All-Purpose Update of the Generic Variety
Mar. 31st, 2004 04:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
judecorpI guess it's time for a little update of sorts.
It's the end of the month and today I saw the two kids I haven't been able to see. That means all of my kids were seen this month, which means that all of my kids have been seen every month (I think), which means that I rock. Also, when I was seeing those last two kids, I got Dad to sign a Closing Amendment so I can close their case. I got back to work and did all of the freaking closing paperwork today, which makes three cases I've closed this month (for a total of 8 kids).
But today was Coworker Sarah's last day, and she already left. :(
I went to court this afternoon and managed tocon prove to the magistrate that Children's Services did not need court orders on this family. (Mom hates me and won't even say hello to me, so having orders would have been a nightmare.) As long as their Open Case Investigation comes back Unsubstantiated, I can close them like Mom wants. (She is refusing services.) I go to court tomorrow morning, too, and that case should close no problem. So I will have Mom sign the Closing Amendment right there at court, and do the paperwork when I get back to the office. Cha-ching, another case closed!
(Rumor has it that my agency gets about $2500 from Children's Services when we close a case. So that's $10,000 just from me. SO WHERE'S MY EFFING MILEAGE CHECKS??!?!)
~//~
On the Boston front, I got two -- TWO!! -- phone calls from jobs today. One of them is from a job I sent a resume to /last night/. The second call is from a job I think I actually want /and/ the lady did a little pre-screen on the phone /and/ she decided she was interested in me /and/ she wants me to come in for a formal interview when we're in town for![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
lorac's wedding. Suh-weet.
That particular job is kind like what you would get if you took the job I have now, took out all of the sucky child protection parts (like the removing kids and placing them in foster care) and replaced them with actual clinical therapy parts. The agency is based out of Newton (I believe) and only covers Newton, Needham, and Weston. The agency seems financially stable and has really great benefits, including same-sex domestic partner benefits. (Of course, this won't matter if we can actually get LEGALLY FREAKING MARRIED!) The woman I spoke to was incredibly nice and seemed to like me. So now I'm going to look at their website again so I can call her back in a week and a half or so, ask her some questions, and remind her that I exist and she wants me. Or something.
Jen is starting to seriously job-search, and it all makes me feel like this is very real. I like that we're both working so hard to take care of everything, because it shows how committed we are to this, and how we want to be equal partners. We've been working hard to save money, to sell off unnecessary things, to look for work, and to plan. She's an amazing person that I have a lot of respect for, and I admire her work ethic. I'm glad we're on the same team.
~//~
Our relationship has been very rocky as of late, likely related to the amount of stress we're currently under. We've been getting snappy about things that shouldn't be as big as we're making them, and we've been turning little discussions into big, emotional arguments. I think we're both just a little frayed around the edges lately, and it's so frustrating. I know in my head and my heart that our relationship is good and solid and strong, and yet we disagree on something and I fall apart. I'll just keep blaming stress.
I was commenting toelspazz0 about how I can relate to her frustration (What happened? We used to be so happy and in love!). I've noticed that our relationship has been strained for the past four months or so, and I know that Jen and I have had several conversations where I have confessed that I am afraid because we do not seem to be connecting as well as we used to, to have as much fun as we used to, or to be as crazy about each other as we used to. And then I realized that in the last four months, things have become /a lot/ more serious for us as a couple.
In the past four months, Jennifer and I have: combined finances, combined insurance policies, combined cell-phone and internet plans, planned a significant life-changing move, created a timeline for starting a family, discussed legal marriage, and put aside our extended families to celebrate Christmas as our own family. That's HUGE! I'm practically kicking myself... no /wonder/ we've been feeling less "fun and crazy" lately, when we've been doing so much /work/ on some of the more tedious aspects of any relationship.
Now that the legwork is out of the way, I think we can start learning how to be fun, spontaneous, crazy, and in love again in this new stage of our relationship. I'm sure we will have similar adjustments when we have a child, and to a lesser degree when we move. It may sound like I'm over-analyzing, but it really helps me to think about things practically - maybe it will keep me from having another freak-out in the near future.
~//~
So today, things are good all around. Thank goodness.
It's the end of the month and today I saw the two kids I haven't been able to see. That means all of my kids were seen this month, which means that all of my kids have been seen every month (I think), which means that I rock. Also, when I was seeing those last two kids, I got Dad to sign a Closing Amendment so I can close their case. I got back to work and did all of the freaking closing paperwork today, which makes three cases I've closed this month (for a total of 8 kids).
But today was Coworker Sarah's last day, and she already left. :(
I went to court this afternoon and managed to
(Rumor has it that my agency gets about $2500 from Children's Services when we close a case. So that's $10,000 just from me. SO WHERE'S MY EFFING MILEAGE CHECKS??!?!)
~//~
On the Boston front, I got two -- TWO!! -- phone calls from jobs today. One of them is from a job I sent a resume to /last night/. The second call is from a job I think I actually want /and/ the lady did a little pre-screen on the phone /and/ she decided she was interested in me /and/ she wants me to come in for a formal interview when we're in town for
lorac's wedding. Suh-weet.That particular job is kind like what you would get if you took the job I have now, took out all of the sucky child protection parts (like the removing kids and placing them in foster care) and replaced them with actual clinical therapy parts. The agency is based out of Newton (I believe) and only covers Newton, Needham, and Weston. The agency seems financially stable and has really great benefits, including same-sex domestic partner benefits. (Of course, this won't matter if we can actually get LEGALLY FREAKING MARRIED!) The woman I spoke to was incredibly nice and seemed to like me. So now I'm going to look at their website again so I can call her back in a week and a half or so, ask her some questions, and remind her that I exist and she wants me. Or something.
Jen is starting to seriously job-search, and it all makes me feel like this is very real. I like that we're both working so hard to take care of everything, because it shows how committed we are to this, and how we want to be equal partners. We've been working hard to save money, to sell off unnecessary things, to look for work, and to plan. She's an amazing person that I have a lot of respect for, and I admire her work ethic. I'm glad we're on the same team.
~//~
Our relationship has been very rocky as of late, likely related to the amount of stress we're currently under. We've been getting snappy about things that shouldn't be as big as we're making them, and we've been turning little discussions into big, emotional arguments. I think we're both just a little frayed around the edges lately, and it's so frustrating. I know in my head and my heart that our relationship is good and solid and strong, and yet we disagree on something and I fall apart. I'll just keep blaming stress.
I was commenting to
elspazz0 about how I can relate to her frustration (What happened? We used to be so happy and in love!). I've noticed that our relationship has been strained for the past four months or so, and I know that Jen and I have had several conversations where I have confessed that I am afraid because we do not seem to be connecting as well as we used to, to have as much fun as we used to, or to be as crazy about each other as we used to. And then I realized that in the last four months, things have become /a lot/ more serious for us as a couple.In the past four months, Jennifer and I have: combined finances, combined insurance policies, combined cell-phone and internet plans, planned a significant life-changing move, created a timeline for starting a family, discussed legal marriage, and put aside our extended families to celebrate Christmas as our own family. That's HUGE! I'm practically kicking myself... no /wonder/ we've been feeling less "fun and crazy" lately, when we've been doing so much /work/ on some of the more tedious aspects of any relationship.
Now that the legwork is out of the way, I think we can start learning how to be fun, spontaneous, crazy, and in love again in this new stage of our relationship. I'm sure we will have similar adjustments when we have a child, and to a lesser degree when we move. It may sound like I'm over-analyzing, but it really helps me to think about things practically - maybe it will keep me from having another freak-out in the near future.
~//~
So today, things are good all around. Thank goodness.
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perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-03-31 09:43 pm (UTC)Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-03-31 10:02 pm (UTC)Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-04-01 01:33 am (UTC)I want to make a whole selection of them for user icons.
Especially the Anne of Green Gables one. The cat looks JUST like Axl Rose!
Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-04-01 08:27 pm (UTC)Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-03-31 10:31 pm (UTC)Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-03-31 10:12 pm (UTC)Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-03-31 10:32 pm (UTC)2. Where did you get that user pic? Who did it?
Re: perfect user pic for this, eh?
Date: 2004-04-01 08:34 pm (UTC)2. I did a Google image search for "motherhood," and came across this piece of African art at www.foutah.com. I don't know who the artist is.
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Date: 2004-04-01 01:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-04-01 08:24 pm (UTC)*crosses fingers*