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judecorpThis morning, after Jen and I puttered around on our computers for a bit, we got back into bed and curled all up under the covers (it was quite chilly in the Judecorp HQ) and just started talking about everything. We had such a fantastic conversation about where we are right now, where we want to be in the future, and when, and what we want it to look like. We talked about Boston, and moving here, and whether we screwed up, and if we want to do anything about it. We just talked and talked and talked, and it was so fabulous. I love when we really work together as a team. It's the best!
Jen has stated that while she doesn't mind her job, she does not want to be a retail sales associate at Levenger for a long time, especially under a manager who knows less than she does and has less experience. She wants to wait it out for a little while and see if Levenger really does have plans to open another stand-alone store (and if they would be willing to let her run it if they did). At the same time, I want a couple more months to see if I can possibly get into a job that is more in line with what I want to do.
We're going to re-evaluate our situation over the holidays. At that time, we will have gotten our security deposit back from our landlords (they said they would hold it for 6 months), we will have some holiday money from our families, and we will be expecting a little tax refund. So at that time, when we have a little bit of money, we are going to decide if life in Boston is really going to be a place where we can meet our goals. If in a couple of months we are still thinking about moving, we will take a little vacation to Portland or some other place we decide in the meantime is better for us. We'll go for a week or so and check it out, see if we like it, see if the weather is to our liking, see if the houses appeal to us, etc. If we /do/ like it, after all that, we'll start actively looking for jobs there. Both of us have agreed that we do not want to ever move anywhere without at least one of us having a job.
In the meantime, Jen is going to send her resume to![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
technodyke just in case she hears about anything good, and I will continue keep my eyes peeled for dream jobs for Jen (something I've been doing since before we moved here), but I will look not only in Boston but also Portland. I will keep my eye on the housing market out there and keep doing my homework.
If by the holidays I have not found a job more suited to my wants/needs, and Jen has not heard anything more about Levenger stores, I am going to stop looking for new jobs in Boston because at that point moving will become more likely, and the last thing I want to do is switch jobs again and again and again. It will be weird to stop looking for jobs! I have been doing it since like April or something.
The bottom line to all of this is that Jen and I talked a lot today and decided that THE most important thing to us right now is for us to keep as close as possible to the "we want to make a baby by:" date that we set last year when we were planning such things. Next year was the year to start working on getting ready for conception/adoption (whichever we wanted to go with first), with 2006 being Baby Year. We agreed this morning that we don't want to push that back if we can help it. So if living in Boston is going to make those plans impossible (i.e. with no way to make enough money to support a child, pay for child care or a stay-home parent, purchase a home or rent a home that allows children, etc.) then we have to say sayonara to Boston. Moving here was a dream we were determined to live, but never at the expense of our other dreams.
I feel so much better after having that talk. Jen and I make such a great team and it's so refreshing to really be on the same page about something again after all of the stressful times we've had recently. <3 Jen <3
Jen has stated that while she doesn't mind her job, she does not want to be a retail sales associate at Levenger for a long time, especially under a manager who knows less than she does and has less experience. She wants to wait it out for a little while and see if Levenger really does have plans to open another stand-alone store (and if they would be willing to let her run it if they did). At the same time, I want a couple more months to see if I can possibly get into a job that is more in line with what I want to do.
We're going to re-evaluate our situation over the holidays. At that time, we will have gotten our security deposit back from our landlords (they said they would hold it for 6 months), we will have some holiday money from our families, and we will be expecting a little tax refund. So at that time, when we have a little bit of money, we are going to decide if life in Boston is really going to be a place where we can meet our goals. If in a couple of months we are still thinking about moving, we will take a little vacation to Portland or some other place we decide in the meantime is better for us. We'll go for a week or so and check it out, see if we like it, see if the weather is to our liking, see if the houses appeal to us, etc. If we /do/ like it, after all that, we'll start actively looking for jobs there. Both of us have agreed that we do not want to ever move anywhere without at least one of us having a job.
In the meantime, Jen is going to send her resume to
technodyke just in case she hears about anything good, and I will continue keep my eyes peeled for dream jobs for Jen (something I've been doing since before we moved here), but I will look not only in Boston but also Portland. I will keep my eye on the housing market out there and keep doing my homework.If by the holidays I have not found a job more suited to my wants/needs, and Jen has not heard anything more about Levenger stores, I am going to stop looking for new jobs in Boston because at that point moving will become more likely, and the last thing I want to do is switch jobs again and again and again. It will be weird to stop looking for jobs! I have been doing it since like April or something.
The bottom line to all of this is that Jen and I talked a lot today and decided that THE most important thing to us right now is for us to keep as close as possible to the "we want to make a baby by:" date that we set last year when we were planning such things. Next year was the year to start working on getting ready for conception/adoption (whichever we wanted to go with first), with 2006 being Baby Year. We agreed this morning that we don't want to push that back if we can help it. So if living in Boston is going to make those plans impossible (i.e. with no way to make enough money to support a child, pay for child care or a stay-home parent, purchase a home or rent a home that allows children, etc.) then we have to say sayonara to Boston. Moving here was a dream we were determined to live, but never at the expense of our other dreams.
I feel so much better after having that talk. Jen and I make such a great team and it's so refreshing to really be on the same page about something again after all of the stressful times we've had recently. <3 Jen <3
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Date: 2004-09-13 12:15 am (UTC)Cuddling and talking is nice, Huh? *snort*
-Heather
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Date: 2004-09-13 12:48 am (UTC)If you intend on adopting at some point, and adopting an infant, i'd recommend doing that first, I heard that some places don't relaly want them to go to families with children already.
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Date: 2004-09-13 02:19 am (UTC)yay!
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Date: 2004-09-13 02:26 am (UTC)Wow. That is just. Wow.
My current plan for adopting, though, is for us to become foster-to-adopt foster parents. I don't know that they particularly care if there are other children.
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Date: 2004-09-13 03:07 am (UTC)That was just for adopting infants though, foster-to-adopt would be different, especially with older kids. One of my coworkers, they adopted a 5 year old (he's like 7 now) and it's been very positive experience.
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Date: 2004-09-13 03:56 am (UTC)communication is so fucking cool!
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Date: 2004-09-13 06:26 am (UTC)So, thank you for the positive energy you both bring and being my sheeee-ros!
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Date: 2004-09-13 01:34 pm (UTC)You know reading about your plan, I now see why you ended up in this job you are in now. I think this will give you a edge on being a foster mom AND might even help you with adoption in the long run. Things ALWAYS happen for a reason. Oh as far as adoption, I have a few friends who have adopted after having Bio children. It all depends on the situation.
Good luck on your journey!
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Date: 2004-09-13 03:21 pm (UTC)No doubts about fertility here (just hearing a newborn cry causes a nursing 'letdown' tingle in me) and we've been talking about baby #3 for a few months now.
See... John was born in '70, me in '75... Johnny in '95 and Paul Dec. 2000. If I want to keep on track, we gotta get moving before April of next year.
Baby baby baby.
Careful, they're contagious!
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Date: 2004-09-15 02:59 am (UTC)You are one of the most fetile people I know! It's like you start knitting a baby blanket and the next thing you know, you're pregnant. I'm looking forward to hearing about baby #3 (if that's really going to happen). How many kids do you want to have?
And I /wish/ it was contagious. I can't wait!
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Date: 2004-09-15 03:00 am (UTC)I can't wait to be a parent. I am practically dying!
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Date: 2004-09-15 03:02 am (UTC)(And don't worry - we're hardly ever stable. Why do you think I wanted to document it? *wink*)
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Date: 2004-09-18 02:38 am (UTC)You are also a big silly. But if you would rather be a mystery I suppose I can do you the favor of respecting your wishes. :)