Ugh, what a morning.

[judecorp]

Well, the Punk-stuffing worked. She did not wake up at 9:30, I dreamfed her at 11, and she slept until 5, had some milk, went to sleep in the Big People Bed until 7. Sweet! Although all of that milk (7oz at 6:30, 5oz at 11) meant that she leaked through her diaper and was wet at 5. Oops.

~//~

I am so thoroughly cheesed about this morning.

Jen and I have an agreement that she will do the middle of the night feeding. It has been this way for quite some time, mainly because I am one of those people whose body decides that if I get up and move around at any time in the early morning, I am up for the day. It can be 2, 3, 4, 5... if I get up, I'm up. And that sucks. But Jen can go back to sleep anywhere, anytime, so it made more sense for her to get up for that. I hear the baby, wake up, wake Jen up, and she does the rest. Or that was the plan.

So at 5, Punk got up and I woke Jen up, and she changed her and gave her the bottle. And then came back in and told me she wouldn't go back to bed, I needed to try. I reminded her about our arrangement, and she told me that 5am was a "grey area" and wasn't the "middle of the night." Are you effing kidding me?

So I got up, picked up the baby, rocked the baby, she got sleepy, I put her back in the crib, she woke up. I left the room, she started to cry. So I went back in, took off her sleep sack, brought her into bed with me. Her pajamas were damp from the leaky diaper. She fell asleep. Jen was asleep. Ralph was asleep on my pillow. Everyone was asleep, except me of course.

At 6:30ish, Jen's alarm goes off, which wakes up the baby, who starts to cry. I get her settled back down and Jen goes to reset the alarm for more sleep and I say, "You are not resetting that alarm to wake the baby up again," and she gets up and heads to the bathroom. But I guess she had already snoozed her alarm, because seven minutes later, it went off. And thankfully I was able to resettle the baby and she continued sleeping, but I couldn't shut the alarm off because my arm was under the baby and my hand was over her ear. I had to lay there, awake and pissed, listening to Jen's mix CD and swearing in my head through the loud songs. Somehow she managed not to hear the music at all in the bathroom, so I got to listen to music while she went to the bathroom, while she got undressed, while she took a shower, while she got dried off and dressed, while she did her hair and brushed her teeth and all of that nonsense. Fin the Dumbcat heard the music, realized that someone was up, and came over for love... so I had to carefully block him from stepping on the baby over and over and over. Over half an hour later she comes out and says, "Oh shit, how did this happen?" Well, you hit snooze, that's how.

Gotta love getting up at 5am because it's not /technically/ the middle of the night. What the bleep ever.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

don't you love it when they are so "helpful?"

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I wish we could train the cats to take care of the baby at night!

[marshmelococoa.livejournal.com]

oh man. That seriously is the worst. That's how I am too - it's how I end up being awake for the day anywhere from 5am to 6:30am. If my bladder needs to go or if the cats wake me up or some other shenanigans, I'm up for the day. Most of the time I don't even try going back to bed anymore.

I'll be sending good nap time to you and the babe so hopefully you can make up for it a little.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I really wish I wasn't like that. It gave me problems when I was pregnant, too, because I was exhausted but then I would wake up to pee and would be stuck awake. After a while I was sort of able to sleep-walk to the bathroom and if I peed in the dark with my eyes closed, I could sneak back into the bedroom and fall asleep most of the time.

But to go into the nursery, pick up the baby, rock the baby, shush the baby? Naaah, never going back to sleep after that.

We did, however, nap from about 11:45 to 2pm. Well, she slept all that time, I was kind of in and out.

[marshmelococoa.livejournal.com]

Too bad you didn't sleep more soundly, but hopefully it helped some.

I hate that I'm like that too.

[mollysummer72.livejournal.com]

We have that same agreement for most nights, for the same reason, and I go effing nuts when it's "my night" because even on "his night" I'm up anyway, because he doesn't have the mojo touch and I can hear the baby. Or he doesn't put the bottle in his mouth while changing the diaper, which keeps him from screaming everyone (me) awake at 5 in the morning.

Oh, man. I feel you. I was up for the day at 4:30 a.m. four mornings last week. Makes me want to shoot myself by 6 p.m.

I find ambien really helps me. I can still wake up if I HAVE to, but I can go back to sleep, and no hangover in the morning, and if I don't need to get up, I can get a full 7 hours or so.

But I can't afford really to buy it, so I have like 4 days worth every few months.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

See, Jen can totally do it. She's done it for months now. And there have been times in the past when the baby didn't want to go to sleep right away, and she would work at it and totally do it. Lately, though, she seems really easily frustrated, as if she's forgotten that she can do this and this is the way babies are. I don't really understand it, but she went from staying up however long is necessary to giving up after 5-10 minutes.

I'm not a big fan of sleep aids. Or any pharmaceuticals, really, but I've never taken a sleep aid. I'm so worried about feeling drunk. However, right now an Ambien sounds nice. :)

[kieron.livejournal.com]

Just to be clear - I didn't reset the alarm clock for more sleep - I thought I shut it off and i was waiting for the baby to settle before I moved and made the bed creak and woke her up again.
I feel really bad that it was going off when I came back out - I thought I had shut it off. And you can't hear anything from the bathroom when the fan is on.

[(Anonymous)]

just sending support about this situation. we have the same thing happening on a regular basis in our house. why does it always feel like it's MY turn to go in and settle them? nothing ever feels fair in the land of sleep deprivation! -chris-

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ain't that the truth!

I'll do the middle of the nights if Jen wants to take over the 11pm, because I'd need to go to bed a lot earlier if I'm going to be up for the day at 4 or 5.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well, YOU can't hear anything from the bathroom when the fan is on. ;)

I didn't say you necessarily hit snooze on purpose, but you were originally going to reset the alarm, that's why you were fiddling with the buttons.

[lynncc01.livejournal.com]

I can see this exact scenario playing out in our future as well- how amusing!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You just wait! You'll find out soon enough! :)

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

Emma gets up between 5-6 wanting a bottle and right when we are going back to sleep Joel's alarm goes off. I am lucky if I can fall back asleep at all after getting up with her. Sigh ...

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's my problem. I can't get back to sleep. Even if it's more like 2 or 3am, I will have a really hard time going back to sleep. And if the sun is up (which thankfully isn't the case right now), forget it. It's a lost cause. (Punk seems a lot like me in that respect, which is one of the reasons I think she has trouble napping.)

I just... well, if I'm getting up at 4 or 5, that makes for a REALLY long baby day. I do primary baby care from 6:30-7 until 6:30-7 (with "on call" hours at night, of course!) and to add another 2-3 hours to that makes me want to shoot myself.

I love the girl, I do... but a 15 hour day? OUCH.

[tea-soaked.livejournal.com]

I feel for you - the sleep issue sucks.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

So true, so true. And every so often you get a really good sleep day and you spend the rest of the days chasing that star.

There's a reason countries use sleep deprivation for torture!

[tea-soaked.livejournal.com]

I know!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We are actually very fortunate because outside of random unusual circumstances, Punk will only wake up once while we are actually sleeping. (She may wake up in the earlier night, but that's less of a big deal and is usually My Problem.) It's just that there isn't a consistent time when she might wake up. I know it's harder for Jen when it's more like 5 since she gets up an hour later, and getting a little bit of sleep like that sucks, but personally I think it's better than getting no sleep at all!

Jen also used to say she couldn't do any baby duty in the morning because she had to get ready for work, but now we've worked it out so that she gets the baby's medicine and then entertains the baby in the high chair while she makes/eats breakfast, and then passes her over. It gives me a little time to wake up.

[thatpatti.livejournal.com]

we avoid these arguments by me just always having night duty. ;) thank god he's sleeping through the night finally!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ha! That kind of used to be the case (especially when I was nursing) but when I was stuck being awake for the day at 3am, we had to put something into place.

[thatpatti.livejournal.com]

yeah, i hear ya. thankfully i'm able to get back to sleep pretty easily, usually.

[scirocco.livejournal.com]

These kind of agreements around sleep issues always have some rough spots in them somewhere. A: Sleepy people don't always make coherent (to the non-sleeping person) decisions, and B: Sleep-deprivations makes everyone nuts.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

True and true. But man, we had a deal!!

[loretta78.livejournal.com]

Yuck!

Isn't today the day that you take Punk to get an ultrasound or something done? Or am I makin' stuff up again?

I seriously hope your day got better.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I took her for the ultrasound on friday and her hips were normal. We were supposed to go to Shriner's today but they switched the appointment to next Monday because we didn't have the ultrasound films.

Thanks for asking!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ugh, 5:30. It's so... DARK. I have a moral opposition to waking up when it is dark. :) Waking up with the sun just seems that much cheerier. This is one of the many reasons why I hate winter.

Hopefully I can impart this wisdom on my child. ;)

[evewasframed.livejournal.com]

I am sorry to hear that you had a rough morning! That just sucks. Matt and I sort of lucked out in that I like to stay up late and he gets up early for work. So I put Ava down at midnight and he feeds her before work at 5. After he feeds her he puts her back down and she stays asleep until at least 8:30, so everyone gets a good nights sleep.

I'm sure Jen will try a bit harder now that she's been publicly outed! :P

wow!

[(Anonymous)]

Wow- I have totally been there. It's always something!


-cleverclogs

[smurfbrother.livejournal.com]

5am is NOT the middle of the night - it's very close to time to get up!

Yep. Me, G, and roosters all the world over.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

If it's dark, it's nighttime. Yes.