Holiday cards and families
Dec. 20th, 2005 11:27 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
judecorpI just got back from the doctor and we received a good spread of holiday cards today. Yay! I was starting to think that we weren't as loved as we were last year but I guess everyone was kind of slow with the cards this year, not just me.
In the decidedly yay column, my grandmother sent a card addressed to both of us. Not just inside the card but on the envelope, with both full names. That was nice. I don't think she's ever done that before. I'm pretty sure she usually sends the outside of the card to just me. My grandparents, God bless them, are really amazing people for 80somethings. They've been really great about including Jen in family things, and I'm sure it wasn't always easy to do. So yay, Grandma!
Jen's oldest brother, M, and SIL, R, send those printed notes every year with everything they've done, all the trips they've taken and how great everything is and blah blah blah. And somewhere in the printed sheet they mention that they're going to Florida for Christmas to see M's parents and that "M's sister, Jen, and her partner, Jude will be joining us for part of the time" and, hello - we're married. Nothing against the word 'partner,' after all, we used it for a while ourselves - and let's face it, it's nice to be included at all - but we're married. Married! Bring on the married words, people!
Then again, I'm probably overly snarky and sensitive because R (SIL) is now some sort of consultant for Sandals resorts (she's a wedding planner) and Sandals is ridiculously homophobic and disgusting and won't let same-sex couples into their resorts. Really. Only opposite-sex couples can stay in their resorts. So how anyone with queers in their family can go SLEEP WITH THE ENEMY is beyond me. So yes, the snarky snark. Snarkeroo! (To be fair, I get equally indignant whenever my mom and her husband stay at Sandals resorts, because I've told her a million times that they hate the queers and they give them their money anyway. Argh!) ETA: Okay, so apparently Sandals dropped their opposite-sex-couples-only policy quietly last year. Weird. I wonder why they don't advertise it?
Thanks also for the little packages from![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
crena. We'll save them for when we open up all our gifts on Christmas Eve. :) You're so sweet!
In the decidedly yay column, my grandmother sent a card addressed to both of us. Not just inside the card but on the envelope, with both full names. That was nice. I don't think she's ever done that before. I'm pretty sure she usually sends the outside of the card to just me. My grandparents, God bless them, are really amazing people for 80somethings. They've been really great about including Jen in family things, and I'm sure it wasn't always easy to do. So yay, Grandma!
Jen's oldest brother, M, and SIL, R, send those printed notes every year with everything they've done, all the trips they've taken and how great everything is and blah blah blah. And somewhere in the printed sheet they mention that they're going to Florida for Christmas to see M's parents and that "M's sister, Jen, and her partner, Jude will be joining us for part of the time" and, hello - we're married. Nothing against the word 'partner,' after all, we used it for a while ourselves - and let's face it, it's nice to be included at all - but we're married. Married! Bring on the married words, people!
Then again, I'm probably overly snarky and sensitive because R (SIL) is now some sort of consultant for Sandals resorts (she's a wedding planner) and Sandals is ridiculously homophobic and disgusting and won't let same-sex couples into their resorts. Really. Only opposite-sex couples can stay in their resorts. So how anyone with queers in their family can go SLEEP WITH THE ENEMY is beyond me. So yes, the snarky snark. Snarkeroo! (To be fair, I get equally indignant whenever my mom and her husband stay at Sandals resorts, because I've told her a million times that they hate the queers and they give them their money anyway. Argh!) ETA: Okay, so apparently Sandals dropped their opposite-sex-couples-only policy quietly last year. Weird. I wonder why they don't advertise it?
Thanks also for the little packages from
crena. We'll save them for when we open up all our gifts on Christmas Eve. :) You're so sweet!
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Date: 2005-12-20 04:50 pm (UTC)Remind me never to go there.
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Date: 2005-12-20 04:54 pm (UTC)So I suppose Sandals isn't the Devil anymore. Much.
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Date: 2005-12-20 05:12 pm (UTC)"Verbivoracious"
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Date: 2005-12-21 03:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-12-20 06:02 pm (UTC)You should correct them. "Oh, that was sweet to mention us in your letter, but you forgot to refer to us as married! I hope I don't have to refer to the two of you as 'boyfriend-girlfriend' or something!" then grin like crazy. I know most straight married couples wouldn't like to be referred to as dating instead of married, so there's no reason you two can't feel the same way.
Because those straight folks that go there who think queers are TEH EVIL might be scared or something. :)
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Date: 2005-12-21 03:32 am (UTC)2. I'm sure I won't end up saying anything to my BIL and SIL, mostly because I don't know them very well. But maybe Jen will! HA - buck passing! :)
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Date: 2005-12-21 03:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-12-21 03:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-12-20 09:25 pm (UTC)and I sent it out today. I = teh suck. It was just sitting patiently on my desk, waiting to be mailed out.
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Date: 2005-12-21 03:31 am (UTC)re: ETA
Date: 2005-12-20 11:18 pm (UTC)Re: ETA
Date: 2005-12-21 03:30 am (UTC)It was only after I was Googling to respond to a comment to someone that I saw that they had secretly changed their policy.