There's no right or wrong way to grieve. I fall apart when I lose someone close to me...it's embarrassing, actually. It sounds like you're in a situation where you have a lot of business to take care of..maybe the tears will come in time..maybe it will all hit you at the funeral..maybe they won't come at all. All that matters is that you loved him and he, of course, knew that.
We like to keep the memory of dad alive by keeping stories of him/from him alive..he was a bit like the father in Big Fish. It somehow feels more *right* to remember him with laughter than with tears...I wish I would've realized that sooner. See! Shit, I just did it! Everyone does it (thinks that they didn't grieve properly)..there's no handbook. :)
Sorry about your (and your family's) loss. I love the picture you posted of he and Jen dancing. He looks very robust and full of life..lovely snapshot that really catches the essence of him, it seems.
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Date: 2005-06-03 06:56 pm (UTC)We like to keep the memory of dad alive by keeping stories of him/from him alive..he was a bit like the father in Big Fish. It somehow feels more *right* to remember him with laughter than with tears...I wish I would've realized that sooner. See! Shit, I just did it! Everyone does it (thinks that they didn't grieve properly)..there's no handbook. :)
Sorry about your (and your family's) loss.
I love the picture you posted of he and Jen dancing. He looks very robust and full of life..lovely snapshot that really catches the essence of him, it seems.