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[judecorp]

Well, it looks like our house is going to fall through, three days after I finally stopped waiting for something bad to happen and gave our notice to my job and our landlords.

Now on November 30th, I will probably be homeless, jobless, and pregnant.

Comments

[siercia]

While I understand yo have reason to be concerned that another apartment will look weird, the wort case scenario is that you will find a temporary apartment and stay there while you find your house.

And that assumes you can't go to your boss and your landlord and ask for an extension on both fronts, explaining the situation and apologizing a lot for the inconvenience.

It sucks, but it is not the end of the world.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry but being pregnant is the best most important thing of all! Everything else will fall into place, I know it!! It just turns out this wasn't the right house for you but I know you will find another.

[hope-persists.livejournal.com]

ooooooh i gotta cut a bitch! you point me at them, baby. nobody messes with my plans to get you to the valley!

alright, it's housebuyin' time. you tell me what to do and i'm on it.

[stapynam.livejournal.com]

you will be like one of anitsirk's patients!

seriously, though, houses-falling-through sucks.

[buddhafly4224.livejournal.com]

ugh, i'm sorry.

if you ever need a place to crash, let me know. xoxo.

[00solstice.livejournal.com]

I'm sure your landlords would understand if you needed an extension.... the employer, otoh, would be a little more awkward.

And now for something completely different: the new Nissan Sentra (http://www.nissanusa.com/7days/index.html?Site=N06SENBIQ)! (I think it looks better than the Versa, albeit in a new Civic sort of way)

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

Auugghh. I hope things work out for the best.

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

I know you'll find a way to get through this. I'm still so excited for your baby news, but see how you are overwhelmed too. The hormones do a number on you.

[aminahfiddler.livejournal.com]

Ahhhhhhh

That sucks. But I'm positive things will work out. Having just gone thru some of the same stress I totally understand.

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

At least you won't be barefoot. :)

Really, though I am sad. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that you find someplace else- there's still some time.

[keelamonster.livejournal.com]

Everyone up there has given really good advice. Sit down with your landlord and employer and I'm sure they'll be glad to keep you around for a while. If I were either one, I'd rather keep someone in the spot they're in than find someone new.

Also, pregnant! Squeee! Don't lose that part. You're pregnant, remember?

Also, your hormones are going to suck a lot for a while so be ready for it. And also, I am going to send you a bunch of my baby crap if you need it. Ella's outgrowing it faster than I can figure out what to do with it.

re: barefoot

[etherial.livejournal.com]

I was thinking the same thing.

[phatsin8.livejournal.com]

Jude, November 30th is still over a month away. That is plenty of time to find a new house, the RIGHT house. It sounded like the house that's falling through wasn't exactly the house of your dreams either. Things happen for a reason, just try not to depress/overwhelm yourself. Has anything new come onto the market yet that you're interested in? Also, jobs and houses come and go but babies are forever. Knowing just a little bit of what you and Jenn have gone through to get pregnant, if I were you I would much rather be pregnant and looking for a new job/house then have everything I want EXCEPT for a baby. Anyway, good luck and please don't get too upset. You are in a delicate state now, afterall:)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

There is really no way we could close and move into another house by November 30th. Not at all. This was actually the only house that would close on us before November 30th (on the 20th), and we were making offers 3-4 weeks ago.

While we could ask my landlord if I could stay here longer (and while they might say yes), we have nowhere for Jen to stay in western MA (she is couch surfing right now) for the current time frame as is, let alone for 2-4 weeks more. And do you really think we should be apart for four more first trimester weeks? I mean, honestly.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

While my boss would gladly extend my employment (maybe too gladly), I really don't think now is the best time to be contemplating another month or more away from Jen beyond Thanksgiving. And that's IF we found someone else who would want to lend her a couch for another month, let alone how crappy it is for her to keep couch surfing.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We can't find another in the same time frame, and we need the time frame. Really we have to take this house with all of the crappy demands the sellers are putting on it, or we're screwed.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, seriously go eff up the sellers, because they are jackholes fo real.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's either we agree to their assholishness or we end up spending another 1-2 months apart. Why are they such assholes? That's what I want to know.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Heh, thanks. I'm sure your roommate would love having me and my three cats up in there. ;)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Whether the landlord would let me stay is irrelevent because we don't have a place for Jen to stay for the extended period. So we're basically trapped.

While I appreciate Nissans, it is a little frustrating when I post really emotional topics and there is a reply with car links. I feel a little bit like the fact that we are in a majorly screwed up situation is just a little more important than what the new Sentra looks like. But thanks.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Are you sure you can't figure something else out?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well they have to work out one way or another because we don't have a lot of options. It just sucks that the sellers KNOW we don't have a lot of options.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I honestly think I would be overwhelmed without hormones, but it certainly can't be helping. It doesn't help that I have been having cramps for days and am always worried that this is the beginning of the end.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Basically the only way things are going to work out is if we agree to getting screwed. And that is just so unfair because I would just never do that to anyone.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

There's actually nowhere near enough time to find, bid on, and close on another house by the time a) our time in this apartment runs out and b) Jen runs out of couches to sleep on. She is majorly wearing out her welcome with the couch surfing already and still has another month on our current timeframe.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

The problem is that it's not just about me. Jen doesn't have anywhere to stay, either. (Remember that she is currently living week to week on friends' couches so that she can work 2 hours away, where the house is.) It is going to be hard enough to find a place for her to stay until Nov. 20 (closing date, when she was planning to start sleeping in the empty house) because no one really wants someone on their couch for a month, you know? Let alone that the last thing I want to do is be away from Jen for the entirety of my first tri.

It IS exciting to be pregnant. I actually called my doctor to see if I could go get an updated blood test tomorrow to have some good news in the midst of all of this drama, but apparently you can't do weekend blood draws unless you're bleeding (which I am thankfully not). So I don't get to go check on how things are doing until Monday.

What kind of baby crap are you talking about, Mama? Ella's a rockin' baby.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

xoxo

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We have done nothing but talk about this for days. No one is going to want to close a house in 3 weeks, you know? Especially right before a holiday. So even if we found a house tomorrow, would we be able to make an offer, negotiate an offer, get an inspection, etc. etc. all by Thanksgiving? I sure don't think so, especially since we had to pitch a MAJOR fit to get this one to close early... and that was a whole bunch of weeks ago!

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Is there any way you could rent a place temporarily or something?

[keelamonster.livejournal.com]

what kind of baby crap do you need? I have lots of clothes, of course (boy and girl appropriate), a bouncer, a swing (that'd be hard to send in the mail, though, it's pretty bulky) an exersaucer and then more and more and more clothes. :) Oooh, i may also be able to send you my breast pump. it's awesome and I love it, and I can have all the stuff sterilized at the office autoclave, so there's nothing oogy about it.

I have to ask one ofmy friends who suggested she'd buy it from me before I do anything with it, though. You tell me what you want/need and I can probably find it. Also, if you wind up with a peg perego car seat (the best ever), i have extra bases. :)

[keelamonster.livejournal.com]

Also, I did my first trimester alone, without telling anyone but Laura. I know your situation is different, of course, and as much as it would suck, it is doable. I know you want Jen there every second and it sucks to be away from her, but you are a stronger woman than you give yourself credit for, and I know you can do it.

Also, I know that the world has big plans for you, my dear, and this is just one more stop on the way. But if you want to cry about it, I"ll let you do it on my shoulder some day.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We can't really afford to move twice. Esp since I can't do any moving. :(

[siercia]

Of course it sucks. That doesn't mean you can't do it if you absolutely need to.

But if they're truly screwing you as much as you indicate they are, why not find a temporary apartment? Again, not the best solution, but possibly a better one than getting railroaded into a house that you're going to end up feeling bitter and angsty about when all is said and done.

And if they're not really screwing you in a major way, just with small crap that sucks but isn't the end of the world, take a deep breath, try to focus on the good stuff (Baby! House! Jen with a good job!) and try to let go of the sucky parts of being in a tight situation.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I don't really know that we need a lot of baby crap. Especially so early in... because, well, I'm a pessimist. ;) Or cautious. But as time goes on, we can certainly chat. You might have sold/donated/had a second kid by then! (Kidding about the second kid.)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Did you not even tell Noah? Wow, I could totally never do that. I am the worst secret-keeper ever. For real. I didn't tell for ONE DAY.

I just have no desire to do any of this alone. Not that I can't, but I don't want to. That's kind of why I, you know, got all married and stuff. ;)

[siercia]

if they're truly screwing you as much as you indicate they are

And this should not indicate that I don't think they're screwing you, just that since I don't know what they're doing, I have no ability to judge whether they are or are not.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

There are lots of maybes in the apartment thing, too. Like:
1. Would we have to sign a lease and therefore not be able to buy for a year?
2. Would we be able to afford to move twice, especially when one of us can't lift moving things?
3. Would we find a place that would allow us to have three cats AND be deleaded AND have a short or non-existent lease?
4. Would we be more miserable moving into an apartment, unpacking and packing again, and stressing about moving again or just paying to fix the damned furnace ourselves? Because frankly I know I would be /devastated/ to move into an apartment.
5. Would sitting on the house money instead of putting it into a house be a poor financial decision?

etc. etc.

[siercia]

Life is full of maybes.

Clearly, you've made your decision. I truly hope that it is the one that will make you the happiest in the end.

[00solstice.livejournal.com]

How much would an apartment run out there?

I was just trying to take your mind off the situation. Sorry :-/

[phatsin8.livejournal.com]

Jude, I'm really sorry that my comment upset you. I've never purchased a house in Massachusetts, only Ohio. The main thing I was trying to encourage in my comment was to maybe try not to let yourself get so stressed and keep the positive things in mind. I was trying to be reassuring and I guess I came off as idiotic. I apologize and I am praying for you, Jen, and the baby. Things WILL work out. One way or another they always do.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's okay. I mean, it's not the end of the world. Sometimes I just worry that you don't take me very seriously or something.

As for an apartment, I'm not 100%. It would depend on a bunch of factors. And they'd have to allow 3 cats. (Freaking cats!)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Your comment didn't upset me, I was just trying to answer it. I'm sorry that my answer came across in a mad way. I wasn't mad at all. :)

Also, I don't think you're idiotic. I think people have very good intentions when they're like, "Don't worry! You will find something else!" It's just tough because we've been trying to do this house crap for a while now. ARGH!!

[00solstice.livejournal.com]

Oh, believe me I take you very seriously. My day-to-day life is full of worrying, yet you'd never guess it by reading my journal, which is pretty much car links. I guess that's my coping mechinism; it's my fault for assuming the same would help soothe you.

Three cats, plus the no lead as mentioned below, does make it tricky... but you could always call it two cats and smuggle the third in.

Don't stress out about any financial implications of "sitting on house money"... Unless you're looking to buy and flip in a hot market, it won't matter in the long or short runs.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Look, I just want to get out of here and start the next thing. Maybe that makes me crazy or impatient or whatever, but hey - that's just the way it is.

You could buy me a new car! That would be awesome, and then you could distract yourself!