I remember when Ella was so wee and I felt like I couldn't do anything but sit with her and watch her. I was afraid something would happen and I wouldn't get to see it. And don't worry, it's hard to let go sometimes of that control, and it's always easier when it's someone you know and love (like your own mom) than it is when it's someone that you didn't so much choose (like an in-law with whom you have to get along because you love your wife). It's okay to feel freaked out about it, just don't let it get in the way of enjoying the time when they're there, and don't let it get in the way of letting them love that grandbaby.
Here's the awesome thing about kids: you get to learn to give up control. Because there is none with babies and kids. I mean, sure you get some control, but really? The people who have to be in control wind up really being overbearing with their kids. Of course, we give our kids guidance and we give them boundaries and we know what's right and what's wrong and we teach our kid those things, but the truth is that there is no real control. And you usually have to learn those things the hard way (like you did with your whole nursing saga). And when you finally relax and let go and realize that you can't control everything when it comes to your kids, you start to feel like not being in total control elsewhere isn't so scary. Know what I mean?
Anyway, you're posting plenty and your baby is freaking gorgeous, just like her mommies. And if you can't get anything else done and the dishes sit in the sink for a while, who cares? She's only this age once. So enjoy the hell out of her and do the dishes later when she's sleeping.
And keep posting pictures, because I show them to Ella and she says "baby!" and thinks that one day it'd be cool to meet August.
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Date: 2007-07-28 03:33 pm (UTC)Here's the awesome thing about kids: you get to learn to give up control. Because there is none with babies and kids. I mean, sure you get some control, but really? The people who have to be in control wind up really being overbearing with their kids. Of course, we give our kids guidance and we give them boundaries and we know what's right and what's wrong and we teach our kid those things, but the truth is that there is no real control. And you usually have to learn those things the hard way (like you did with your whole nursing saga). And when you finally relax and let go and realize that you can't control everything when it comes to your kids, you start to feel like not being in total control elsewhere isn't so scary. Know what I mean?
Anyway, you're posting plenty and your baby is freaking gorgeous, just like her mommies. And if you can't get anything else done and the dishes sit in the sink for a while, who cares? She's only this age once. So enjoy the hell out of her and do the dishes later when she's sleeping.
And keep posting pictures, because I show them to Ella and she says "baby!" and thinks that one day it'd be cool to meet August.