I am also scared about how my becoming a biomom will suck me MORE into the land of straight girls, and thus exclude Jen's contributions. I don't want to be seen as THE mother, I'm actually very terrified of that. Especially with Jen as a butch-identified person who really IS in touch with her female identity (much moreso than I am, which is funny in itself) and very very much wants to be a mother.

I just hate that after all of this time, we still think "short hair = queer" or "men's clothes = queer" and also that "long hair" or "girly clothes" = "weaker woman."

Ugh.