The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

[judecorp]

The Good: - My coworkers and I went to our 5:15pm assessment and at the end of it, we kind of got to chatting about baseball. (The family is big into baseball, but Mom is a Sox fan and Dad is a Yankees fan.) And then Dad hands us, seriously just hands over, 4 tickets to a Yankee game on a Saturday in July that the family can't go to because of other commitments. I said, "Are you sure you want to give these away?" and he said it was to thank us for how much time and effort we spend with his kid. Awwwh.

The Bad: - We got our negative beta today as expected. With a heads-up that if we're not successful next cycle, we'll have to come back in to "talk about what's up" and "decide what to do next." Ugh.

The Bad: - My BIL (Jen's brother) finally got around to responding to Jen's e-mail from about 1.5 months ago asking if he would consider being a donor for us. Aside from saying no (which is totally fine), he added an addendum about how he doesn't think Jen is mature enough, stable enough, or financially secure enough to consider parenting. He spent considerable time telling her how much of a challenge and commitment kids are and how he encourages her to rethink things because she is clearly not in any position to parent. (My take on this: He has issues with his family situation and is projecting his issues on Jen.) How DARE anyone assault my wife's character that way? I seriously want to call him up and yell at him for several hours. Who does that? If he had wanted to impart some kind "older brother" wisdom, I'm sure he could have thought of more appropriate words.

The Ugly: - Jen went to the doctor again this morning for this persistent series of hives/welts she keeps getting all over her body. Her doctor continues to maintain that she is having some sort of allergic reaction. But now she believes her allergy is to a bedbug infestation in our house. I am going to vomit now.

Comments

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Maybe they will up your clomid or something if it doesn't work next time.

That's awful that Jen's brother said that!

You know I wached this Shalom in the Home show last night on TLC and they had a lesbian couple on who were having problems with one of their daughters being distant. Anyway turns out that they had kids like you are - one of them got inseminated with an anon sperm donor & they have 2 beautiful daughters! It was sad hearing their story because their families didn't really accept them or anything. the entire thing reminded me of you.

Oh no, bedbugs!!! I saw those on tv. What can you do to get rid of them?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Gosh, I wish they would up my Clomid NOW because I'm ready for a change NOW. We're switching donors for the next cycle so maybe that will be enough of a change. Who knows? I guess the doctor will be doing the same protocol this time around. I'm wondering, though, what other things he will suggest - an HSG or something? Yuck.

Well, hopefully I won't be like those people on television and we will have families that love and accept our kids. Although I can't speak for my BIL... he probably just has one of those "big brother complexes" or whatever. And I told Jen I think he's REALLY wanting to keep being the only kid in her family to have kids and give her parents grandchildren.

As for bedbugs, the doctor told us to have the landlord fumigate the house. THE WHOLE HOUSE! (All three floors.) And we have cats and would need to find someplace to bring them when this was happening. And the landlords are probably super annoyed about this. And I don't know if we would have to, like, clean all of our clothes, too! I have no idea! Must research.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Why not call & ask about uping the clomid this time around? I think you still have a few days. Also for me they started me taking it days 5-9 but I was ovulating so late she switched it to days 3-7 - I'm not sure what days you are taking it but it might be an idea. I hope the new donor works for you. The couple on tv 2 daughters both had the same donor which was kind of neat I thought.

That sucks you have to fumigate your whole house but I am glad you found out about it! I hope you get it figured out.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I take it days 3-7. Actually the first cycle I took it days 4-8 and actually that was my best cycle (earliest O) but I think that was because I had less stress more than anything else. I don't really want to up the Clomid because it is working - I am growing follicles and ovulating and all of that, so upping it just seems like it would increase the side effects.

I now have an appointment for a few days after my next expected beta in case it is negative. My doctor's office likes to "do things in threes" and if something doesn't work in three tries, they move on to something more aggressive. I wonder what they will suggest. I hope I don't have to find out!