Can't I hit 'pause'?

[judecorp]

Can it get any weirder? I mean, so here I am trying to figure out how to be a 'roommate' while still being a person that gives a crap. Today an invitation comes in for a wedding for one of the in laws, a first cousin of the spouse. Luckily, that decision is made for me - I'll be in NY at the time. Aah well. Not like anyone on that side of the family knows what's going on.

Tonight, A.'s mom calls, and I'm half listening to see if he's going to tell her. He doesn't. His father, who is suffering from a terminal illness (Lewy Body Dementia) is now getting much worse. A. says he will likely die soon.

So here I am. What do I do? Do I go visit the family? Do I go to the inevitable funeral? He doesn't want to talk to me about his father or how he feels or anything, so 'being supportive' isn't entirely an option.

Am I going to get a break in here somewhere? Three weeks left in the quarter. Five weeks til NY. Can things just /stop/ until then. PLEASE?

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If he feels that he shouldn't talk to you about it, or he doesn't want to then he apparently isn't interested in your support, you shouldn't have to be a mind reader about it. If he doesn't want your support, don't go to the funeral unless YOU feel you should.

That's my take anyway. Supporting others shouldn't be a guessing game of should's or could's

[zelazny.livejournal.com]

Good tune....she is just a sucker

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's my turn in a minute, gonna put my message in it.