i know it's hard, but it's much easier if you try not to take this stuff personally. I know you know this, though. It's certainly not anything you're *doing* to Punk. You're not binding her feet or tying her down. It is who she is, and you'll help her out in any way you can, and bring in outside help, etc., but it doesn't (and shouldn't) reflect badly on you as a mama. Just like the positive things about her aren't really your doing, either. You encourage her, sure, and you provided some of her genes, but it's not like you chose which ones to give her. ;)
And I definitely take credit for some of Z's great and not-so-great qualities, so i'm not saying you shouldn't at all. But i guess it's easier to see the separation when I'm dealing with an adopted kid, and having done foster care. We sure as hell helped Shaya achieve as much as she could during her stay with us, but what she *could* achieve had nothing to do with us, or her parents, it was all her. (and she didn't walk until about 15 months adjusted, so...)
anyway, i'll stop throwing stupid "buck up" advice in your direction. I'm sorry you're feeling like poo. Parents shouldn't brag (yeah, right...). ;) I know, sooner than you'd like, Punk'll be running into traffic every 5 seconds and you'll be wishing she'd been even more delayed...
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Date: 2008-09-15 02:34 am (UTC)And I definitely take credit for some of Z's great and not-so-great qualities, so i'm not saying you shouldn't at all. But i guess it's easier to see the separation when I'm dealing with an adopted kid, and having done foster care. We sure as hell helped Shaya achieve as much as she could during her stay with us, but what she *could* achieve had nothing to do with us, or her parents, it was all her. (and she didn't walk until about 15 months adjusted, so...)
anyway, i'll stop throwing stupid "buck up" advice in your direction. I'm sorry you're feeling like poo. Parents shouldn't brag (yeah, right...). ;) I know, sooner than you'd like, Punk'll be running into traffic every 5 seconds and you'll be wishing she'd been even more delayed...