Overreacting

[judecorp]

I find it very interesting that I complained to the therapist that I have a tendency to overreact about things, but then couldn't think of any examples when she asked me. (I wonder if that's because after I overreact about something, I promptly forget it.) I tried explaining to her about my bad day on Sunday, but I'm not sure that was really overreacting because it really was a horrible day. So I ended up with no examples. That's funny, because of course I had classic overreacting all over the place this morning. Of course!

So the alarm went off and Jen got up because it was her turn. When she got out of the shower I guess I must have been in a bad mood because I commented that she took a long time in the shower, even though she always takes a long time in the shower. So then I got all worked up about something she said, because I get really worried when she says she's tired all the time. (I've noticed that I'm hypersensitive about her health complaints, always have been but moreso after Jennifer Palmer's diagnosis and death.) So yeah, I'm crabby and go into the bathroom and see that she's put her new prescription bottle in the medicine cabinet next to the old (empty) prescription bottle. Somehow I make this a Big Enough Deal to actually spend time thinking about it, and I throw it out, but I .do. manage to lessen the deal so that I don't bring it up when I get out of the shower.

But then I get out of the shower and she is putting some of our financial information into a spreadsheet and at /this/ point I really start making a Big Deal Out of Nothing. I decide that this is an affront to me because I have been trying to get us to sit down and do exactly this for about two weeks, and now she has started to do it while I'm in the shower. So I make a stink about it, all the while mentally berating myself for making a stink.

Yeah, my name is Jude and you do not want to be in a relationship with me because I am totally neurotic. :)

Comments

[wendywoowho.livejournal.com]

you do not want to be in a relationship with me because I am totally neurotic

No, we don't want to be in relationships with you because it would make Jen Very Unhappy With Us.

And we like Happy Jens.

[jennbits.livejournal.com]

i'm going to have to agree with that.

also, you're female. somehow by law, females are allowed to have extensive neuroses damnit. WE ARE!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

somehow by law, females are allowed to have extensive neuroses damnit.

HA!

[kieron.livejournal.com]

I absolutely agree with you.

I would also be unhappy if no one was in a relationship with my Jude...that no one including me....blah....

[wendywoowho.livejournal.com]

Didn't I mention that we want HAPPY JENs????

No "blah," now!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh yes. We certainly would not want Unhappy Jens. Or Unhappy Nicks.

[phatsin8.livejournal.com]

Hey Jude, I'm hoping this will make you smile. Yesterday, in my relaxation class, we were doing a guided imagery exercise where we were on the beach. At one point, my prof said to put as many or as few people on the beach with you as you wanted. I thought for a second about putting a family on the beach but I thought that might make me sad about Cory so instead I put you and Jennifer on the beach with me. Obviously you and she are a couple but it just made me happier visualizing the two of you down the beach from me building a sandcastle together. Just thought you might like to know that you were part of my happy thoughts yesterday:)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Crystal, you are so damned sweet I want to put you in my coffee! Seriously, that's a really nice thing to say. Thank you. I really appreciate it.

I don't want any sad Crystals! So that means we have to all go to the beach!

[sunshyne72.livejournal.com]

Just want to say, you are SOOO not alone!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's GOTTA be the weather!

[transientdyke.livejournal.com]

I have a terrible time thinking of examples of my issues when I'm sitting in a chair across from my therapist; and, of course, as soon as I leave I remember 10 different things I wanted to talk about.

Try getting a journal (a cheap one, so you don't feel bad writing and crossing out and destroying it, if need be) and get in the habit of jotting down things when they happen/when you think about them.

You don't have to use it like a traditional journal - like LJ, for example - but just for quick notes that will remind you how you felt at that point. Then bring it with you when you go see your therapist.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

That's a really good idea... or at least keep some sort of list of things to say. Especially because I think finances are going to dictate going biweekly instead of weekly.

At the same time, I think it's a /good/ thing I couldn't think of things all that quickly, because in some ways that shows that I might be all weird about stuff sometimes, but I get over it and never think about it again, you know? But I should definitely keep a list of the recurring things.

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[transientdyke.livejournal.com]

I think everyone is different on the things they blank on.

For me, I blank out really important/painful things. I can't remember what the huge HUGE fight I had with Leslie was about. I could barely tell you what we said or why it began, all I remember now is that it was one of the most awful moments on my life. I do that with other things as well - blank out on stressful moments in order to pretend they never happened. So for me, a journal works well.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's an excellent strategy.

My mind is currently talking me out of going to therapy. It's currently using the "you can't afford it" tactic - very effective.

[rizzo41.livejournal.com]

Maybe you should print up your journal entries to remind you. You put up lots of examples of things here (or at least things that might jog your memory). Take them with you. Even if you don't want to show her, but just to have with you.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Good idea. I can at least copy/paste things from my journal. (I don't want her to know what kind of nerdy nerd nerd I am, after all.)

[obviouspseudo.livejournal.com]

Hey! Some of us nerds actually LIKE being nerds. I'm not only a nerd, I'm a geek.

You know, I think it's partially the weather. Get your very missed butts out here to California and just forget snow & ice ever existed. I'll sulk if you don't, and you know how awful I am when I sulk. Besides, you need to meet the fiance.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, you know, if you know some nerds and/or geeks who want to pay for our relocation, I'll use the saved relocation money as start-up money and we'll move right now. =P

I want to meet this Mr. Wonderful.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

p.s. Are you home sick? Are you okay? :(

[rizzo41.livejournal.com]

I've been feeling better the past few days. So I didn't want to jeopardize that by standing around outside waiting for the bus and then trudging 10 minutes from the subway to work in the middle of an icy, freezing ass blizzard. I looked out the window and felt my lungs shrivel in fear. So I used my last emergency day and took the day off. Not even out of January and I'm already out of days. *sob* Of course, the sun was out by 10:00 AM...

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ugh. I'm sorry about the emergency days. Your job should suck a big fat one.

[folkyboy.livejournal.com]

haha at least you recognize what you are doing now. it's a lot easier to fix a situation when you know what you are doing. i told you those finances would be the death of you, though ;)

just kidding, of course

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[judecorp.livejournal.com]

HA HA HA, you are so right! :)

*beats you up*