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I could get used to having a sugar momma. My lovely Diana treated me to dinner at The Melting Pot (everything from wine to cheese fondue to entree fondue to chocolate fondue) and then a movie. If I'm not careful, she might start expecting me to put out. ;)

A. came back to the apartment tonight while I was out. He took the rest of his things that he wanted, but left some of his stuff, presumably stuff he didn't want. I emailed him immediately on return (he returned his key, so I assumed he had no intentions of coming back) to let him know that if he didn't want this stuff, I wasn't going to throw it all away for him, and that he should arrange with me a time to come and clean out the apartment. There is no way in hell I'm going to go through this apartment tossing stuff he doesn't want and cleaning everything out just because he vacuumed his carpet.

At times like this, times when I stick up for myself and put my foot down, I berate myself for being such a bitch. I think it sucks that society teaches girls that they are bitchy if they don't allow themselves to be walked on. I think it sucks that I should be compliant and docile or else I wonder if I'm a bad person. I think it sucks that even though I know better, I still feel guilty. Why /shouldn't/ I expect him to throw out the things he doesn't want? Why is it fair in his mind that he only has to move out the things he wants and I should be burdened with tossing things? I didn't leave all of the things I didn't want in his bedroom - I took them to Carina's yard sale and then to the Goodwill receptacle. Is it wrong of me to expect that if he doesn't want the gifts I or my family has given him, he should dispose of them himself? And then there's the stuff that was always his to begin with - what am I going to do with a He-Man lunchbox full of his old baseball cards?

It's frustrating and maddening. Especially because I still feel like a total bitch.

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ex-iboy367.livejournal.com

Hold up a sec...

I forgot who it was that defined feminism as "the radical notion that women are people." It's a notion I happen to agree with. :)

But, if that's so... doesn't it follow that calling someone (yourself included!) "bitch" encompasses a radical rejection of the notion that women, being people, sometimes get annoyed by the less glamorous vagaries of life? And that, thus, they lash out in a self-protecting and self-reaffirming way?

And yet, there is no similar word for application to the male gender. Asshole? Thanks to Mr. Leary, it has more connotations of thoughtless evildom. Jerk et al. imply mere weakness, either of strength or intellect, or more likely, both.

I had a point to posting all this-- really I did! :) Perhaps a query about why this word is still in our lexicon?

From:

saldemonium.livejournal.com

You mean why we still use the word bitch? Because bitch is not a nasty word. My 8-year-old talks about our bitch, and his nana's bitch all the time. I often refer to my dog as a bitch. I tell her she's a silly bitch, in fact. (Or a stupid bitch, if I’m annoyed.) My son got in trouble for using the word bitch at school, in reference to his nana’s dog, which had just had pups. I was down at the school the next day to make them apologize to him for it. Bitch is not a bad word.

It can be used as such, though. Calling a woman a bitch does have a rather different meaning. However, the word itself is still not at fault.

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clockwerkdragon.livejournal.com

*Dick*
Dick is the male eqv of *bitch*. You call tell a guy he's being a Dick, cause well he's being a dick. It's the same slap, backhand as bitch. There are far worse words to use, that cause far more damage. Personally I'm of the belief words only have power if you let them. I think the militant feminst movement has hurt its cause by battling again "words", as it gives the words power. Most movements in general tend to focus in on the wrong issues, in my opinion. I think women would be better off striving for what's "fair" as opposed to what's "equal". There is no such thing as equal and it's not right to force either side to conform to a pre-pressed mold.

And what to do with all that crap....lug it to your local geek store and hawk it! The lunchbox is probably more valuable then the cards mind you.

Am I a sexist pig?
I hold the door open for everyone.
I don't believe that violence is the right course of action ever.
I believe in buying my date dinner/presents.
I think it's a woman's right to choose what happens within and to her body.
I like porno, the nastier the better.
I think anyone should be able to stay at home with the kids...as long as someone does.
I'll fixate on a woman's breast/legs/ass first, but a beautiful pair of eyes will keep me entraced forever.
I don't believe in mixing sexes in the military, but I do believe women should be allowed to fight.
I believe that it's the job of every man to be able to do the basics of three of the following 4 items: Plumbing, electrical, auto repair, wood working.
I also believe a man should be able to do one of the following two items: Cook, Sew.
I believe that women can be as good (or as crappy) a boss as any man.
I believe that men and woman are different and measuring them on the same scale is wrong.

From:

yarnaddict.livejournal.com

I hold the door open for everyone.
Right on, so do I. =)

I think it's a woman's right to choose what happens within and to her body.
Yup.

I'll fixate on a woman's breast/legs/ass first, but a beautiful pair of eyes will keep me entraced forever.
I'm an eyes person, too, for both men and women.

I don't believe in mixing sexes in the military, but I do believe women should be allowed to fight.
That's an interesting solution, that I think I might have to agree with.

I believe that it's the job of every man to be able to do the basics of three of the following 4 items: Plumbing, electrical, auto repair, wood working.
I think women should know these things too. =) Now, I /don't/, not
really, but my dad is the original handyman, and when I need help
getting something installed/fixed/etc. around the house, if he helps,
he shows me how to do it.

I believe that men and woman are different and measuring them on the same scale is wrong.
ABSOLUTELY!

I don't want equality with men. I want equivalence. I want to be judged fairly. I don't want to be expected to do the same things a man does - and a man shouldn't be expected to do the same things I do. He can't have babies, I can't pee standing up (without making a mess). But I should never be told that I can't do something because I'm a woman, if that something has nothing to do with the physical aspects of being female. Sure, there are things that a man is going to be able to do more easily than me, simply because of physical differences. That works both ways. The sexes are not equal. But.

But.

Neither is one better than the other. Different does NOT mean less than.

From:

clockwerkdragon.livejournal.com

To true, however we are taught being different must mean being superior in some way. I don't agree with that statement, but I see how easy it is to break things down that way. It's all about the ego after all.

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