Just apologize, dude. For REALZ.
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judecorpOkay, this is annoying. It's a total pet peeve of mine. Or really, more than a pet peeve. It's something that I get really REALLY angry about.
Pope sorry for reaction to his remarks.
I don't care if you are the Pope or whoever, you do NOT apologize for someone else's reaction. You apologize for your mistake, or your action, or your decision, or YOUR anything. "Apologizing" for someone's reaction or feelings is not apologizing at all!
I would feel a lot better if the article said, "Pope sorry for words spoken during oration," or something like that. Instead we get:
Few things irritate me more than when someone "apologizes" to me saying, "I'm sorry you're hurt/sad/upset." I tend to snap back, "Please don't apologize for me." I just can't stand it.
Way to victim blame, Pope.
Pope sorry for reaction to his remarks.
I don't care if you are the Pope or whoever, you do NOT apologize for someone else's reaction. You apologize for your mistake, or your action, or your decision, or YOUR anything. "Apologizing" for someone's reaction or feelings is not apologizing at all!
I would feel a lot better if the article said, "Pope sorry for words spoken during oration," or something like that. Instead we get:
"At this time I wish also to add that I am deeply sorry for the reactions in some countries to a few passages of my address at the University of Regensburg, which were considered offensive to the sensibility of Muslims," the pope said Sunday.
Few things irritate me more than when someone "apologizes" to me saying, "I'm sorry you're hurt/sad/upset." I tend to snap back, "Please don't apologize for me." I just can't stand it.
Way to victim blame, Pope.
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Date: 2006-10-11 01:04 am (UTC)Yes, I can see what you're saying about the sincerity aspect... and sometimes people /are/ genuinely sorry that someone is, say, feeling upset. But I still believe that if I had /any/ hand in the person's upset feelings, my apology means more if it's about my part than their feelings. Now if someone's just upset and it doesn't have anything to do with me, that's a different story entirely.
And I can totally see the "disagreeing appropriately" thing as an alternative to some people's current problem-solving skill set. You're talking about people in a residential setting and I'm talking about someone whose supposed spiritual and vocational calling is to lead an enormous religious community and act as a spiritual guide to TONS of people. So I guess what I'm saying is that I hold him to higher standards, especially when there are throes of people who are using his actions/words as a guidepost for their own.