do you have a sound spa? I use that religiously to get my two calmed down for naptime. crank the sucker up! (roni likes songbirds and thunderstorm. rhett's more of a white noise kind of kid.)

i also give roni a bottle at naptime (even if she just had a bottle). Again, the sucking helps calm her down.

she also likes to have her stuffed bear, Patches, at sleeping time.

i'm also the bad mom in that i let them sleep on a pillow under blankets. (my theory: whatever friggin works!)

will she nap in the swing?

just brainstorming different ideas here with ya.