Green Monster

[judecorp]

Several of my friends now have concrete baby-making plans. I am so happy for them but it makes me so freaking jealous! What sucks is that we /had/ concrete baby-making plans but moving to Boston totally screwed it all up. We were supposed to start making concrete plans last Thanksgiving. So sad. So, so sad.

*turns green in the corner*

Comments

[thespian.livejournal.com]

it can't be that much of a commitment to make a concrete baby.

[etherial.livejournal.com]

What could you do with a concrete baby?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Beat someone over the head with it!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Waaah, I don't want a concrete baby!

[estrange.livejournal.com]

And why can't you make plans?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Because Jen's not ready. :(

[gabriellag.livejournal.com]

So what's stopping you? As a casual reader, I'm not here to make judgments. But, you talk about it all the time! I have 19 year old clients with their thrid kid on the the way, and I often why can't I?

The reason I give is that my boy and I are still getting there. But if it doesn't happen soon, I'd change things.

You seem to have it all, besides the money. But you have love, and you do have more money than at LOT of people that have kids. You'll both be great moms. And you get to PLAN it, unlike 90% of the country. (Not that I'm advocating screwing up the bc, but how many straight couples do you know that have "unplanned" kids.) But it takes initative.

I'm not sure what I'm saying here, except I want babies too!

[siercia]

She does make good points here. Heck, Wiley and I didn't have most of our shit together when I got knocked up, and we've managed, like everyone else who has to do it.

But also, don't worry. While I totally understand being green with envy, you will have babies, even if it's not right now.

[gabriellag.livejournal.com]

Yes, I wasn't trying to discount planning...

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, you may not have "had your shit together" (but I think you pretty much did) but you were/are in a much better financial situation than we are. I think that you probably double our income and we have all of that student loan debt around our necks.

Besides, accidental babies are excellent for jump starting that "shit together" thing... but we can't really have an accidental baby, and Jen's so not cool with me saying, "Well, let's get pregnant and THEN figure it out!"

[being-homeless.livejournal.com]

i would suspect the difference in the cost of living...

[gabriellag.livejournal.com]

Of course. If we're talking about planning. And I'm not advocating babies without money. I'm just trying to point out the numerous straight couples that make it work. And I'm not sure it should be any different in this situation.

I am just hypothisizing (sp.) that it is harder when you have to plan, than when it is thrust upon you. Again, I'm not advocating unplannned families. But when you're straight, it comes up, there is always a chance. But if you're partner is female, you have to plan. And, everything must be strategic and planned. That is the difference. Be it good, or bad.

[mostlyhere.livejournal.com]

When you are not able to "accidently" make a baby it can get quite expensive. I know that the majority of the planning Jen and I are doing is about being able to afford the making part. Is it the same for you? I guess I want to know more about your baby plans, if you don't mind sharing.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

The original plan was for Jen to conceive our first child... and we were originally going to start ttc last Thanksgiving. Since we moved, she's said that our finances aren't ready, our housing situation isn't ready, and our relationship isn't ready to even think about conception. Also, she says she is scared of pregnancy and whether she is ready for that physically.

I'm willing to offer the uterus if it speeds up the process, but since I have all of this PCOS crap and I haven't ovulated, like, ever, I don't even know if that's possible or likely.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You are correct on all points. I 100% agree with you. And I am ready.

The one thing stopping me is Jen's readiness, or lack thereof. Which is the one obstacle I can't really "fix."

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

I hear that making a concrete baby can be very, very painful.

[jost.livejournal.com]

I would imagine that making a concrete baby would not be half as painful as trying to give birth to it afterward.

[whirledpeas.livejournal.com]

You know - concrete babies aside - you still can make a plan - and a baby could be in the nearer future than what you think. I know that money is a huge issue, no doubt it is for us as well, but unless you and I both plan on finding a major wad (of money, watchit) somewhere on the street - it always will be.

Go with your gut, Jude - you'll make it work.

[hoo.livejournal.com]

Is making babies a gut thing? I thought that happened a bit lower down. Maybe concrete babies are different.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Pbbblt.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Honey, thanks for the cheerleading but I am SOOO not the one that needs the cheerleading. If we were in the same headspace we would already be pregnant and working out the details.

I'm not worried about the money. I know we can make it work.

[laserkitty.livejournal.com]

I feel ya sister.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Somehow I thought you might.

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

*HUG*

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

*hug*!

[oddharmonic.livejournal.com]

One bright point: with the current swamping of requests I have for new baby things to stitch, I should be in a nice lull when you have babies so I can make lots of things for you! And maybe get Laurel in on it too, since she's already obsessed with babies and was rather put out that we could not just go to the "baby store" and get her a little sister. I need a guide to this girlie thing, all she wants to do is have me paint her nails, take her to the "haircut store" and play dress-up. I am so lost.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oooh, I am SO all about the homemade. :)

I wish I could go to the "baby store," too. Laurel and I think a lot alike.