A slight slight

[judecorp]

Okay, this probably makes me a whiny beeyotch but it kind of ticks me off that Jen's brother/sister-in-law (hence, my BIL and SIL) sent her a birthday card and not me.

It's not even like it's all about how we've been together for years now, and we're married, and my family sends her birthday cards, and all of that polite stuff. I don't feel all unaccepted or something because they can't remember my birthday.

It's that we have the SAME FREAKING BIRTHDAY so it doesn't take any brainpower at all to remember. None. Nada. Zilch. It's easy.

An imaginary conversation:
BIL - Oh! It's Jen's birthday on Monday.
SIL - That means it's Jude's birthday, too.

HOW FREAKING HARD IS THAT??!?!

Comments

[cfred.livejournal.com]

Could the mail trolls just have delayed your card for a day, and it will come tomorrow?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Possible but not likely. It's not like they usually send something or that I would have some sort of reason to think they will.

[haloumi.livejournal.com]

Urm.. why do they have to send you a birthday card?

I don't mean to be rude but, yeah, I like it when K's family send me cards but I don't really mind if they don't send me one.

I guess it means different things to different people.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

They don't have to, and I'm not upset. I just think it would be kind of nice if they remembered. Since, you know, we send them cards and gifts and stuff.

I guess I just come from one of those families where people remember each other's birthdays. My grandmother even sent my ex-husband a birthday card this summer!

[luloubelle.livejournal.com]

Hey, my feelings would be hurt as well. If they're just oblivious to their rudness that's one thing, but if it's an intential fallacy, well, I'd have to say something.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I don't think my feelings are hurt, it's just kind of weird to me. I know that they would probably think it was weird if we sent cards to her brothers but not their wives or children.

And nah, I don't think it's any kind of intentional message.

[eeka13.livejournal.com]

Oh now THAT is cute. Same year?

Yeah, that would piss me off. You don't just space on something like that.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

No, she's a year older than me. (HA HA!!)

I'm just really psycho about remembering people's birthdays, I guess.

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

Enh. I'm good at presents and bad at cards. M's family exchange cards (sometimes several) on every occasion, like they freaking have stock in hallmark. I'd rather just not be a part of that. Birthday email suits me as well as a card. I feel guilty when I get them, because I really don't send them.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You know, a birthday e-mail or present would certainly be lovely, too. I think my grandmother has stock in Hallmark, too. (I wonder if it's a New England thing?) More than whatever they give or send me or whatever, because that's hardly my style, it would just really tickle me if they remembered, you know? I think I would /really/ feel like part of the family then.

See, I'm much more card than gift, mostly because I never know what to get people and it seems like a lot of stress to find that "perfect gift." My mom gets herself all anxious about gift shopping and I just do not want to go down that road. ;)

Argh.

[cranapril.livejournal.com]

It's exhausting trying to remember birthdays.

The hardest part is my husband hates cards. He thinks they're inane. But of course, his mother, will never forget the year she only got a present from us for mother's day. Argh. What's she gonna do with the card, anyway? Most of ours end up in the recycling bin. The only cards I keep are the ones for special occasions (1st birthdays and such) and cards with personal notes inside from old people (like grandparents who have now passed).

But I admit there are so many of them it's clogging up my filing cabinet.

Re: Argh.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I like cards, because I like mail. But you're right, I never know what to do with the darned things. I've kept so many of them because it feels wrong to throw them away or recycle them. Seriously, there are cards all over my house. I need to do something about that.

I just love mail!!

[afullmoon.livejournal.com]

I get you completely. My partners family know its my birthday but don't send a card, nothing or even call. We send a gift, card and call each person individually. While they all do it for her birthday I don't even get a call. It makes me so mad. So this year I didn't call or sign the birthday card or anything. My girlfriend knows it upsets me so she finally spoke up but it has been about 4 years now.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

The thing is, with Jen's family I know it's not because they have something against me but that they "forget" it's my birthday. But what I want to know is, how can you forget when it's the same day as Jen's??!?!

Heck, my maternal grandmother sent Jen a card this year. Sometimes she forgets to send ME cards! :)

[eight.livejournal.com]

Holy crap, you're dating your birthday twin.

I'm so jealous. I've never even MET anyone with my birthday. : (

Also, I am totally all about people remembering my birthday. I will talk about for months in advance (probably time to start, now that I think about it) so everybody's prepared. Your birthday should be the most important day of the year! It's awesome you and Jen have the same special day.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

When's your birthday? Maybe I know someone with that birthday.

I've met only a couple of people who share my birthday - my Jennifer, and my high school softball coach. Apparently everyone I know with my birthday is a lesbian! (My friend's Dad also has my birthday, I think, but I've never met him so I stand by my theory!)

Sometimes it's awesome that we share a birthday, and other times it's a pain. Like... how do you plan a party? Who buys a cake? Do you get two cakes? What about the combo birthday gifts - cool or not cool? So many dilemmas!

[rockymtnhigh.livejournal.com]

Hmm.. seems only the coolest of the cool people get October birthdays

:-)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I agree wholeheartedly!!