Another chapter in this crazy life

[judecorp]

Jen just accepted a job in Amherst this morning. She went to two interviews which incurred a lot of rental car cost, so I'm excited that there will be no more rental cars. They originally really lowballed her offer with the promise of giving her $1500 raises at 3 months and 6 months, which was pretty much unacceptable because we would not be able to even think about paying bills. She told them that she couldn't take that low salary at a time when we would be buying a new car and living in two households, and they agreed to ditch the staggered raise thing. The salary is still really low and is a bare minimum of what might get her share of the bills paid, but it's not $9K less than she made last year (which was their original offer).

So it looks like she'll be moving out there in a couple of weeks and I will be here for an undisclosed amount of time. At the very least I will be here through the next two rounds of IUIs, and if one is successful, I will find out when the doctor says it is safe to realistically go (although I will probably want to boogie ASAP). Jen will be living on a friend's couch (THANK YOU, jadefu!) and I'm sure that is going to suck for her.

I'm scared at the massiveness of the expense of all of this. Thankfully she can couch-surf a little and save some "get a second apartment" expense... but there will be a ton of gas money for the back-and-forth and of course we now need to acquire a second car with our Boston address and pay Boston insurance for right now. This is the biggest, scariest expense of all. I'm confident we can get a car we can afford (we were making payments on Jen's car until my dad died, I think) but doubling our already skyhigh insurance is going to be a killer. I wish we had a fake address we could use in western MA and insure cars there. It's GOTTA be cheaper than Dorchester.

I'm hoping to be out there in November but I don't know if that will happen, because we'll have to find a place to live, too. I am REALLY not looking forward to not seeing Jen except on weekends. At all.

Maybe I can temporarily borrow my grandmother's car or something... I dunno.

Comments

[aminahfiddler.livejournal.com]

Yea crap Yea crap.

It's good to get a new job. This is one step closer to your goal... A scary step but a step all the same.

For me it would be the being apart that would suck the most. That and having to go to the darn doctor with out your support system with you.

I hope this time goes fast and you can get to her and you all can find a uber cool place to live in the new town.

Have you check out the doctors in the new place?

Here's hoping that this is THE month!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm not looking forward to the being apart thing. I mean, as it is we don't get a heck of a lot of time together with her work schedule (retail sucks) so the idea of having LESS time... sucks. But hopefully it will be a quick thing and work out better in the end.

I haven't looked at doctors yet. I think it will be good to get in a little break if we are unsuccessful before the big move. Also, I don't know if I will have insurance right away.

I hope this is the month, too! But I always hope this is the month. ;)

[siercia]

You might find though, that the time you DO get to spend together will be better - time that you can focus on being together, instead of the day to day shorter interactions that are full of daily stress.

Plus, a Jennifer that has a job that makes her happy with be a happier Jennifer, which can't be a bad thing, right?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

1. I sure hope this job makes her happier. I mean, she has not liked a single job she's had since we've been together, so I don't even know what that will look like! Although the hours will be better. :)

2. And yes, I definitely think the weekends will be more positive because there will be more effort to spend time together, which is one of my main frustrations currently. But I wish it didn't have to be this way to get the focus, yanno?

[siercia]

I do know. I also know how incredibly difficult it is to get that kind of focus in a real life daily relationship with someone. And that ony gets harder when you add kid(s) into the mix.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Can't you just LIE about that a little bit? ;)

[siercia]

But if I lie, I don't get to be my normal pessimistic self ;)

But I do worry. I know how hard you and J struggle now sometimes, and I worry that succeeding in starting a family will make that harder instead of easier, and I really want you guys to be happy.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Well sure, I worry too. But I also think a lot of the difficulties in our situation revolve pretty heavily on the retail schedule. Once that's out of the picture, I like to think that things will be a little more even keel.