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[judecorp]

I hate that feeling when a day starts out good and then goes to shit, and before it can sort itself out, the day ends. She went to bed at 10:15 and it's 11:49 and I lack resolution.

Sometimes I feel like I am destined to screw up no matter what.

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[therewaslight.livejournal.com]

Well...let's see here. Last night I went to bed without resolution anywhere in sight. In fact, I did a bad thing - I slept on the couch. By my own decision.

Compromise. Discuss fairly. Never use words like "You always" or "You never." Compliment with love as often as you criticize with love. Pick your battles. Don't play the silent treatment game (we aren't Amish!). And never, ever sleep in separate beds, or go to bed angry.

These are the things my aunt the therapist lectures me every day. Hopefully one day we can all learn to put aside our bitterness and momentary anger long enough to remember that we love the other person, and that's far more important than winning any argument.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You know, when I'm feeling rational I tell myself all of those things and then some. I think I am the primo relationship advice giver. And then I get upset or hurt or frustrated or whatever about something and I turn into a neurotic mess that thinks about sleeping on the couch, and says crazy things.

Sometimes I wish I had an OFF switch.