Obligatory NCOD post

[judecorp]

It's National Coming Out Day, and I don't think there's anyone I haven't come out to. Let's see. I've come out to my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncle, cousin. I've come out to my brother's in-laws and friends. I've come out to my grandparents' friends, to my employers, to my coworkers. I'm out to my landlords, my friends, my neighbors, my clients, my cats. I'm out at the bank, the doctor's office, the life insurance company, my little retirement plan from my UMaine job. I'm out at my graduate school(s), my volunteer efforts, and my community. Is that all? There must be more. The phone company. The car insurance company. The frequent flyer mile people.

I imagine that today is more geared to the Big Whammo Coming Out - you know, parents, friends, etc. But it's funny, because Coming Out sneaks up on you when you're not even thinking about it. Like, you're out at work, but then you get invited to the Company Holiday Extravaganza. Or you're out in your hometown, and then you travel somewhere and suddenly everything is a coming out process - renting a hotel room, boarding the airplane, walking down unfamiliar streets. Or you are waiting in a long line somewhere and the person next to you gets chatty, and eventually they notice your wedding ring and you get The Question: So, what does your husband/wife do? Or you're car/house shopping. And on and on and on.

So today I salute all of the brave, nervous souls who are taking big Coming Out steps. And I encourage each and every one of you to give your acquaintances/friends/family members/loved ones all the support you can, because the reception they receive today is what will give them the strength and resolve to keep doing it, day after day, situation after situation, place after place.

Comments

[scottopic.livejournal.com]

Wait...you're not straight?

[murnkay.livejournal.com]

Fucker I was JUST coming here to post that.

Ganked!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

PWNED

[scottopic.livejournal.com]

Don't worry - you get the brain tomorrow.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I am... when I'm wearing a cock. But then what do I tell all the hot guys? Oh crap, I'm screwed again.

[hope-persists.livejournal.com]

my friend [Bad username or site: @ livejournal.com] is coming out to her mom today. she's 17. my heart goes out to her.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. Best of luck to her.

[sudrin.livejournal.com]

How exactly do you come out at the Bank?! Yes, I'd like your Free Checking, the Toaster and oh i'm Gay.

[murnkay.livejournal.com]

Exactly.

"Could I have the free I'm Gay checking?"

then you call the phone company "Here's the payment, I'm gay, kthxbye."

[cfred.livejournal.com]

Actually, with the one cell company's "couples talk free" plan, wouldn't you have to identify your other half to them?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. Or any of the other companies to use "family plan" rates.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Joint bank accounts, joint credit card accounts, beneficiaries of accounts, trusts, etc.

[scottopic.livejournal.com]

Attempted second mortgage to install two linked Venus symbols in pink marble on roof?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Tee hee. Marble's heavy and 'spensive!

[folkyboy.livejournal.com]

you're just a coming out fool! :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I'm some kind of fool, that's for sure!

re: coming out

[etherial.livejournal.com]

yeah, I'm out to just about everyone except my Grandfather. I don't like talking to people and saying "Oh yeah, and I'm bisexual." It feels strange. Now, if I'm hankering for some cock or glowing about my boyfriend, that's one thing. Now it's true that he met my boyfriend, and it's true I didn't tell him about it. At the time, I had no job and my life was a bit of a wreck and didn't like how my parents were fixating on it by complaining about my choice of company, and I didn't want to give him the opportunity.

Re: coming out

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I can't say I blame you. I wasn't "allowed" to tell my grandparents about Jen for quite a while. And while normally I don't stand for that kind of crap, my dad asked me not to tell them like three days after he had a heart attack and open heart surgery, so I cut him some slack and waited a year or so. But it would be silly to say they didn't know. Especially after we moved in together.

I was always in a weird situation when I was with boys, because one one hand I felt like I had to be extra out to, like, show my pride or support or queerness or whatever... but at the same time I felt like I was supposed to keep it secret because I was in a supposedly het relationship.

Bisexuality is so complex.

Re:Bisexuality is so complex.

[etherial.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I have this circle of friends that, for whatever reason, totally forgets that I like girls. Now this is convenient, because usually they're commenting on how it's "safe" for girls to be nekkid around me, but still it grates on the nerves, I *never* told them I was gay. I *always* told them I was bisexual.

And one of them, whenever it gets mentioned, likes to say "yeah, you're just greedy." I try to laugh it off, because it *is* funny, and reply "no, just desperate," but really I need to tell him off. I can't let him belittle my people like that.

Re:Bisexuality is so complex.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I hate the stereotype of the bisexual whore almost as much as I hate the one of the indecisive bisexual. It's ridiculous. I like both peas AND carrots, but I don't have to eat them both at the same time. Nor does liking both mean I'm indecisive. Heck, I like broccoli and corn, too.

Then again, I don't know how bi/pansexual I am. I don't know what I am. Maybe I /am/ an indecisive whore! ;)