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[judecorp]

I've decided for the moment to keep telling myself that no one ever gets more than they can handle, and that all of this crap of the last year or so is a testament to the strength of my marriage.

I don't know how true that is, but it makes me feel a little bit better. ;)

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[carina-s.livejournal.com]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. *hugs*

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm not sure I believe that. I think I did in my angstier days, but as I've gotten older, I've really re-evaluated. Because honestly, I don't think I'm any stronger because some drunk turd messed up my car. Or because my rent got raised and we can't afford our place anymore. You know, maybe for the big things, the things where you have room to grow, sure. But otherwise, your life (my life?) is just filled with petty annoyances that really build up and wear on a person.

That's not to say that I don't get the intention behind your post. I do, and am grateful for it. I just think my outlook has changed over the years about events that "put hair on your chest."

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

I have to respectfully disagree. I really believe that when bad things happen we do grow, even if we don't want to admit it. You now know what it's like to have some stupid drunk person upset your balance of life. When your rent got raised, you learned what it's like to not be able to afford your place any more. Because of this you can better understand others' suffering. It might be petty annoyances, but it's also a opportunity for you, one that you really don't have to do much to grow from. Just the experience alone has taught you something.

But maybe I'm just optimistic about experience. It's the only way I can justify some of the things in my life. That now I am more empathetic, that now I am more understanding, that I have experienced more.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I'm totally cool with that, I just don't see it that way. But I like how you think.

Really, maybe it's more that I've had it up to here with "growing experiences" in the last year. But I feel like I'm pretty well tapped in to human suffering and I bust my butt to try to alleviate others' sufferings, in personal and in work life. So sometimes I think maybe I should get a little break.

Unless the universe is trying to break up my marriage, it really needs to just lay off a little bit. ;)

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

NO KIDDING!!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

:)

[dustyskinandall.livejournal.com]

I like to think along the same lines. The Universe deals things out to you in order to make you your Highest Self. You may not think you can handle it at that moment, but through the experience, you'll become someone who can.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, I want the Universe to stop for a while, okay? Because that would be really awesome.

:)

[anitsirk.livejournal.com]

you know what? i really believe that. i think that sometime in the near future you'll be cuddling your baby and thinking "jeez, life was DIFFICULT then."

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah well, I sure hope you're right about that.

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

What a great outlook. Now, you are the one giving me strength. :) Jude, you're the best and you and I will get our babies. We might go crazy in the process, but we will have our babies, our wonderful partners, and each other!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I think I'm already crazy!

(And sometimes I wonder about the "wonderful partners" part. Especially on mornings like this when I have a killer headache and am full of bad dreams, and wake Jen up to tell her, 'I can't sleep' and she turns to face me and... falls back to sleep. Ugh.)

[gala.livejournal.com]

I wholeheartedly believe you two really deserve A Break™. I'm continually in awe of how well you both handle everything that has been thrown at you. It hasn't been easy, but I'm positive you'll come out on top.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I know your feelings on A Break^TM. And honestly, when the car got smashed? I thought, "Oh, Jess is going to LOVE this."

Ow, did someone hit me in the head with a brick...

[goddamnelf.livejournal.com]

Hey, sorry about your car. I swear I did not know I had that much to drink!

Good luck with the baby thing. If need be, I will voluteer to be birthed by you. I will even shave all my hair off, but no placenta. Yuck, placenta!

Re: Ow, did someone hit me in the head with a brick...

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

So, Drunk Guy ended up getting 17 staples on his head! (He talked to my neighbor yesterday.) So I hope it wasn't you! (After all, why are you in my neighborhood and not hanging out with me?)

You're small, but you're not THAT small. You're just trying to get into my vagina!

[changinglight.livejournal.com]

you are fucking amazing, you know that?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

No, not really. I'm not. I'm just some messed up kid. I appreciate the thought, though.