Toughy

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Punkeroo has some sort of... intestinal distress. The combination of teething and flu shot (take away my crunch badge!!) and whatever germs I'm always carrying around from work made it inevitable, I think. But I don't think she's ever had it before. Ick.

Of course, taking her to Friendly's and giving her waffle fries was probably not the smoothest move of the day. She went to bed with a dinner of toast and bananas and tomorrow I think we'll bland it up big time and try to kick this to the curb. Poor thing. She's fine and normal until it sneaks up on her, and she's getting an awful rash because of it and cries when I wipe her. SO SAD.

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A friend of mine is in a tough spot and is terminating a pregnancy. In this circle of friends, it seems like a lot of women have terminated pregnancies. Politically I am so pro-choice it's not even funny, and I would totally do anything at all to support a friend. But gah, it was such an ordeal for me to get pregnant that I can't even fathom getting pregnant by accident. It's all very "that does not compute."

Also I'm personally pro-life. And it's hard for me. I'm not saying it's not hard for my friend, or that it's in some way harder for me (oh hells no), but it stings a little. And leaves me feeling a little like an outsider. So I've been quiet.

But I'm still here loving and supporting, mama.

Comments

[ladygreyy.livejournal.com]

Same here. It's a weird spot to be in, I think.

[childlight.livejournal.com]

I understand. I am also pro choice but after all we went through to get pregnant it gets harder to understand that choice.

[sarahaubry.livejournal.com]

what a tough decision for her. i do not envy being in that position!

[eeka13.livejournal.com]

Flu shot: I'm getting robocalls from my employer reminding me that I need to get a flu shot. Pisses me off. No, there's no actual policy requiring it or anything (or else I'd be writing a "hi, it's against my religion" letter), but the language they're using isn't "letting you know we offer free flu shots in case you want one," but rather "reminding you that you need to get a flu shot." Because my employer somehow thinks it's their place to make my healthcare decisions?

It can be hard to support friends who are going through something you don't quite jive with, yeah. But I think we just have to make peace with having different standards for ourselves than for other people (cuz, like, most things other people do aren't even our business, right?) I think we all have things that we aren't against per se, but also aren't going to jump up and be the go-to support person for. I know I have a few hot buttons that aren't at all about being against something, but that are just triggering for me, so I only can offer minimum support for people dealing with that stuff.

[oneirocritical.livejournal.com]

I am also very pro choice for others, but pro life for myself. It's an interesting position to be in, especially when I'm going to have to move moutains to concieve and carry a child safely...but I do support everyone's individual choice. I also feel like an outside though, so I totally identify with you.

I hope your little one feels better soon.

[laursabeth.livejournal.com]

Poor kiddo.

Rebecca and I were just having a conversation about the second topic this very afternoon. We were discussing election post mortem stuff and noting that perhaps the biggest issue that both of us vote on is abortion rights, though we are both strongly pro-choice, pro-child. I won't go so far as to say I could NEVER have an abortion, though Rebecca does, so she was saying that she should never be the one that a friend should come to for council on whether or not to have one because she just can't get behind them. Though she'll vote to till her death for the right for anyone to have them. It's a tough spot to be in. Good luck with that.

[violane.livejournal.com]

I'm exactly the same way about abortion. Totally pro-choice but personally pro-life. And in my opinion, reproductive freedom goes both ways (I don't want the government deciding that people HAVE to carry babies to term OR that people who can't get pregnant alone can't get help). Anyway, hugs to you and your friend. And hope Punk feels better soon.

[loretta78.livejournal.com]

I can understand too... and kudos for being supportive even though it makes you feel a bit more raw about it all. Not an easy choice for the one making the choice, more difficult to understand from each unique perspective...

[mayna.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I can't really wrap my head around getting an abortion, even though we have no problems making babies.

[(Anonymous)]

It is, after all, possible to be pro-choice AND pro-life. Pro-choice just means you think others are able to choose ... whatever they choose. You know this, of course .. I just hope that you don't feel confused or worse, guilty, because you feel conflicted.

Much love to you and to your friend, and I hope her hard time gets easier.

[skatured.livejournal.com]

I agree, I'm both pro-choice, but I don't know if I would do it for me. It would have to be a very extenuating circumstance.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

I just can't be pro-choice. I do understand why women terminate pregnancies however.

[katishna.livejournal.com]

I am politically pro-choice, insanely against anyone telling a women she can't do what needs to be done in that respect. When I was pregnant (the first trimester) with Laurie, we considered ending it because it was so incredibly hard on me emotionally. But now that she's here I can't imagine giving her up. But I can't force that kind of decision on anyone else, it's not my place.

[goddesswhitty.livejournal.com]

I totally, completely, 100% understand your feelings wrt pregnancy termination. Completely.


Love you. Can't wait until we are, um, mothers in law?