Calgon, take me away

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So the formal offer came in from Florida and it's pretty much everything Jen wanted. My prediction is that she will be out of Massachusetts in a month's time. Sucks on many levels, but I'm especially dreading finishing all of Dad's house stuff by myself.

She has to make her official decision tomorrow and let them know. If she accepts and goes, there's really no need for me to keep that infertility appointment - I wouldn't want to go through that whole arduous and emotional process alone. I've been waiting so long for this, for the possibility of this, it's just... augh.

Having to afford a second apartment down in Florida would mean there'd be no money for airfare/visits.

So far, 2006's not looking so hot, either.

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Please don't take this like I am mad at you.

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I understand what the quote means, just not why it was sent to me. I agree with you, Lara - to me, a career or a paycheck or whatever isn't worth much. I'm much more content to live here and be broke and be near my family. I don't care if Jen works in retail for the rest of her life. To me, no work opportunity would ever be worth losing my civil rights, moving away from everyone I know, and cutting ties (AGAIN) to people I care about.

So I guess I was a little sad that I was already feeling that way, 100%, and then got a quote from you that pretty much was like, "Hey, this is all a big mistake and I want you to know!" when in reality I feel that it really COULD be a mistake, and not a choice I would have made if it were my situation.

It's not an "if," it's a when. Jen decided and she took the job and she will need to move well before I am in a position to leave New England, for family and responsibility reasons. To me, the money's not worth it, but to her it is. Not much I can do about it but follow along when I'm able. And hey, then we won't be married anymore, so it won't even matter.

Re: Please don't take this like I am mad at you.

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I'm sorry.... it wasn't to make you sad. It was to say I agree with you 100% and you're not alone in feeling like some things are more important than career/money.

I don't think you're mad at me... and maybe I should have sent it to Jen, but I don't know Jen that well and I love you dearly and hate seeing you hurt. I think you deserve and should be with your partner and the woman you love...

I'll be hoping that something really good and surprising comes of this.


Also... I understand that the process to have a baby will not be easy, but I suppose I would/could make the same suggestion to another couple that was using donor sperm and IVF. It's not about you and Jen both being women, it's about the method you are thinking about for your specific situation. Which I suppose is closely linked to you both being women, but I really do think the same situation can and is found in heterosexual couples as well.