Laurie and Lisa's wedding

[judecorp]

This afternoon/evening, after a trip to the grandparents', Jen and I attended Laurie and Lisa's wedding. Laurie is a friend of mine from junior high and high school, although we don't keep in touch very well. I mean, she lives in RI and I go to RI almost every weekend, yet we NEVER see each other! Oh well, at least we got a wedding invite! (I don't really know Lisa at all, due to the whole "not seeing each other" thing.) It was a nice wedding, and the ceremony was simple yet beautiful, and the whole thing almost made me wish that Jen and I had had a ceremony of our own, especially because My Jennifer really wanted one. Aah well.

I especially liked this part where instead of having one of those Unity Candle things, the brides each had a bottle of sand from their respective homelands (a beach in RI for one and San Padre Island - I think - for the other) and then they poured the two sands into one container. That was neat. And it was weird to have an almost womyn-only wedding!

Here are some of my favorite photos (of myself, not the wedding, because I'm lame like that):

Whoop, there it is!



Major talent



I unofficially call this one "Laurie looks like a fashion model and I look like a teenager."



I look kind of psychotic in this one, but dude - I'm rockin' a tea-length strapless number (and a sombrero)!


All in all, we had a good time even though we only knew a handful of people. They played this game that was like a combination of musical chairs and a scavenger hunt - one person from each table. Jen was our table's representative and she totally won it all with the help of Kayla's amazing purse! I was so proud.

Also, Jen agreed to dance with me (slow AND fast) which I know makes her hecka uncomfortable, so <3 <3 <3 <3.

Comments

[buddhafly4224.livejournal.com]

SUCH cute pictures!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you! :)

[thatpatti.livejournal.com]

your hair is SO SO CUTE!!!!

and...are you wearing a STRAPLESS DRESS? holy crap, you look like such a GIRL!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Awwh, thanks! Sometimes I love the hair, sometimes I want to chop it all off!

And well, the dress had straps (they can button on/off) but when we were dancing, the stupid straps kept falling off my shoulders. So I took them off and then my dress kept falling down! (Note to self: get more boobs or something).

Heh.

[mayna.livejournal.com]

I was just going to say that!!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, I know how to work it.

It's the hormones, I swear.

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

"the whole thing almost made me wish that Jen and I had had a ceremony of our own, especially because My Jennifer really wanted one."

So why haven't you?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Wow, this could get long. I will try to keep it brief.

When I got married the first time, I had a big wedding. Like almost 200 people big. And it was a very bad experience for me (even before we broke up)... but the most humbling thing was pledging forever in front of all of my nearest and dearest and then, like, having to take it back. And while I don't intend for this marriage to end, I didn't last time, either. So I was a little soured on the whole "big wedding" thing.

And then we moved here and were actually able to GET married, and we were broke. Broker than broke. We went over all of our options (locations, etc.), including having something in the back yard if the landlords would let us, and we couldn't swing it. So we put off getting married. (We moved 06-01-04.)

After nearly a year had passed without us being able to swing any kind of wedding, we decided we would go get married in city hall just to get it done, and follow it up with some sort of party afterward. We got married on 05-13-05. Sort of a "send out notices that we got married and just have a reception" deal, which was kind of a bummer for Jen because she wanted the whole shebang.

Two weeks after we went to City Hall, my dad died totally unexpectedly. And not only was I not in any sort of festive, big family day kind of mood, but our lives were totally consumed with Dead Dad Stuff. At that time we said what we would do would be to have a big-ass blowout for our first anniversary - a party and renewing vows and all of that.

When our first anniversary was coming around, we actually contacted a couple of venues about pricing/packages/etc. re: having a do-over. And it was SO much money, and while we actually had enough to swing it (thanks to aforementioned Dead Dad), we had earmarked a bunch of money to trying to make a baby. (At the time, we were told insurance wasn't going to cover a thing.) So we couldn't swing the babymaking AND the wedding. And we thought about having a house party (again) and then ran into weirdness about Jen's family flying in and needing a place to stay so that they could come eat potluck at our house.

So then we went back to the venue idea, and we found one we liked and it was pricey but hey, we're worth it. But it was not near any hotels, and it was not on public transportation, and then the details got nuts - so if Jen's fam stays in hotels, how do they get there? Do we have to arrange cabs/rental cars for them? Will they get lost? Etc. So frustrating. Boston is not a fun place to have a wedding.

At this point, it seems like we've missed the boat and anything we had would seem cheesy. I mean, we've lived together for years now, exchanged rings in 2003, moved in 2004, got married in 2005, and hope to get pregnant in 2006. What else is there to celebrate?

On the way home from the wedding, I was thinking that our next big thing will be house-buying, which will hopefully occur after successful babymaking. We could throw a big party for that and it wouldn't be like "hey, we're having a party from 2 years ago." I can imagine it now: "We fell in love on a weekend out of town. We were married in secret at Boston City Hall on a Friday afternoon. We made a baby in a lonely doctor's office. But you can come party in public with us in OUR NEW HOUSE!"

Does any of that make any sense at all?

[vlindinhauer.livejournal.com]

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... and what great hair!

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[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I have this great stylist, you know.

[gimmeapony.livejournal.com]

You look gorgeous!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Why, thank you ma'am!

p.s. Do you think we'll ever see you and the Rock Star again?

[gimmeapony.livejournal.com]

God, it has been a while. We totally need a playdate.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

SRSLY.

[livinginfits.livejournal.com]

what is up with all that hair on your head?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, you grew your hair out (YOU HIPPIE FREAK) and I had to do the same! You know I am a die-hard Sean junkie.

[livinginfits.livejournal.com]

you should come visit columbus, soon. i'm running precariously low on jude.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I wish I could. I am in need of some serious Sean time. But I'm sort of on a hiatus from travelling while I shoot myself full of hormones to have 3898034889034298 kids.

Soon.

[laserkitty.livejournal.com]

You're awfully darn cute Jude.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

No, YOU ARE!

[volumeat11.livejournal.com]

Looks like a good time! Congrats to Lou!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it was fun. Joslyn was there, too. :)

[luloubelle.livejournal.com]

AAAAWWWWWWW! You two are so adorable!

P.S. NICE DRESS!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, you can totally come up and borrow it!

[bingothemonkey.livejournal.com]

Hair and a dress?? Granted, I've never met you in person, but you look great. The hair is perfect. You two are so cute!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, this "girl" thing is totally out of control. I look at the pictures and am like, "Who's that?" It's crazy.

Thank you.

[sudrin.livejournal.com]

I love the shot of the two of you where you have on the HUGE sombrero! Nothing says Wedding like a giant Mexican hat!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's true. Everything is better when you have a big hat!

[violane.livejournal.com]

You guys look great!

Also, I never had a wedding either. We just didn't want to be overwhelmed with details and other people's opinions and somehow lose sight of what the day was about. We got married by ourselves on top of a mountain. :) It ended up being a wonderful experience, and when I'm involved with others' weddings, I'm always grateful we did what we did, especially when they start arguing about what style of napkin rings to use. :) But I think a housewarming party would be a great catchall for you guys!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh, totally. I had to plan my first wedding and it was kind of a nightmare. The idea of doing it again was seriously freaking me out. Now if someone wants to plan it for me, I'll show up. I can totally see why people hire wedding coordinators, for real.

But I like parties!

[calledmara.livejournal.com]

Jude you look great! You've lost a ton of weight since I saw you, but in a fit and happy way not a gross and emaciated way. Also, we have almost the same haircut!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's those crazy magic pills. Seriously. I think I dumped 30 pounds since Columbus. What's funny is that I never felt particularly big in Columbus and was in pretty good shape. And I still feel like I look exactly the same... until I have to buy new clothes or look at photos.

So weird.

Also, this long hair makes me look weird. I can't wear any of my boy clothes anymore!

[goddamnelf.livejournal.com]

Wow, you look hot hot! I would totally date you if I was a woman. But as I am a guy, I will just have to be satisfied with dirty thoughts!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Wow, a while back I wasn't your type. I must be moving up in the world. Whoo hoo! :)

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

Looking good baby!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Whoo, thank you!

[kat-chan.livejournal.com]

Very cute pics. :D

And I love your hair. It's the awesome!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's so... long!

My hair is so thick that the only way I can pull off that sort of haircut is to have half of my hair shaved off. Honestly, it's like a mohawk. I'll have to show you sometime! (There is no hair on the sides or the back, just the top and it falls down to cover the rest.)

[kjames.livejournal.com]

holy cuteness batman! jude, you look absolutely gorgeous! the dress, the hair, everything.

in that one you do look a bit like a teenager, i'd agree. which is not a bad thing, if you think about it. :D

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh, don't misunderstand, I am in no way complaining about the teenager bit. But when I saw the picture on the little camera screen I was like, "Woah, I look 16!" which was kind of crazy. Maybe I should wear little strappy numbers more often. ;)

But yeah, it's kind of weird to get all kinds of attention from people I'm not used to getting attention from (read: guys). I guess I don't give off THE VIBE anymore.

p.s. Your kid is so freaking cute with the crazy faces! Every picture I see of Simon is all wacky and I love it!

[kjames.livejournal.com]

well, you look super cute. so just accept all the attention. :D

thanks. simon is king of crazy faces. some not so cute, too. :D

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well sure, but I can appreciate any kid that can make good faces!

btw, I got tired of stalking you through Patti. So now I'm stalking you ON MY OWN!

[kjames.livejournal.com]

you know, i was just thinking about that today: WHY haven't i friended jude yet?! then i got busy and never did it. now, i will. :D

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I know, that was totally me this afternoon. "Why oh why have I never friended Karen?" It's just silly.

Maybe someday I will come to Columbus and actually MEET you. Whee!

xo

[kjames.livejournal.com]

that would rock, seriously. no hope of you coming out here anytime soon, eh?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Not while I'm shooting myself up with all kinds of crazy substances, no. The minute I plan a trip would be the minute I needed to be at the doctor's office for something.