I am such a question whore.

[judecorp]

This is the problem with LJ, we all think we are so close, and we know nothing about each other. I'm going to rectify it. I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me, something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away.

Then post this in your LJ and find out what people don't know about you.

Stolen from so many people, including juliann and one_woman_army.

Comments

[hope-persists.livejournal.com]

how long have you and jenn been together?

[oddharmonic.livejournal.com]

What foods do you avoid eating and why?

Aside from things I'm allergic to (an enzyme found in papayas and kiwis), I don't like fresh tomatoes, zucchini (probably from the Summer of Too Much Zucchini when we finally composted them after we couldn't eat any more dishes with zucchini in them), nuts that get stuck in my teeth, pork and watermelon.

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

SHE LOVES ONIONS

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Officially unofficial sources say it will be three years next month since we started dating. We met and became friends in the summer of 1995.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

HA HA HA HA! Also beef.

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

PUERCO! here, little piggy, piggy.

<--- PICKY EATER

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Okay, are you ready?

I avoid eating red meat, including beef and pork (other white meat? that's crap), because I don't like it and I think it's bad for you. I also avoid all of those "baby animal" meats like lamb, veal, etc. because I find them cruel.

I avoid lots of foods because I just plain don't like them. This list includes: onions (the ultimate evil), beets, celery, gravy, cauliflower, sweet potatoes, jalepeno peppers, curry powder, eggs, and cabbage.

I avoid most foods I've never had before because I am afraid of them. I am getting a little better about this over time.

I avoid certain foods most of the time because I think they are not good for me. This includes white bread, potato chips, regular soda, and fast food. I'm better at this some times than other times.

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

Why did you go to social work school?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

So I went to one of my family's homes today, a Vietnamese family, and the mom is always making me food that I try hard not to eat. (Fried things, meaty things, mystery foods, foods handled by children who are sick, etc.) Today she produced these rolls that were not only gelatinous, beefy, and full of chili peppers. And I /ate one/. Aren't you proud?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Originally I wasn't going to go back to school at all. In fact, the whole moving thing was inspired by my then-husband, who wanted to go to graduate school for environmental management. At that time, the two schools he was interested in were NC State and OSU. He applied to both. The plan was to move wherever he got in and got money.

Somewhere in there I got the idea that I would apply to graduate school (again) as a way to meet people and make connections in the community. I'd been working in educational research at the time and was focusing my personal research on GLBT youth in public schools. I turned to social work because I wanted to do more than research this population - I wanted to actively work with them. So I applied to the MSW program at OSU, saying that I would only go if it was free and if A. didn't decide to go to NC State.

Turns out that A. was only probationally accepted to both schools, no funding. So we were just going to pick, and were just about to pick NC State for the better weather. And then I got the letter from OSU saying I'd gotten a fellowship. So we moved to Ohio, I enrolled in OSU, and A. went to work.

And I /still/ didn't get a Big Gay Job.

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

Yes, atually. Don't you wish you'd been able to convey 'vegetarian' and been done with it?

[whuffle.livejournal.com]

When you were growing up, what do you think is the most important event that effected who you have become today?


(Yeah, I could have picked something much lighter. But honestly. I AM interested in the answer to this one.

[dustyskinandall.livejournal.com]

What album can you listen to overandover and not get tired of?

[serenity-coach7.livejournal.com]

If you were left alone on an island what are the 5 things that you would bring with you?

I know I could ask something lighter, but that is teh damn counselor in me, Lol..... =)

follow-up question

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

Before the MSW, you used to do some sort of kids therapy if I remember correctly.

Do you really not like being a clinician? Or is it just that you'd like being a Big Gay Administrator more?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I made our agency Vietnamese translator tell the Mom. It was funny, she totally caught me making weird body language and she asked me if I eat meat. I said, "Umm... well, I am today," and she started laughing. Then she told Mom. Thank goodness.

Re: follow-up question

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I did outpatient therapy with kids (3-18) through Children's Hospital Behavioral Health. It was my MSW II Field Placement.

And you know, I'm just not terribly interested in being a talk therapist. Maybe with adolescents I would... but I dunno. Outpatient therapy seems way too ritzy for me. I either want to be some Big Gay Schmoozer or I want to be down and dirty in the trenches. I really want to be a Social Worker in the old school sense of the word, and not just use social work school as a way to be a therapist without writing a dissertation.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

If you're talking about a single, solitary event, that would be pretty difficult for me. I don't know if I could find one single event that had a greater effect on me than physical and emotional abuse throughout my childhood.

So if I'm allowed to take some liberties with the question, I would say that the event was growing up a survivor of child abuse. Not only did it frame pretty much everything I did when I was growing it, it has certainly had some pretty far-reaching effects on my adult life. I know that I can trace my anxiety around clutter and messes to that, as well as the need to do everything perfectly, difficulty taking criticism, occasional low self-esteem, problems with trust in intimate relationships, exaggerated startle reflex, aversion to quick movement, and the need to ask Jen if she loves me about every 8 seconds. Among other things. (And I actually consider myself pretty well-adjusted.)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Gosh - lots of them.

I can listen to my Simon & Garfunkel "Old Friends" box set to death, as well as Catie Curtis's "Acoustic Valentine," Fifteen's "Lucky," and Dar Williams's "Mortal City."

Things?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

1. Jennifer
2. Daedalus
3. Ralph
4. digital camera
5. cell phone

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

"I either want to be some Big Gay Schmoozer or I want to be down and dirty in the trenches. I really want to be a Social Worker in the old school sense of the word, and not just use social work school as a way to be a therapist without writing a dissertation."

There is an in-between territory. All of the therapists I work with do some case management, i.e. referrals and advocacy and coordination of services. And all are willing to see clients with SMD, not just the worried well.

I do some talk therapy but I'm down and dirty (sometimes literally, you should smell of my clients) often enough.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I wasn't talking about YOU, silly. I'm talking about the 8709437092 people in our MSW program who talked about how they went to Social Work school because it was "easier than getting a PhD in psychology."

I guess I'm a social work snob. ;)

[jucifer.livejournal.com]

Do you have kids?
If not, do you plan to?
If so, when do you plan on having them?

And if you plan on having them will you adopt or get pregnant?
If one of you gets preg. Who will it be?

LOL!!! I hope those questions aren't too personal(well, yes they are, but I hope you don't mind me asking). I am really into kids babies right now(in case you didn't know).

[jucifer.livejournal.com]

Sorry those questions were WAY TOO personal.
You can just answer "Do you have any kids?"

:)

*hearts* ;)

[estrange.livejournal.com]

When you were little what was your dream in life? Did you or will you make it come true? Why or why not?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

My big dream has always been and is always to raise children. And for your second question, not yet but I certainly hope so!

They're not too personal! :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

1. I have no children currently, but I really REALLY want them. Like, now. I can't wait. My clock has been off the hook for over a year now. I guess the current plan is "whenever we get our shit together" and also "when we can afford it better" and also "when it's feasible to put through an adoption or have Jen get pregnant."

2. We plan on doing both, actually. Jen really wants to have a child of her own, and I have always wanted to adopt. But who knows? Maybe someday I will want to go through all of the fertility crap and try to have a baby myself. (But I doubt it.) Personally, I'd rather go through hell and back to be able to breastfeed more than to physically give birth.

Re: They're not too personal! :)

[jucifer.livejournal.com]

I'd rather go through hell and back to be able to breastfeed more than to physically give birth.

U ROCK!!!!
(How did you come to that conclusion based on how we live in a formula-fed society? )

WOW. That is great! There was a woman on a forum I used to frequent (I think it was "babycenter") she had a wife that gave birth - and they both BF their baby. It can be done.
Good luck with all the baby stuff! :)

Just some information for you:

http://breast-feeding.adoption.com/
http://www.fourfriends.com/abrw/
(two major links)

AND...
http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/NBadoptive.html
http://www.breastfeedingonline.com/23.html
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/adopt/
http://www.kellymom.com/newman/bf_your_adopted_baby_01-03.html
http://www.kellymom.com/newman/lactation_aid_01-03.html
http://www.kellymom.com/newman/domperidone_01-03.html
http://www.asklenore.info/breastfeeding/induced_lactation/gn_protocols.html

Re: They're not too personal! :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ha ha ha, you are too funny. :)

Yeah, I look at some of those sites from time to time, and I know it can be done. I'm usually anti-fake hormones but I would totally do it if it meant I could make milk. (I'm not sure I could, though, my hormones are all kinds of out of whack.) If not, I'm a huge fan of the SNS and can't wait to get a real baby!!

As for your other question: (How did you come to that conclusion based on how we live in a formula-fed society?) It's really just the best answer. I am not as RAWR enough to, like, attack people who use formula or whatever, and I know that sometimes there are legitimate reasons, but I really do think know it's the best thing ever. I work in Early Intervention and I encourage all of my babymamas to breast-feed (and a lot of them do, actually).

Really, I'm just a crazy hippiemama at heart who can't wait to get started!