I can't say that I have had /any/ conversations with the doctor about how long things take - and by that I mean there are no promises or timelines given, no guarantees. No one ever said, "This will take three years," and no one ever said, "This will take a couple of months." What they DO say is that they like to do things in threes, because in ideal circumstances, the average IUI will be successful in 1/3 to 1/4 of tries. We have now done three cycles of Clomid 100mg - one worked well, one worked less than well, and one didn't work at all. When we go in on the 26th, he /could/ opt to try an increased dosage of Clomid but I'm inclined to think that is not the case, based on conversations I've had with the NP. (Things like, "Clomid is not a very strong drug and it might be smart to move to something more aggressive." Her words, not mine.) I'm not sure if you're concerned that maybe I'm seeing some RE who has promised the moon on a silver platter or something, but I can assure you that this is not the case. Sure, he says things like, "I think we can make this work," but it doesn't go further than that.
I won't tell you it's not upsetting. For me, it has been WAY more upsetting to have a cycle get cancelled than it has been to have a cycle turn out negative... because at least with the latter you get a /chance/, and we didn't get a chance this month even though I took the icky pills with the icky side effects. And we /are/ nervous, because injectible drugs with IUI are our last step (because after that, all that's left is IVF) and if that doesn't work in the number of times our doctor or we are willing to try, it's over, at least for now. And that is certainly something I think about.
We never planned to try to knock me up for years. It was something we wanted to try while I had good health insurance, something we thought we would check out since I had previously been told it would never be possible. It's something we want to try but not something we are willing to beat to death. Does that make sense? I have always had my peace with adoption and have known that it was how I was going to add to my family. This is just sort of an added bonus.
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I won't tell you it's not upsetting. For me, it has been WAY more upsetting to have a cycle get cancelled than it has been to have a cycle turn out negative... because at least with the latter you get a /chance/, and we didn't get a chance this month even though I took the icky pills with the icky side effects. And we /are/ nervous, because injectible drugs with IUI are our last step (because after that, all that's left is IVF) and if that doesn't work in the number of times our doctor or we are willing to try, it's over, at least for now. And that is certainly something I think about.
We never planned to try to knock me up for years. It was something we wanted to try while I had good health insurance, something we thought we would check out since I had previously been told it would never be possible. It's something we want to try but not something we are willing to beat to death. Does that make sense? I have always had my peace with adoption and have known that it was how I was going to add to my family. This is just sort of an added bonus.