Hair blog, and girly woes.

[judecorp]

So I'm having this dilemma that I haven't written about, which is unusual for me since I write about everything.

As you know, I have been on a mission to grow my hair out for a while. There really wasn't any reasoning behind it, partly because I forgot what I look like with hair and partly because I was bored and wanted to do something else. Jen started cutting her hair shorter and I didn't want us to have the same haircut, because that is a level of dorkitude that even I am not comfortable with.

It's been many many months since I started growing my hair, and though I haven't been just growing it straight out (I've gotten in shaped several times), it's getting quite long. Considering where it started, that is. And now I'm kind of at a loss. I feel weird with hair. I've definitely lost the androgynous look I was so fond of, and I'm looking a lot more like a girl, which is evidenced by the fact that lots of people commented about how "pretty" I was in my last posted photo. I think I pretty much look girly all the time.

And now I don't look all boyish in my clothes any more, and I'm not sure how I feel about it. I don't know if I want to go back to being a tomboyish girl or whatever, and I know I'm not ready to start wearing girly clothes all over the place yet. So I'm stuck. Do I get a haircut and kill all the hard work and patience? Do I continue to let the hair grow and see if I have a change of heart? Am I just a neurotic mess?

Aaaah, questions, questions.

Comments

[sudrin.livejournal.com]

Wow! I love the hair! I don't know if I'm supposed to or not, but I think it looks great! :-)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Awwh, thanks! Most of the time I think it looks yucky and boring, but I appreciate your compliment.

I had a similar haircut right before I moved to Columbus in 2000, and I was such a frumpy and unhappy married hausfrau. Maybe that's why I feel so weird.

[drainbead.livejournal.com]

That's exactly how I want my hair, and I think it looks fab on you. Don't cut it, but don't grow it any longer, either.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh, but I adore your hair! It is so cute! Mine is so boring and Norman Rockwell. The other day my brother called me a beatnik. ;)

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

I like it! Why not keep it like that a little while, and do more deciding. You can always cut it...

But maybe I'm not the best one to ask, as I've always had long hair. Having my hair to my shoulders really freaked me out...I did it once.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's true, you have a lot of hair. :)

I'm just terrible at deciding. Decisions are so hard!

[laserkitty.livejournal.com]

Personally, I like the longer look on you...but you look good either way in my opinion.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thanks, mama!

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

I like the hair.

I like the PANTS too. Show more PANTS in your pictures.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Next time I post pictures, there will be PANTS involved. I promise.

In the meantime, here is a picture of your daughters wearing PAJAMA PANTS (http://www.judecorp.com/pics/taylertylersleep.jpg).

[skiadaimonos.livejournal.com]

Iiiiii dunno. You had to throw in that pic here and look all adorable in a hot way (or hot in an adorable way, anyway you get the point). How on earth could anyone look at this and say "oh yeah, chop it off"?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, you could compare it to this HOTT bald-headed userpic??!?

(*secretly gushes, "Ooooh, the Greek thinks I'm hot and adorable!"*)

[cfred.livejournal.com]

I have to ask. Were you wearing any makeup in this picture? Or had you just come in form the cold? Your cheeks have a rosy look to them, and your eyes look really open and played up.

And hey, the way some boys wear their hair these days, I'd stay that still counts as quite a handsome 'do.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I /assure/ you that I'm not wearing any makeup. The eyes could be a trick of the light in the office perhaps, and ruddy cheeks run in my family, a trait I am inheriting but thankfully not to the level of, say, my father.

I can't tell you the last time I wore makeup. I honestly can't remember. Maybe my wedding??! Thankfully it rained that day and it all washed off the second I stepped out of the ghastly limo.

And yeah, I guess you're right. If I have to, I can be some prissy metrosexual boy. (But really, eek!)

[geniusorafool.livejournal.com]

Don't cut it!

However, given our recent difference of opinion concerning shoveling and parking practices within large municipalities, you may choose to ignore my opinion entirely...

;-P~

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

So if I cut my hair, I can put a cone in my parking space? Is that what you're saying???! ;)

[saldemonium.livejournal.com]

I dunno, I'm growing my out too, and I hate it. Hee. =) But I gotta say, you're a doll! Rar.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Growing hair out is /so/ /hard/. Seriously. I swear I've been "letting my hair grow" since what? Last spring? I don't even know anymore... it feels like forever, which is part of the reason I'm determined to just. keep. going!

Everyone should grow their hair out! Then we can be Hair Blog buddies!

[musicismath.livejournal.com]

go long!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Errr, how long?

[mightywombat.livejournal.com]

Hey, she's cute! Does she have a straight sister?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Daddy, what are straight people? :)

[phatsin8.livejournal.com]

Hey Jude (heh I love saying that)!

Here is a thought, maybe people told you that you were pretty in your last post because you are pretty...but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are "girl" pretty. Bear with me here. When I saw your pic after reading your post, I thought "hey! I know lots of guys with that same exact haircut! It was really popular in the eighties." And do you know what was popular in the eighties? (I'm sure you do because you were there) PRETTY BOYS! (Emilio Estevez in the Breakfast Club for instance) Yay! So please do not let compliments that may initially seem sex oriented sway your coiffe decisions. And, if you're still afraid that longer hair will make you more girly then just tell people that you're aspiring for more of a Judd Nelson Breakfast Club style. Just a thought:) I'm trying to grow my hair out too btw and it's driving me nutty as well but I know that at least now, when I have a bad hair day, I'll be able to strap it up in a ponytail:)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

HA, I love Judd Nelson! I could /so/ start telling people I'm trying to win a John Bender look-alike contest!

(That's a lot better than my previous example, which is to say I am working on the Mike Myers "I'll never get out of the 80s" So I Married an Axe Murderer 'do!)

You're right - I guess I shouldn't always read gender into everything, even if it's my nature. But it /is/ fascinating how all of a sudden I have three inches of hair and people are telling me I'm pretty. Also, I'm getting hit on by boys/men again in public. Weird.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

I like it, it looks great! Awwww pretty Jude!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Your giraffe is trying to slip me the tongue! EEK!

[whod81.livejournal.com]

woah your hair is so LONG!!

with BANGS!!

WOW!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Does that make you love me MORE or LESS? That is the important question. (We're coming on three years, hotlips!)

[auntiesiannan.livejournal.com]

Nah, let it grow, you can be a cute little Dutch boy :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Then I can go around sticking my fingers in dykes!

[shadist.livejournal.com]

Personally I think it looks great.

And I don't think it overly girlish.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thanks! :)

[folkyboy.livejournal.com]

i actually like the way that looks on you :) it's very Chloe Sevingy from If These Walls Could Talk 2

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Holy crap, she was so fucking hot in that movie!

[xanthe42.livejournal.com]

H-A-W-T-!

It doesn't seem overly girlie to me...but I think it looks good :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Awwh, thanks! You're so sweet!

[kungfoogirl.livejournal.com]

I like it!

My hair is kinda like that too, except without the swoosh in the front.

All I'm doing is getting the back trimmed up.

And you shouldn't get anything more than a trim. It looks good. Not too girly, not too boyish. Just like you.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I hate the swoosh, but my hair naturally swooshes and stuff. I am considering (*GASP!!*) trying to hair dryer to see if I can dry the wave out of it. Ugh - that would take WORK!

And thanks for your opinion. I'm really at a loss with this hair business. It is so annoying! :)

[riggeronfire.livejournal.com]

well, the nice thing about letting it grow, you'll have more options - i.e. for further amputation of hair, or to keep it long. if you cut your hair now, you'll loose those options!

hahaha - that makes NO sense, but that's the best explination i can make!

personally, i just got aggravated with my hair recently, and i definately cut off at least .... a good 6 inches... but MY hair grows insanely fast.. so - it's really your call. it looks nice now, and you could still pull off a slicked back james dean look if you styled your hair. it looks pretty hawt right now... it's always nice for a a change.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, I'll have to try to slick look one day and see what I think. I'm afraid I'll just look like a greaseball. :) (My hair has a mind of its own and really requires product to do anything else.)

I wish I just knew what to do with it. I'm so lame and have had low-maintenance hair for so long that I'm not sure where to go from here. I might have to (*gasp!*) go to a hair stylist.

Hair today, goon tomorrow.....

[goddamnelf.livejournal.com]

I like it, it is super sexy. The gorgeous blue eyes, and the rosey lips, and the cute hair cut... oh, oh, oh, ah, ahhhhhhhhh. Opps, well, I needed to do laundry anyway.

love it, keep it, or at least keep it as long as it is. (if you like it of course).

Re: Hair today, goon tomorrow.....

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yikes, don't ruin all of your good clothes! Down, boy! :)

p.s. Thanks. Your hair is lovely.

[calledmara.livejournal.com]

I think it looks good. You still look like a lesbo, if that helps any. You're gender identity isn't a haircut afterall.

I just realized I know more men with long hair than women. Sigh

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, I am SO not a lesbo! Stop hitting on me!

[emokideeyore.livejournal.com]

You know, my girl's kind of having the same battle at the moment. She finally went to an old fashioned barber shop for a haircut. She ended up with a do that she felt was appropriately androgynous, was a bit longer than she had been wearing it, and looked good on her. I don't know if that's an option for you, but it might be worth a check out. She also thought it was fun to break the whole traditional idea of women not going to barbers. YMMV

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I've gone to a barber shop before - actually it was my dad's barber and that's creepy enough! But yeah, maybe someday I can go to a trendier barber. It would certainly be cheaper than a salon!