I know I'm bitching. Cope.

[judecorp]

You know, I wouldn't be so annoyed about all of the missing stuff that he didn't say he was going to take (like all the pots and pans, and the ironing board, and the iron, and the tools, and the stepladder) if he didn't currently have a bedroom full of my grandmother's bedroom furniture that I gave him so he didn't have to buy new stuff.

Motherfucker. I'm finding it harder and harder to believe that he ever cared about me, because people who care about people don't do things like this. They don't sneak in when someone's out, take every single usable pot so the person left can't cook anything, and then leave the key on the pretense that they won't clean the empty apartment.

I'm taking the security deposit (which arguably is only $99 because the apartment complex was running a special two years ago) and buying new pots and pans. Sure, I have the money to replace this stuff with my savings, but why should I be purchasing all of this stuff because he chose a weekend when I was out of town to take everything in the apartment he wanted and leave crap that he doesn't want for me to dispose of?

It's time for him to start paying back that $3800 loan that he signed into the separation agreement.

I loathe being angry. It's really not in my nature. I suppose that's what got me into this mess in the first place. I wonder how he feels in his new apartment in my grandmother's bed. I wonder what he's thinking when he's ignoring my email and my phone message.

I'm hungry.

Comments

[naughtypixie.livejournal.com]

Firstly... excellent angry music. DK have never failed me yet when i'm feeling like beating the living shit out of something.

Secondly, i know it probably won't come to this (cos it's to expensive over some pots) but is what he's doing legal? Does he have reciepts to say he bought them or that at least they were bought together? Again, i don't expect this to make a difference but perhaps a small amount of scare tactics is in order.

Lastly, in relation to your last post, sticking up for yourself (especially in situations like this) is not being bitchy, i'ts purely and simply sticking up for yourself because you're worth sticking up for.

The important question is why am i needing to tell this to a Psych person? :)

*hugs* in a meaningful and constructive way that in no way detract from the sentiment yet still bestow that warm fluffy feeling on the recipient.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Our separation agreement said that we had already split up our property, because we had. We had talked about all of the larger items (television, microwave, furniture) and I suppose I wasn't thinking ahead (or gave him too much credit) to come up with the scenario where he sneaks out while I'm out of town and cleans out the apartment. Because of this, the document that has been signed (and is now law) says that our property had been divided to our satisfaction. Thus, I have no legal recourse to, say, get the pots and pans. I am, however, going to call again tonight, after 9pm when he's likely to be home.

I do, however, have legal recourse to get the money he owes me, because that's law now, baby. Woot!

You're so right on the DK. :)

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

GRRRRRRR! Mad on your behalf!
Shanizilla! *stomp stomp*

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

I must say, on the whole, this guy appears to be quite a coward. Especially because it seems to me that if he had just *discussed* things with you (though clearly that was too much to ask...), you would have probably been more than reasonable.

You are not a bitch. *HUG*

[oddharmonic.livejournal.com]

You're not bitching, you're thinking of good ways to deal with someone doing really thoughtless and cowardly things.

I don't have any pots, but I've got some baking stuff (pizza round sheet, air-cushioned rimless cookie sheet and an air-cushioned muffin pan) I'd be willing to pass along if you'd like. It's all in good or better condition, the pizza sheet being the most beat up (it's about 4 years old, the other bits I bought when I lived in NC).

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the offer, which is very kind, but no. He actually (why, I have no clue) left the muffin pans (and one very rusty cookie sheet that went straight into the trash). I really just need plain old sauce pans and saute pans, and I will go buy them when I move.

Thanks, though. You're sweet.

It gets better.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I called him this evening and asked if he changed address using just the last name (he said no), and told him to look out for my mail. I then asked him why he took all the pots and pans and he said, "I just took you at your word. You said you only wanted the microwave." Things got heated by this point, and I asked if he was going to come to clean, and if he was going to throw his stuff out. He said it shouldn't be a big deal for me to do it. When I asked why I should have to throw his stuff out for him, he got rather hostile and asked in a snide and threatening tone, "Well how much rent did you pay this month?"

"The same amount I do every month."
"Oh. I thought you didn't pay."
"Why don't you look in your checkbook register. You can see where $900 went in and $500 came out."

I'm even madder now. It was one thing when he was just being a prick. It's something else entirely when he was going to stick it to me as punishment for not paying rent, an untrue accusation with clear evidence to the contrary. I'm offended as hell that he would even consider the possibility that I would not pay my half of the rent.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I think I'm in love with Shanizilla. :)

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[indigodove.livejournal.com]

I am mad as hell for you, and I don't even know the weasle!!!

Good luck...if we can do ANYTHING, let us know.

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[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You're already so good to me, there's nothing you need to do.

Come visit sometime. :)

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[indigodove.livejournal.com]

We'll be in town for Origins the week of July 4...and I have little interest in gaming :)

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[judecorp.livejournal.com]

:(

I'll be in Rhode Island with my parents from July 2nd to the 6th. :(