didn't get pregnant in my last marriage, either. *shrug*
I don't know if I've answered your questions or addressed your concerns. I'd love to talk to you about this personally if you have more that you'd like to say, ask, or know. But our process is quite a bit different than yours, even though we're both PCOS gals who may end up knocked up some day... simply because we're two girls who needed to enlist the help of technology from the get-go.
And for the record, TTC isn't adding to our stress level any more than most people... it's the /other/ stuff that has been happening by the crapload that has really made the stress level out of hand.
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We're not interested in giving up our dream of becoming parents, but we do a lot of talking about how far we are willing to go and what options we are willing to pursue to add to our family by one means (my being pregnant). We're also working with a pretty aggressive doctor who probably plows through options fairly quickly. What I'm not ruling out is that for whatever reason (mainly to improve his success rate), I will be fast-tracked to IVF... and IVF is something we decided not to pursue long before we got started.
When you have a ready supply of sperm around, you can kind of try for years. We don't really have that sort of option and we are at the whim of our doctor's office. He's okaying our inseminations and he's the one who decides how long we can try each protocol. Usually people have already been trying for a year or more before they get to where we are. You try for a year, you try some drugs, then you start getting into more invasive stuff - IUIs and IVFs and all of that. We sort of sped ahead to the IUIs and to do those, they require drugs (at my office). And most of those drugs are only supposed to be tried for a couple of months.
It's not something we're taking lightly. Fertility drugs are not natural and don't do great things for your body, and we don't want to take them for an extended period of time. We're not so hung up on having a biological child that we will do /anything/, risk /anything/, etc. We want to be parents. We would love to do the pregnancy thing but it is not required. It's just what we're trying right now, because it seems like the right time.
It might seem like we're rushing but you have to remember that I didn't get pregnant in my last marriage, either. *shrug*
I don't know if I've answered your questions or addressed your concerns. I'd love to talk to you about this personally if you have more that you'd like to say, ask, or know. But our process is quite a bit different than yours, even though we're both PCOS gals who may end up knocked up some day... simply because we're two girls who needed to enlist the help of technology from the get-go.
And for the record, TTC isn't adding to our stress level any more than most people... it's the /other/ stuff that has been happening by the crapload that has really made the stress level out of hand.