Another chapter in this crazy life

[judecorp]

Jen just accepted a job in Amherst this morning. She went to two interviews which incurred a lot of rental car cost, so I'm excited that there will be no more rental cars. They originally really lowballed her offer with the promise of giving her $1500 raises at 3 months and 6 months, which was pretty much unacceptable because we would not be able to even think about paying bills. She told them that she couldn't take that low salary at a time when we would be buying a new car and living in two households, and they agreed to ditch the staggered raise thing. The salary is still really low and is a bare minimum of what might get her share of the bills paid, but it's not $9K less than she made last year (which was their original offer).

So it looks like she'll be moving out there in a couple of weeks and I will be here for an undisclosed amount of time. At the very least I will be here through the next two rounds of IUIs, and if one is successful, I will find out when the doctor says it is safe to realistically go (although I will probably want to boogie ASAP). Jen will be living on a friend's couch (THANK YOU, jadefu!) and I'm sure that is going to suck for her.

I'm scared at the massiveness of the expense of all of this. Thankfully she can couch-surf a little and save some "get a second apartment" expense... but there will be a ton of gas money for the back-and-forth and of course we now need to acquire a second car with our Boston address and pay Boston insurance for right now. This is the biggest, scariest expense of all. I'm confident we can get a car we can afford (we were making payments on Jen's car until my dad died, I think) but doubling our already skyhigh insurance is going to be a killer. I wish we had a fake address we could use in western MA and insure cars there. It's GOTTA be cheaper than Dorchester.

I'm hoping to be out there in November but I don't know if that will happen, because we'll have to find a place to live, too. I am REALLY not looking forward to not seeing Jen except on weekends. At all.

Maybe I can temporarily borrow my grandmother's car or something... I dunno.

Comments

[jadefu.livejournal.com]

Ok, here's you're wake up call: IT'S AN HOUR AND A HALF TO GET TO BOSTON. Yes, really. :) (Ok, not counting if you hit rush hour traffic, but I've made it to wgbh in 1.5 hrs before.) There's a reason western MA has so much hostility toward Boston, and that's 'cos Bostonites think to get out here you have to drive to South Dakoka first.

Look at the big picture. How long is this, a few months? To be a few hours away? For a better living situation in the long run? Sounds like a small sacrifice to pay.

So, yeah. No whining, no complaining. It's all positive. If *I* can deal with a harder situation with still no end in site, you sure as hell can handle this.

That's my wake up call of the morning. Love you both. :)

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

Ditto the 1.5 hour thing. Matt had to go out there on Tuesday and he left at 3 and was back by 6:30 and he had to transact business in Northampton. So.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Dude, I hope Jen doesn't EVER drive as fast as Matt!!

[prunesnprisms.livejournal.com]

Fine, I'm just saying.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I hear ya, I just remember when Matt got us home from Rehoboth in like 6 hours. (Okay, that might be a slight exaggeration.) Jen isn't used to driving anymore!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I don't think I really need a wake up call. I know it's temporary, I know it's not so bad... but I also know I will miss my wife and I don't think there's anything wrong with saying it. I mean, I'm sure you can relate - yes your situation is livable but it's not ideal. Our situation will be less severe than that (closer distance, shorter duration) but I can still say I'm going to miss her, can't I? Because I will.

I don't really feel like I was whining. Except about the extra bills.

[jadefu.livejournal.com]

Geez, I was trying to be funny. Sorry.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Oh, I totally misunderstood! I'm sorry. :( I thought you were ticked at me for making light of your situation (which I totally wouldn't do ever).

I am going to blame it on being sick. And apologize some more.