And the hits just keep on comin'
Aug. 10th, 2004 10:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
judecorpMy mother called earlier. She just got back from her trip to Myrtle Beach with her husband. Recently they'd started thinking about Myrtle Beach as a place that they could retire in a little while. (They have always wanted to move someplace warmer.) My mom wanted to take a trip out there to "check out the scene," while her husband was definitely looking to move quickly. (For example, she said she wanted to look at some houses to check out the housing market, while he said that maybe they would put an offer in on a house.)
Well, my mom called and said that they put an offer on a house. She sounded really conflicted about it and I worry that she isn't sure she wants to move right now but got persuaded by her husband. Now, I really really like John and think he's a great guy, it's just that my mom has always deferred to other people in her life (especially men) and I worry about her. She's concerned that she won't be around for Christmas, or that we won't be able to see her much, and I really feel bad for her. But I'm stuck in a point right now where things are just stressful and trying, and I had to bite my tongue to keep myself from saying, "Wow, you think you should have weighed the pros and cons /before/ you made an offer?"
Part of it is selfish on my end, of course. I mean, Jen and I just moved out here and one of the impeti (what /is/ the plural of impetus?) was to be closer to family, Mom included. And now with Jen's parents going to Florida and my mom talking about moving to South Carolina, I'm feeling really scattered. I already had a ton of doubts that maybe this move wasn't the greatest idea, and now those reasons that /were/ concrete are cracking. Ugh.
Oh, and on a whim I put my income and Jen's soon-to-be Levenger income in this calculator to see how much we could afford in a mortgage. According to this, we can buy a house that costs $160,000. I could almost die of laughter. DIE, I tell you! We can't get half a house here for that price!
Well, my mom called and said that they put an offer on a house. She sounded really conflicted about it and I worry that she isn't sure she wants to move right now but got persuaded by her husband. Now, I really really like John and think he's a great guy, it's just that my mom has always deferred to other people in her life (especially men) and I worry about her. She's concerned that she won't be around for Christmas, or that we won't be able to see her much, and I really feel bad for her. But I'm stuck in a point right now where things are just stressful and trying, and I had to bite my tongue to keep myself from saying, "Wow, you think you should have weighed the pros and cons /before/ you made an offer?"
Part of it is selfish on my end, of course. I mean, Jen and I just moved out here and one of the impeti (what /is/ the plural of impetus?) was to be closer to family, Mom included. And now with Jen's parents going to Florida and my mom talking about moving to South Carolina, I'm feeling really scattered. I already had a ton of doubts that maybe this move wasn't the greatest idea, and now those reasons that /were/ concrete are cracking. Ugh.
Oh, and on a whim I put my income and Jen's soon-to-be Levenger income in this calculator to see how much we could afford in a mortgage. According to this, we can buy a house that costs $160,000. I could almost die of laughter. DIE, I tell you! We can't get half a house here for that price!
