Another chapter in this crazy life
Sep. 14th, 2006 08:28 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Jen just accepted a job in Amherst this morning. She went to two interviews which incurred a lot of rental car cost, so I'm excited that there will be no more rental cars. They originally really lowballed her offer with the promise of giving her $1500 raises at 3 months and 6 months, which was pretty much unacceptable because we would not be able to even think about paying bills. She told them that she couldn't take that low salary at a time when we would be buying a new car and living in two households, and they agreed to ditch the staggered raise thing. The salary is still really low and is a bare minimum of what might get her share of the bills paid, but it's not $9K less than she made last year (which was their original offer).
So it looks like she'll be moving out there in a couple of weeks and I will be here for an undisclosed amount of time. At the very least I will be here through the next two rounds of IUIs, and if one is successful, I will find out when the doctor says it is safe to realistically go (although I will probably want to boogie ASAP). Jen will be living on a friend's couch (THANK YOU,
jadefu!) and I'm sure that is going to suck for her.
I'm scared at the massiveness of the expense of all of this. Thankfully she can couch-surf a little and save some "get a second apartment" expense... but there will be a ton of gas money for the back-and-forth and of course we now need to acquire a second car with our Boston address and pay Boston insurance for right now. This is the biggest, scariest expense of all. I'm confident we can get a car we can afford (we were making payments on Jen's car until my dad died, I think) but doubling our already skyhigh insurance is going to be a killer. I wish we had a fake address we could use in western MA and insure cars there. It's GOTTA be cheaper than Dorchester.
I'm hoping to be out there in November but I don't know if that will happen, because we'll have to find a place to live, too. I am REALLY not looking forward to not seeing Jen except on weekends. At all.
Maybe I can temporarily borrow my grandmother's car or something... I dunno.
So it looks like she'll be moving out there in a couple of weeks and I will be here for an undisclosed amount of time. At the very least I will be here through the next two rounds of IUIs, and if one is successful, I will find out when the doctor says it is safe to realistically go (although I will probably want to boogie ASAP). Jen will be living on a friend's couch (THANK YOU,
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I'm scared at the massiveness of the expense of all of this. Thankfully she can couch-surf a little and save some "get a second apartment" expense... but there will be a ton of gas money for the back-and-forth and of course we now need to acquire a second car with our Boston address and pay Boston insurance for right now. This is the biggest, scariest expense of all. I'm confident we can get a car we can afford (we were making payments on Jen's car until my dad died, I think) but doubling our already skyhigh insurance is going to be a killer. I wish we had a fake address we could use in western MA and insure cars there. It's GOTTA be cheaper than Dorchester.
I'm hoping to be out there in November but I don't know if that will happen, because we'll have to find a place to live, too. I am REALLY not looking forward to not seeing Jen except on weekends. At all.
Maybe I can temporarily borrow my grandmother's car or something... I dunno.
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Date: 2006-09-14 12:53 pm (UTC)I'm not sure who you do your insurance thoug, but it might be worthwhile to talk to your agent and explain your situation, and see if you can get Northampton to be considered the primary location for the second car. They may be able to do something like that.
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Date: 2006-09-15 02:14 am (UTC)We're not planning on renting anything there. We're hoping to buy.
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Date: 2006-09-14 01:32 pm (UTC)Jude, we're planning to sell our car and buy a newer one because I'm sick of driving stick in the city, but I don't know if you guys would be interested. We have a (v. reliable) 95 Civic.
Also, guess who still has boxes!
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Date: 2006-09-14 01:33 pm (UTC)Look at the big picture. How long is this, a few months? To be a few hours away? For a better living situation in the long run? Sounds like a small sacrifice to pay.
So, yeah. No whining, no complaining. It's all positive. If *I* can deal with a harder situation with still no end in site, you sure as hell can handle this.
That's my wake up call of the morning. Love you both. :)
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Date: 2006-09-15 02:20 am (UTC)I don't really feel like I was whining. Except about the extra bills.
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Date: 2006-09-14 04:11 pm (UTC)It's good to get a new job. This is one step closer to your goal... A scary step but a step all the same.
For me it would be the being apart that would suck the most. That and having to go to the darn doctor with out your support system with you.
I hope this time goes fast and you can get to her and you all can find a uber cool place to live in the new town.
Have you check out the doctors in the new place?
Here's hoping that this is THE month!
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Date: 2006-09-15 02:23 am (UTC)I haven't looked at doctors yet. I think it will be good to get in a little break if we are unsuccessful before the big move. Also, I don't know if I will have insurance right away.
I hope this is the month, too! But I always hope this is the month. ;)
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Date: 2006-09-15 01:22 am (UTC)I will be in Amhest at Chez Dubin Thanksgiving weekend. Want to hang out?
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Date: 2006-09-15 02:25 am (UTC)Thanks for the offer of crash action - I will keep you posted if it is ever needed (and hopefully won't be)... but if your parents have any advice about homebuying out there, that would be cool. :)
I don't really want to use a "fake address" because I like to be legit and stuff. Especially since we have a renter's policy, the insurance company would be on to us.
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Date: 2006-09-15 01:30 am (UTC)I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and Saturday by the way.
:)
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Date: 2006-09-15 01:40 am (UTC)*hugs*
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