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judecorpI find it somewhat amusing and somewhat scary that I have received several holiday cards so far addressed to both me and Jennifer. One was addressed solely to me but had both of our names on the inside. I'm not sure what this means, exactly.
Perhaps some people wanted to send her a card too but didn't know her address? Or perhaps we're already being seen as a serious couple. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to imply that there's nothing serious about the relationship we share... I'm simply boggling a little bit. And getting a little antsy.
When we were both talking about relocating to Boston this year, a few people assumed (erroneously) that we were going to get a place together. Instead, we broke up and I decided to stay here. She was still going to move to Boston, but thought differently and ended up here. I'm thrilled by this. But we're not living together. We're not even talking about living together, except in that if-I-talk-future-will-it-freak-you-out kind of way. I like having my own space, and I like her having her own space.
At the same time, it's kind of nice to see our names in print together. I talk all the time about the lack of validation, on a large scale, of same-sex relationships. Little bits of small-scale validation are certainly appreciated, even when they /do/ freak me out a little bit. It's because I'm weird, I know. I get freaked out when we spend a weekend together doing various chores (laundry, food shopping, etc.). I get freaked out when our money intermingles too much. I get freaked out when she does a little chore around my house for me. (Oddly, I don't get freaked out when I do that for her.) What's my damage?
Thinking about those envelopes makes me smile, though. Maybe someday.
Perhaps some people wanted to send her a card too but didn't know her address? Or perhaps we're already being seen as a serious couple. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to imply that there's nothing serious about the relationship we share... I'm simply boggling a little bit. And getting a little antsy.
When we were both talking about relocating to Boston this year, a few people assumed (erroneously) that we were going to get a place together. Instead, we broke up and I decided to stay here. She was still going to move to Boston, but thought differently and ended up here. I'm thrilled by this. But we're not living together. We're not even talking about living together, except in that if-I-talk-future-will-it-freak-you-out kind of way. I like having my own space, and I like her having her own space.
At the same time, it's kind of nice to see our names in print together. I talk all the time about the lack of validation, on a large scale, of same-sex relationships. Little bits of small-scale validation are certainly appreciated, even when they /do/ freak me out a little bit. It's because I'm weird, I know. I get freaked out when we spend a weekend together doing various chores (laundry, food shopping, etc.). I get freaked out when our money intermingles too much. I get freaked out when she does a little chore around my house for me. (Oddly, I don't get freaked out when I do that for her.) What's my damage?
Thinking about those envelopes makes me smile, though. Maybe someday.
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Date: 2002-12-11 07:42 pm (UTC)Man, us therapists. ;)
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Date: 2002-12-12 06:25 am (UTC)You rock. Good luck with the new job crap.
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Date: 2002-12-12 08:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 01:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-11 07:47 pm (UTC)no subject
(She's worth 37 cents. Maybe even 38!)
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Date: 2002-12-12 06:39 am (UTC)You're worth 37c to me though, i'm sending you a card with just your name on it, you don't have to share. :-)
Awwwh, you say the sweetest things!
Date: 2002-12-12 06:44 am (UTC)I bet you're right, though. I bet I'm only worth 18.5c. Woe is me!
Re: Awwwh, you say the sweetest things!
Date: 2002-12-12 06:48 am (UTC)Re: Awwwh, you say the sweetest things!
Date: 2002-12-12 07:54 am (UTC)Cards
Date: 2002-12-12 06:46 am (UTC)But while we're on the subject of combo cards. It also bugs me when people send cards to me and Shani jointly. I love my roommate dearly and we're very close, but we're not a couple or some type of permanent unit. I know it's mostly just convenient to send one card per household, but it bugs me. /vent off.
I can't wait to see you!! Only a little over a week!
Re: Cards
MWAH
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Date: 2002-12-12 02:56 pm (UTC)Re: Cards
Date: 2002-12-12 08:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 12:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 01:48 pm (UTC)Kidding. To whomever you'd like.
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Date: 2002-12-12 01:50 pm (UTC)Score!
Date: 2002-12-12 01:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 01:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 01:50 pm (UTC)I mean, when I was dating other people, it's not like I got all these combo cards. Not until we moved in together, you know? When we were one household and were engaged or whatever.
Maybe it's because I'm OLD and automatically assumed to be settling down.
When are we getting together, eh?
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Date: 2002-12-12 01:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 02:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-12 01:59 pm (UTC)I dunno, I've seen it happen with some couples within a matter of weeks.
Maybe it's because I'm OLD and automatically assumed to be settling down.
Yeah, I mean, we're almost 30, if we haven't found The One(TM) by now we might as well start stockpiling the cats right now....
When are we getting together, eh?
Tomorrow?
Or do you mean, "together" together? ;)
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Date: 2002-12-12 02:07 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2002-12-12 08:23 pm (UTC)Dude, I'm not that kind of lesbian!
we might as well start stockpiling the cats right now....
SEE ANSWER ABOVE!!!
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Date: 2002-12-13 01:46 pm (UTC)Dude, I'm not that kind of lesbian!
Have you heard these jokes?
Q: What do lesbians bring on a second date?
A: The moving truck.
Q: What do gay men bring on a second date?
A: Second date??
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Date: 2002-12-13 01:51 pm (UTC)That's funny!
(Incidentally, when I flew to NJ to help Jen drive her moving truck out here, I called it "Operation Second Date.")
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Date: 2002-12-13 08:23 am (UTC)That is all.
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Date: 2002-12-13 09:18 am (UTC)But my Mommy is planning to send her a card, so... :)
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Date: 2002-12-13 10:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-14 10:29 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-12-13 11:10 am (UTC)1) I did not know Jen's address
2) I am too lazy to find it
3) I kinda did want to validate your relationship.
I am the validator. I will get you free parking.
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Date: 2002-12-13 01:07 pm (UTC)I can park on my street for FREE. I don't need you and your 10,000 nickels.
Re: Validation
Date: 2002-12-15 06:01 am (UTC)Re: Validation
Date: 2002-12-15 10:26 am (UTC)