And now, a serious question

[judecorp]

(One I'll likely expound on later.)

What do you do with the boy parts of yourself if the woman you love only likes girls?

Comments

I'll let Ani speak for me....

[kungfoogirl.livejournal.com]

I've clipped most of the song. I'm sure you know the words.

From Little Plastic Castles

As Is

cuz i've got
no illusions about you
and guess what?
i never did
and when i say
when i say i'll take it
i mean,
i mean as is...

...as is...


Personally, I am an all or nothing proposition. I am me. You take it all, or you take nothing. I come without a warranty, exlicit or implied. I am sold AS IS.

I do my best to not change myself for anyone. I have faith that they'll like me no matter what. And if they don't like all of me, then there's not much I can do.

I am just me.

For you: the answer, I wager, is that you just be YOU. It's gotten you this far. It'll take you the rest of the way, I think. I hope. =)

Re: I'll let Ani speak for me....

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It will all work out. Of that, there is no doubt.

Just food for thought on a Friday afternoon.

Re: I'll let Ani speak for me....

[zarabeth.livejournal.com]

Amen.

The product markets itself.

The person I want to "buy" is the person who wants what it is that I am "selling."

There are a few labels I claim, a few stickers on the box. If there is a box. But you are free to disagree.

I will still be me. I *will* be me. Because I believe that is a good person to be.

Become who you are.
You are who you become.

[shellyday.livejournal.com]

do you mean during sex? masturbate maybe? expand your woman's mind. do you like the boy parts?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

When it comes to the body, I'm all girl. It's my head I'm working out.

[shellyday.livejournal.com]

decide which is more important if you can't have it all.

[jeffholton.livejournal.com]

Same thing I do with the woman parts of myself when the woman I love only likes men.

I remind her that they're parts of ME.

Fortunately, she loves ME! =)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

And how could she not? :)

[jeffholton.livejournal.com]

Aww...you're so sweet. :)

[yarnaddict.livejournal.com]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but... she wants you, right? Not 'certain parts of you, that she finds sexually and socially acceptable', but you in your entirety?

'Cause you haven't suddenly developed the boyness of yourself since you met her. It was there before, and she knows it.

*HUGS*
Wolfie

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, she says she doesn't /see/ the boyness. And part of me is like, "Umm, how is that possible?" and the other part is like, "Should I make a big deal out of it?"

Yes, she wants me. Yes, she loves me. Not certain parts. This is all true.

I'm still ruminating.

[yarnaddict.livejournal.com]

The boyness of you is just part of who you are. It's not necessarily something that stands up and hollers 'look at me!'. =) Especially - and pardon me greatly if I offend - especially to another lesbian?

[juliann.livejournal.com]

You are divorced because you had to subsume your you-ness to please him. Show the girl your boy parts. I bet she knows about most of them anyway. Show her all of you and then talk about it.

(remember I am married to the 6+ people in t's head, it's amazing what you can cope with as long as you know it's there)

[yarnaddict.livejournal.com]

...it's amazing what you can cope with as long as you know it's there.

Exactly! I'd tweak it just a tiny bit, to say, it's amazing what you can be perfectly happy with, as long as you know it's there. =)

*HUGS*
-W

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Talking about it is definitely on the agenda. Talking about everything is my M.O. Absolutely. There is no doubt of that.

I'd be lying, though, if I didn't say that the idea of talking about it scares me, because I'm a worrier. Scared to lose.

I don't conceal boy parts, and I don't try to show them specifically. They're just there. They are a part of me. There are parts of me that are all boy, just like there are days when I feel more boy than girl, and not in some kitschy pop-psychology way.

Thanks, Mama. Kiss t for me.

[kieron.livejournal.com]

So since I am responding from my PDA from work-I ofcourse lost the comment I was about to post.

Let me try to put everything down again.

First off, I am assuimingthat since this post was loced but I passed the lock that it is okay for me to respond, sinc emuch of the worry you are expressing concerns me.


Let me just say right off the bat that I love you. I don't see boy parts and girl parts. I see a person I am in love with. I am inlove with YOU.


The only time "parts" concern me is when it becomes physical. I am a product of my nature and I am attracted to women. You are a woman and therefore I can be attracted to you. I *am* so very attracted to you. I am damned lucky that you like me;)


I would like to talk to you about all of this one on one. I would have preferred that you not be worried or scared or whatever, that we could have spoken about it and it not become an issue in a public forum before I could respond to your concerns. I don't mind that it's on here. In fact I am glad that I am compelled to write on here what I feel for you. I just would have liked to have been able to address it when you felt it, not later-not 3 or so hours after you posted it.


So-I am sorry that I was not clear when I said I didn't see the "boy" parts. We may see things differently. We may label it differently. I don't know. I do know, however that I am in love with you. With all of you. I revel in you. I want you to be happy above all else.

I want you to be you.

If I ever do anything, say anything that is in opposition to this, my god please smack me in the head because that is so not what I want.


I count myself lucky indeed to have you in my life at all. You are a wonderful person.

I happen to be desperately in love with the person that you are.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you.


I trust our communication and our honesty.

I trust you.


I need you to tell me if I ever say or do anything that is unclear or whatever. I feel like I have hurt you or diminished a profound aprt of who you are and how you identify yourself and for that I am very sorry.


I hope...that this is clearer and that this issue is something we can talk about without it causing you anxiety.