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Jen always remarks that she can't believe that somehow I manage to keep in touch with EVERYONE. Jen is sort of one of those people who has moved around a lot and then sort of drops ties with the people she knew at one place when she moves on to another place. I am the total opposite. I have moved a lot as well, but I totally hang on to people.

I still talk to people from kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school, college, summer camp, graduate school, and all of the different places I've lived. Jen boggles because I keep friendships with almost all of my exes. I feel like if someone has been significant in my life in some way or another at some point, it was for a reason - so why cut it?

There was one person that was REALLY important to me for a big chunk of my adolescence that I had totally lost track of - my big deal high school boyfriend that bought me a promise ring and all of that stuff. I tried to Google him from time to time with no avail, but a year or more ago I ran into his mom at a restaurant in our hometown and she showed me pictures of his kids and I told her to tell him hello. Apparently he has been seeking me out on the internet as well, but I keep my personal info away. (Good. I'm glad he couldn't find me. Not because I don't like HIM, but because I don't need to be found by clients and weirdos.)

Anyway, he totally sent me "mail" on classmates as a last ditch effort this week and it has been really fun to catch up. This boy who was my best friend from 8th grade through when I left for college is now a grown man with two kids, and his little sister that I used to babysit is 21 years old! Man, I am ANCIENT.

Now I can say that I am in touch with ALL of my significant exes, without having a gap for Muddy Mudskipper. FUN!

(Of course, now is when the, "You're with a WOMAN?!?!?!" questions all pop out, so that will be fun, too.)

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I TOTALLY just had that experience - finally caught up with my 3-year BF from high school (who I had tried to find online on and off for the past 10 years) and we've been sporadically emailing the past couple months. After a few emails, he was like, "so I have to ask, how did you come to be with a woman?" Too funny!!
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It's funny, because I know that he and I talked many times about girls and stuff... but I guess it just goes in one ear and out the other.

It's fun to play the "catch up" game. He is totally filling me in on his family, which is interesting because I spent a TON of time at his house!

I used to be very excellent in keeping in contact. We moved a lot as kids and I always had penpal friends. I was proud to be a good keeper in contacter. But somewhere along the way, I don't even know where, I lost it. I'm even bad at keeping up emailings. I'm sad about it and think about it but I rarely take the time to do something about it.

I think you're awesome for being able to do that!

I have been less good in the last couple of years, which is sad. I used to have a lot of pen pals also, but now I never seem to have time to write letters. And I'm /terrible/ at answering e-mail, although I have been better in the past couple of months at this job. I haven't had a job with a computer at a desk in YEARS.

xo

"I feel like if someone has been significant in my life in some way or another at some point, it was for a reason - so why cut it?"

Yeah, I feel the same way, and try to keep in touch with people. But not nearly as well as you; I'm out of touch with two ex-girlfriends (in addition to the one who died), and don't have contact with anyone from kindergarten through junior high. BUT, I do have one friend whom I've known since about age 4.

If it makes you feel better, I went to a small Catholic elementary school and most of us went up the Catholic school chain through Grade 12, so we all went to high school together for the most part. It makes it a little easier to stay in touch. ;)

I bet it's damned hard to keep in touch with an ex who died.

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