Counseling, round 2
Feb. 3rd, 2004 08:54 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
judecorpI just came back from my second counseling session. We spent at least half of the time talking about national and state politics. Again I ask, "Should I be paying for this?"
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p.s. Our new checks came in the mail today. You know the ones. The ones with both of our names on them. (!!)
[Poll #243314]
p.s. Our new checks came in the mail today. You know the ones. The ones with both of our names on them. (!!)
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Date: 2004-02-04 02:06 am (UTC)OR she should be paying you for the pleasure of your company. ;)
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Date: 2004-02-04 05:16 am (UTC)And you're right, she should be paying ME!
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Date: 2004-02-04 02:07 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 05:15 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-04 05:45 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 10:28 pm (UTC)I could be your counselor.....
Date: 2004-02-04 02:11 am (UTC)ps, my guess is that she sees you as an equal, and does not want to treat you like a typical patient/customer. Perhaps it is like in Good Will Hunting, when Robin Williams character,and Matt Damon's character have a face off in there sessions. Maybe she is waiting for you to decide to tell her how to help you. Maybe she does not want to insult you by trying one of the techniques people in the "know" know.
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Date: 2004-02-04 05:14 am (UTC)Re: I could be your counselor.....
Date: 2004-02-04 11:30 am (UTC)Re: I could be your counselor.....
Date: 2004-02-04 10:26 pm (UTC)Re: I could be your counselor.....
Date: 2004-02-04 11:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 02:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 05:13 am (UTC)I mean, my goodness, I chat with social workers EVERY DAY for 8 hours! I don't need to do it again after work.
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Date: 2004-02-04 03:42 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 05:12 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 04:44 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 05:11 am (UTC)I mean, today, the most serious thing was when she asked me about why I said I was raised by my grandparents, and I told her it was because my mom left my dad when I was three, and she harped right on it. I was like, "Geeze, lady, that is /so/ not an issue! It's just reality."
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Date: 2004-02-04 04:57 am (UTC)I've never had counseling, so I'm the proverbial unmarried marriage counselor, here, but to me it seems like if you're uncomfortable, either confront it head-on or stop paying her. :)
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Date: 2004-02-04 05:10 am (UTC)But I think I am going to talk about it with my officemate at work (in past lives we were both therapists, and we're now caseworkers) and see if she thinks it's weird.
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Date: 2004-02-04 04:59 am (UTC)So if you were the clinician, and you were doing the stuff that she is doing: why would YOU be doing it?
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Date: 2004-02-04 05:08 am (UTC)This is a good question, and my honest answer is that I wouldn't. I wouldn't do the things she's doing, and I suppose that could be partially why it bugs me. Because of course I think I'm the best clinician ever. Or something.
I could see 10-15 minutes of random chit-chat about something like politics or television, you know? But not 40+ out of a 50 minute hour. I mean, she spent 10 minutes talking about what we were clinically talking about (which is the whole 'should I try tanning for SAD?' thing), and the rest of the time talking about Taft, Bush, and Janet Jackson's boob.
Somehow I don't know that talking about how bad the government is right now is helping my irritability.
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Date: 2004-02-04 06:17 am (UTC)Therapists are human (i.e. partially stupid) too ;-)
If you spend much more time past that on things unrelated to making Jude more happy, then change.
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Date: 2004-02-04 10:26 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-04 12:41 pm (UTC)maybe she thinks you are lonely and just coming in for someone to talk about,
maybe she's trying to assess your personality / extent of contact with the "real" world my seeing what your opinions and knowledge of pop culture are. (The quotes were for you
but probably you are just going to have to level with her. Either she will explain or she will ask you if you have been keeping up with the last season of friends.
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Date: 2004-02-05 04:02 pm (UTC)Ha ha ha about the quotes! And on that note, say hi to "Megan" for me!
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Date: 2004-02-04 06:12 am (UTC)Sorry... couldn't help myself....
*slinks away again*
And yay on the checks!
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Date: 2004-02-04 10:27 pm (UTC):)
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Date: 2004-02-04 12:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 10:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 11:19 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-05 04:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-04 10:58 pm (UTC)I didn't answer the poll because the random chit-chat has a purpose that you failed to list:
She's trying to establish which of the following classifications you fall into:
- Slightly off
- Mildly disturbed
- Somewhat crazy
- Stark raving bonkers
- Total nutjob
- Complete headcase
- Fucking crazy
- Apeshit
- Ooobie doobie dabba wakka wakka kaboom! Fzort! Pblblblbb!
This, naturally, is a very scientific process. It takes time to make such a determination. The differences between a total nutjob and a complete headcase are subtle and delicate. Often, the only way to truly tell is by odor. Next session, open with this: "I don't smell like canned peaches. At all. You can smell me if you like, but I think it would help me build a rapport with you if you'd just trust me on this."no subject
Date: 2004-02-05 04:01 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-05 04:17 pm (UTC)It's not such a bad thing to be somewhat crazy, either. That's what makes you interesting.
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Date: 2004-02-05 04:42 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-05 07:04 pm (UTC)no subject