The only advice that I can give you is the advice that I gave myself several years ago, when I considered moving to be with someone I loved. It was frightening, and at the same time wonderful, and I wanted to go - but then I thought: what if it doesn't last? What if I'm trapped in a place without my family and all alone? If he loves me so much, why can't he move to be with me?
The question here is: would the first girl be moving only to be with the second girl, or would she be moving because that is the best thing for /her/ to do? No one should ever re-arrange their life for anyone else, because that breeds resentment. To be happy, I think that either both girls should move to a new place, to start a life together, or neither should move. Long distance relationships can work - life does not end because there are miles separating people who are meant to be together. With time, all things work out. But if either of the girls thinks that because distance separates them, they cannot be together - then I don't think it's going to work out anyway.
Don't run from a good thing if you're only running because you're afraid. A relationship is about confronting that fear, and trusting your partner to see you through it. Everybody gets afraid. Nobody really likes change. But sometimes it's change that makes you stronger, and leads you to what will eventually make you whole.
None of the above advice points towards a clear solution. I can't tell you what to do. But read what I've written and if any of it speaks to you, I hope it will help you figure out what you need to do. I love ya.
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Date: 2002-05-12 04:41 pm (UTC)The question here is: would the first girl be moving only to be with the second girl, or would she be moving because that is the best thing for /her/ to do? No one should ever re-arrange their life for anyone else, because that breeds resentment. To be happy, I think that either both girls should move to a new place, to start a life together, or neither should move. Long distance relationships can work - life does not end because there are miles separating people who are meant to be together. With time, all things work out. But if either of the girls thinks that because distance separates them, they cannot be together - then I don't think it's going to work out anyway.
Don't run from a good thing if you're only running because you're afraid. A relationship is about confronting that fear, and trusting your partner to see you through it. Everybody gets afraid. Nobody really likes change. But sometimes it's change that makes you stronger, and leads you to what will eventually make you whole.
None of the above advice points towards a clear solution. I can't tell you what to do. But read what I've written and if any of it speaks to you, I hope it will help you figure out what you need to do. I love ya.