House drama

[judecorp]

So the skinny on the house is that the sellers are total asshats. Apparently they are pissed at us because we pushed for a sooner closing date (even though we ended up compromising with them on it) and they are also pissed because they received an offer that was higher than ours (full price, actually) but with the contingency that those buyers needed to sell their house first. So they picked us and were pissed that they weren't getting full price. Also, they told their realtor that they think we are jerks.

I feel like we were being totally reasonable. We weren't pushing for money for the roof that will need to be replaced in a few years, but there was a problem with the heating system that we wanted them to take care of. (There is no cold air return duct in the house. It is in the basement. Which kind of defeats the purpose.) They refused to have someone come and fix it - the stupid seller said that the only way he would fix it is if we agreed to let him fix it himself. And is he an HVAC tech? No. And would he agree that if we got an HVAC dude out there to check it out after and that person said it wasn't done right, he would pay? Absolutely not.

After having three sleepless nights about this house, we decided it is probably cheaper and easier on everyone's mental state to just cough up the money to install a cold air return duct in the house by a licensed technician ourselves rather than try to move twice or look for a new house or whatever. Jen can't couch surf forever and we can't afford to rent two places. Also, moving is a bitch on top of being expensive. So we finally just decided that we would let the asshat win and we would pay for the repair.

I just don't understand mean, inflexible people. I mean, when we sold my dad's house, we totally had the furnaces serviced because the inspector was concerned about them. It's what you do, people! Don't hold a grudge out on me, asshat, because your beloved buyer hasn't sold his house yet. But I couldn't take another night of going back and forth about not having a place to live.

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I called my doctor's office about trying to get a follow-up beta hCG test and progesterone test. I wanted to get SOME sort of reassuring news in the midst of all of this drama. (See also: untold work drama story that is screwing me out of a month's health insurance.) I wanted to be able to go in tomorrow to make myself feel better but they won't take me on the weekend unless I'm bleeding. I guess that's fair but it will be hard to wait until Monday!

Also, I have been having cramps for days now. They make me very, very nervous.

Comments

[authentichris.livejournal.com]

Mean people are a way of life in that business, and the clients attitude is a reflection of the realtor--ifthe realtor sets expectations right (remember you should be happy if your offer is a 7 out of 10), there is less drama tension and conflict.

But Realtors don't get that.

[thespian.livejournal.com]

people are asshats, and I sent you email.

[hoo.livejournal.com]

Dude had his chance to do DIY repairs on his house *before* the house inspection.

[(Anonymous)]

dude the cramps are TOTALLY normal and most likely will continue for the next few months - mine did! they feel like period cramps and made me nervous too....but it's just your uterus stretching b/c there is a HUMAN in there! Sarah Aubry

[volumeat11.livejournal.com]

You have every right to be irritated. But you're doing the smart thing by moving forward. The sellers don't have to like you...and frankly, some privacy stuff was violated in the fact that you know about other offers. (Who ever told you did a no-no.)

But regardless, this is an ugly process, that can be filled with ugly people. I hope now that everything's ironed out that is goes A MILLION TIMES SMOOTHER from here on in.

Good luck, and we'll talk soon...

[siercia]

You do things like the service on the furnace at your father's house to avoid having to negotiate with a buyer. Lot's of people would not have had it done, and dealt with it if it had arisen in the sales process. That does not make them better or worse people, it is what it is.

Look at this from the seller's perspective. You're getting the house for less than he wanted for it, but he took your offer, and that's his business. You're asing his to "fix" something that has been the way it for likely the entire time he has owned the house, that he never saw as a necessity. You see it as a necessity, he likely does not.

He's entirely within his rights to decline the terms of your revised offer, post inspection. You're entirely within your rights to walk away from the house, given his decision to decline your offer. That's the way the process works. You need the house more than he needs to sell it to you. The reality of that puts the onus to be flexible on you, not him.

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

Don't worry about the cramps. I had them as you're describing for a few weeks after my BFP. Very normal!

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Well I'm glad you worked something out anyway. Worrying about the house is not helping with the pregnancy so try not to if you can! Did you ever try those relaxation cds I sent?

[estrange.livejournal.com]

I think I remember having some slight cramping after getting pregnant so hopefully everything is fine!

[kjames.livejournal.com]

the sellers? you're right, total asshats. i don't understand people that don't take responsiblity for things (see: current untold drama in my life). holy shite it makes me cranky.

the cramps *could* be due to implantation. i had some when i was first pregnant with greta. so maybe?

[violane.livejournal.com]

I had cramps for weeks after I first got pregnant; many women do! Totally normal.

We had sellers like that when we bought our house. They wouldn't do a single thing we asked. We totally caved to them, though, because it was a seller's market and we really wanted the house. We're still happy here and it was all worth it, but it was quite a trial at the time! Good luck.

[laserkitty.livejournal.com]

I had cramps for about a month and a half after I got pregnant...and I had what I would have thought was a normalish period in my first month. It IS scary, but Beano is here and ok, so try not to worry too much....some weird stuff is normal. :)

[(Anonymous)]

Adding to everyone else's...
I only stopped feeling pre-menstrual a couple of weeks ago. Early pregnancy felt exactly the same to me as getting my period, and in fact my mind would say "Gee, period's coming" before I could remind myself that I was pregnant! It's just your uterus pressing down on the embryo to check it's there. Don't stress too much!
xxx Mermaidgrrrl

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

I don't get mean, unreasonable people either. I don't get what they get out of it, really.

[shadist.livejournal.com]

What an ass.