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judecorpThat was one of those times when I wish I hadn't answered the phone. I had Date Night with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
whod81 tonight. We went to Buca di Beep BeepTM and then walked home. Lately it seems like he can't get home fast enough, and tonight was no exception. I don't usually care, because he usually has something lined up after me. So tonight after walking home, he left. I tooled around on the 'net and then walked up the block.
Later, when I was at Coffee Table with Jen and Missy Goodtimes, I got a phone call from Ryan. At first I was really confused because he was like, "Hi, it's Ryan," and he never introduces himself to me on the phone because I have Caller ID. So then he said something like, "Hey, what's up, I'm at home and I'm totally bored and I said to myself, 'I know I'm not supposed to call Katie, but I'm really bored.'" And I said, "Ryan, this isn't Katie." And he was like, "Who is this?" and I said, "Jude." And then you could tell he was caught off-guard a little, so he was like, "Oh, I must have dialed the wrong number." And I said, "Yeah, guess so. Sorry you're bored, you could have stuck around and stuff," and he said, and this is why I shouldn't have answered the phone, "Eh, I was pretty bored before, too." I didn't know what to say, so I mumbled something like, "Oh, sorry to hear it." And then he said something like, "Oh, that was bad," and "I gotta go" blah blah blah.
You know, today in my Anger Seminar it reinforced how one way to keep stress (and anger) down is to not take everything that happens personally, as if other people are doing things just to bother /you/. But for the life of me I can't think of another way to take that.
I think I need a break from Date Night.
whod81 tonight. We went to Buca di Beep BeepTM and then walked home. Lately it seems like he can't get home fast enough, and tonight was no exception. I don't usually care, because he usually has something lined up after me. So tonight after walking home, he left. I tooled around on the 'net and then walked up the block.Later, when I was at Coffee Table with Jen and Missy Goodtimes, I got a phone call from Ryan. At first I was really confused because he was like, "Hi, it's Ryan," and he never introduces himself to me on the phone because I have Caller ID. So then he said something like, "Hey, what's up, I'm at home and I'm totally bored and I said to myself, 'I know I'm not supposed to call Katie, but I'm really bored.'" And I said, "Ryan, this isn't Katie." And he was like, "Who is this?" and I said, "Jude." And then you could tell he was caught off-guard a little, so he was like, "Oh, I must have dialed the wrong number." And I said, "Yeah, guess so. Sorry you're bored, you could have stuck around and stuff," and he said, and this is why I shouldn't have answered the phone, "Eh, I was pretty bored before, too." I didn't know what to say, so I mumbled something like, "Oh, sorry to hear it." And then he said something like, "Oh, that was bad," and "I gotta go" blah blah blah.
You know, today in my Anger Seminar it reinforced how one way to keep stress (and anger) down is to not take everything that happens personally, as if other people are doing things just to bother /you/. But for the life of me I can't think of another way to take that.
I think I need a break from Date Night.
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Date: 2003-04-10 08:31 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2003-04-10 08:35 pm (UTC)I'm calling you right now because I love you!
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Date: 2003-04-10 08:43 pm (UTC)Thanks for calling me, even if you called me an asshole. ;)
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I really don't have anything to add, either. :P
You Anger seminar sounds like something I should look into. :)
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Date: 2003-04-11 05:19 am (UTC)I went to the seminar with two of my coworkers looking for tips and strategies for dealing with angry clients - ways to diffuse situations, ways to interact with angry people, etc. I really don't feel like I got anything like that out of it at all.
It seemed to me, instead, to be a seminar on how to help the clinician control his/her anger when working with/dealing with others. Or, at least, maybe that's how I saw it and I'm in outer space somewhere.
Overall, it wasn't that effective a training for me in my /work/, but I kept mental notes of some things that I'd like to remember in my relationships. Things like: We judge ourselves based on our intentions, but judge others based on their behaviors.
Interesting stuff.
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I hate that icky feeling in your stomach when something like this happens...I get it even when I've read/heard it happen to someone else.
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Date: 2003-04-11 10:57 am (UTC)Not really.
-Carina
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Date: 2003-04-11 12:50 pm (UTC)hooray for dk!
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Date: 2003-04-11 07:19 pm (UTC)YAY!
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Date: 2003-04-11 03:16 pm (UTC)Re: ryan's a butt
In my opinion, Ryan is not this shitty person you are describing.
(I'm not trying to argue, just trying to say a few good things about someone I like...who is not on here to defend himself...I know what that's like, because I've been having it happen to me.)
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Date: 2003-04-11 08:23 pm (UTC)Re: ryan's a butt
Do I know you? Don't you have someplace else to spew your venom than in the journal of a stranger?
And that person you're trashing? He's one of my best friends.
He probably spent your whole date thinking about how to pull her away from her fiance and dump her again.
Well, aren't you just a ray of sunshine?
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Date: 2003-04-12 10:20 am (UTC)You know, that's totally adorable.
*patpat* To delete a comment, you click on the 'X'.
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Date: 2003-04-11 02:41 pm (UTC)For the record, I can't imagine being bored having dinner with you. I promise to come visit when student teaching is over!
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Date: 2003-04-11 07:19 pm (UTC)