A quack who's gone to the dogs.
May. 22nd, 2003 03:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
judecorpI left work early. I couldn't talk at all. I was actually going to stay at work, but my boss told me to go home. How often does that happen? Hee. So here I am. I think I'll start watching movies now. Maybe I'll have a milkshake for dinner. That's what I had for lunch.
Last night, Jen and I watched Agnes of God. What a totally bizarro movie. (Jane Fonda is so frightening!) Did I ever tell you guys that when I was a young kid, I wanted to be a nun? You heard it here first. It wasn't until a few years ago that I heard the rumor that most nuns were lesbians. I sure didn't think about it when I was at Our Lady Queen of Martyrs School. But come to think of it, most of the nuns were pretty butch. I wonder if they had "improper friendships."
Yes, so we're moving in together. This is pretty huge for me. After all, I've only ever lived with one person (in that relationship sense, I've had other roommates), and we were married. And we all know how that turned out. We actually started talking about moving in together a little while ago, and I was all for it. And then I freaked out and backed out of it. And then I backed back in. She's very understanding. Especially when I say totally whacked out things like, "But if we move in together, where will I put my DUCKS?"
But I'm excited about it. And yes, I'm still scared, but not in a paralyzing way. And while I feel that moving in together is an enormous step (especially since, legally, we really can't do much more than that unless we buy a house, and even then, we're still technically just two people who bought a house together), it's a step I think is right, and at the right time. By the time her lease runs out, it will almost have been two years. (Where did the time go?) I can't imagine another person better suited to my craziness, who takes it with such gusto. <3
So I'm guessing the current plan is to find the place so I can move in when my lease ends on 31 July... and then we'll dump her apartment when her lease ends on 31 October. I hope I can swing the additional rent for those few months, and still find some mad money to do some summer travelling.
That reminds me: I was invited to a wedding in Baltimore on 21 June. It's a 6.5 hour drive according to MapQuest. Or we could fly for $140 each. The questions are: Do we want to go? And if we do, do we want to drive or fly? The wedding is at 6pm on Saturday, so it's totally feasible to do the drive, it's just a lot of driving. We're already driving to NJ after Carina's wedding so Jen can say goodbye to her childhood home.
I'm babbling. Time to watch a movie.
Last night, Jen and I watched Agnes of God. What a totally bizarro movie. (Jane Fonda is so frightening!) Did I ever tell you guys that when I was a young kid, I wanted to be a nun? You heard it here first. It wasn't until a few years ago that I heard the rumor that most nuns were lesbians. I sure didn't think about it when I was at Our Lady Queen of Martyrs School. But come to think of it, most of the nuns were pretty butch. I wonder if they had "improper friendships."
Yes, so we're moving in together. This is pretty huge for me. After all, I've only ever lived with one person (in that relationship sense, I've had other roommates), and we were married. And we all know how that turned out. We actually started talking about moving in together a little while ago, and I was all for it. And then I freaked out and backed out of it. And then I backed back in. She's very understanding. Especially when I say totally whacked out things like, "But if we move in together, where will I put my DUCKS?"
But I'm excited about it. And yes, I'm still scared, but not in a paralyzing way. And while I feel that moving in together is an enormous step (especially since, legally, we really can't do much more than that unless we buy a house, and even then, we're still technically just two people who bought a house together), it's a step I think is right, and at the right time. By the time her lease runs out, it will almost have been two years. (Where did the time go?) I can't imagine another person better suited to my craziness, who takes it with such gusto. <3
So I'm guessing the current plan is to find the place so I can move in when my lease ends on 31 July... and then we'll dump her apartment when her lease ends on 31 October. I hope I can swing the additional rent for those few months, and still find some mad money to do some summer travelling.
That reminds me: I was invited to a wedding in Baltimore on 21 June. It's a 6.5 hour drive according to MapQuest. Or we could fly for $140 each. The questions are: Do we want to go? And if we do, do we want to drive or fly? The wedding is at 6pm on Saturday, so it's totally feasible to do the drive, it's just a lot of driving. We're already driving to NJ after Carina's wedding so Jen can say goodbye to her childhood home.
I'm babbling. Time to watch a movie.
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Date: 2003-05-22 12:36 pm (UTC)I laughed when you said you wanted to be a nun... something about that just seems so wrong. :-P
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Date: 2003-05-22 05:44 pm (UTC)Still not liking the "anonymous" title...
Date: 2003-05-22 12:43 pm (UTC)Um, duckies? Dude...you *SO* have to visit, and so do I.
And, formally, officially, CONGRATS!! Moving can be a beyatch, nevermind moving in with someone you're close to. Best of luck to you...
...got your letter last night; made me smile...AND MELIS FREAKIN' LOVES THE CRAYON!!!!!
-That Guy
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Date: 2003-05-22 02:33 pm (UTC)Re: off-topic:
Date: 2003-05-22 02:57 pm (UTC)Date Night actually started over a year ago, when I was working at OSU and Ryan and I would go to lunch every week. When he would ask me, "Are we going to lunch?" I would ask, "Is it a date?" and eventually it was our standing date. When I left my OSU job, the lunch date became Date Night. Then one day, Sean said he wanted a Date Night, too. Hence, Secret Date Night. (We didn't want Ryan to think I was cheating on him!)
Basically, I'm really bad at making plans with people. I have the best intentions (like Ladyfest), but I fall through on things a lot. Having a set schedule (Sean on Tuesday, Jen on Wednesday, Ryan on Thursday, weekends are flexible) means that I get to see people without scheduling. I'm really bad at, "Hey, we should get together this weekend!"
Friends are important to me. And it's important to me that I continue to be /me/, and not just a person in a relationship. I spend more time with Jen than with anyone else because, well, I love spending time with her. But sometimes it's nice to go grab dinner with the boys, or go bike riding with someone, or sit on the couch and watch teen angst with Brandie. In my last serious relationship, I didn't keep tabs with a lot of people and I didn't bother to make new friends because my then-SO was really antisocial. I regretted every minute of that, and I won't do it again.
I still worry about the effects my relationship will have on my friendships. One of the things that held me back from moving in together was, "Will people still want to come over and hang out with me, or will I only be seen as a couple?" Hopefully, my worries are unfounded.
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Date: 2003-05-22 04:24 pm (UTC)Re: off-topic:
Date: 2003-05-22 05:44 pm (UTC)One of the comforts of a relationship, for me, is the "insta-date." You know, that you always have someone to, like, go to the laundromat with.
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Date: 2003-05-22 06:25 pm (UTC)Re: off-topic:
Date: 2003-05-23 07:29 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-05-22 03:33 pm (UTC)I'm moving in 2 weeks! I need some hot Jude lovin' before I go. Let me crash a date night?
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Date: 2003-05-22 04:17 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2003-05-22 05:50 pm (UTC)AHEM
Date: 2003-05-22 07:02 pm (UTC)Re: AHEM
Date: 2003-05-23 07:30 pm (UTC)Re: AHEM
Date: 2003-05-23 07:54 pm (UTC)Re: AHEM
Date: 2003-05-23 07:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-05-28 07:23 am (UTC)Thank you so much for coming to my wedding! YOU ARE WONDERFUL! I hope the trip to NJ was ok, and I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND JENN! CONGRATS!
meep bleep to both of you.
-crena
aka upsoclose (http://www.livejournal.com/users/upsoclose)