Tenth Topic: Babies

[judecorp]

I have questions... Do you want more babies? Have you thought about a time frame regarding making more babies? Would you carry the next baby?

I want more children. I would love to get working on another right now because I'd love to have kids close in age, but finances and life won't really allow for that.

Jen would like to get pregnant. She was actually supposed to do the pregnant thing last time but it didn't work out that way. She has a bunch of things she wants to do, health-wise, before that happens so I have no idea when that might be. Sadly. Because I am a big planner.

I also want to adopt. Originally I thought we would have one bio-kid (Jen's) and then adopt, but then I got pregnant and Jen still wants a turn, so who knows?

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[hetterrific.livejournal.com]

Do you think you'd feel differently about Jen's "bio-kid" than you feel about your "bio-kid"? As in, do you think you'd feel more critical of things or that you'd feel a different kind of bond with that child? I know parents have different relationships with each of their children, but I guess what I'm asking is that would you feel critical or judgemental of decisions that she made because you did it differently or you would do it differently (like if she chose not to breastfeed, when you obviously tried so hard to). Or because that baby didn't come from your body and August did?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, you honestly never know what is going to happen until it happens. You know? I don't think I would bond less with a baby that Jen birthed, though, because I never planned to birth and have always wanted to adopt, so biology isn't all that important to me from that aspect.

I would definitely be upset if she didn't try to breastfeed, if only because breastmilk is best for babies and I want the best for my babies! She regrets not trying to breastfeed Punk when I couldn't, so I am pretty sure it is important to her as well.

One thing that IS different is birthing. When I was pregnant, Jen was very much pro-natural birth and drug-free everything. And one day in the shower I was thinking about how Jen has such a low pain tolerance and how that would work. So I said, "I know you are pro-natural birth for us but I was thinking about what YOU would do," and she said, "I would totally get an epidural!" That kind of threw me for a loop a bit, but her birth, her choice in the end.