Friendships definitely evolve. And the friends you have in college are great but the friends you make at different stages in your life will mean different things to you. Sometimes you're in a place where you have a built in social setting (like a certain job or school or whatever). And sometimes you'll stumble onto themost amazing people at a grocery store or trivia night or at a bar.
I've got all kinds of those sorts of friends. And it's okay to look back and not be as close to the college friends as you thought you'd always be because your life changes. All of the friends I KNEW I'd have forever are people I barely speak to anymore. And people I figured would be a peripheral distraction are some of the dearest people I know.
God puts people in our lives when we need them. And sometimes they're there to stay. And sometimes they're not. We wish we could keep the same friends forever, but then again, as people grow and change, it's good that our friends grow and change with us. It's the dynamic nature of the world and our lives.
I'm not sure what my point is, other than that sometimes I get contemplative about the nature of friendships, too. And that the good news is that no one has any sort of friend quota, so you don't have to worry about using yours up if you've had good ones in the past and are feeling a little lonely now. The lonely just means that there's a friend-shaped hole waiting to be filled by someone wonderful. And sometimes it takes a while to find the right fit. You know?
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Date: 2005-11-07 10:13 pm (UTC)I've got all kinds of those sorts of friends. And it's okay to look back and not be as close to the college friends as you thought you'd always be because your life changes. All of the friends I KNEW I'd have forever are people I barely speak to anymore. And people I figured would be a peripheral distraction are some of the dearest people I know.
God puts people in our lives when we need them. And sometimes they're there to stay. And sometimes they're not. We wish we could keep the same friends forever, but then again, as people grow and change, it's good that our friends grow and change with us. It's the dynamic nature of the world and our lives.
I'm not sure what my point is, other than that sometimes I get contemplative about the nature of friendships, too. And that the good news is that no one has any sort of friend quota, so you don't have to worry about using yours up if you've had good ones in the past and are feeling a little lonely now. The lonely just means that there's a friend-shaped hole waiting to be filled by someone wonderful. And sometimes it takes a while to find the right fit. You know?