Words in the house

[judecorp]

We talked for about a million years over the past day and a half about houses, and I have to say that although it is stressful, it is nice that we are doing so much talking. Things have been kind of... quiet for the last bunch of months while we both figure out how to deal with the babymaking stuff, a quiet that started some time around when my dad died and never really perked up. It's nice to have words in the house again, real words that don't eventually turn into something else. I'm pleased.

We did what any self-respecting nerds would do and started researching septic systems like woah. My two big catches with Jen's Dream House are the septic and the electric heat. I now think the septic is doable, after talking to a couple of people who have septics, after researching what to look for in problems on the internet, after deciding to hire a separate inspector who is certified in septic systems if we end up going with that house. The realtor is going to go into the system as if she is listing the house herself and find out a lot of information about its true value. We also looked online to see what other houses are appraised at in the area and what they've sold for - the community was all built up in the early 70s so everything is kind of on the same playing field.

We talked a lot about not living in the mecca of Northampton and realized that in our history together, we always sacrificed location for living space - here in Dorchester of course, and in Harrison West (instead of Short North). We've always went for the nicer place in the less "smack in the middle of things" area and it has worked very well for us. We stay home quite a bit and we like to entertain... so the better place has definitely been worth it, here especially.

I have both an early day and a late day today. Sometimes my scheduling skills (or lack thereof) amaze me. I may duck out of book club (again, I don't know why I read the books) if the car is in. Who knows?

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[grrlpower.livejournal.com]

CUTEST.USERPIC.EVER


that is all

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Awwwh, thanks! :)

[aminahfiddler.livejournal.com]

It must have been the weekend for HOUSE talks. Well ours weren't exactly talks. But I feel like we finally heard each other. I kept saying we couldn't afford a house. He was hearing I didn't want to buy a house and was afraid. No, i mean that we can't afford that actual mortgage payment on a house. He's not making as much as he should. Hopefully we'll find a nice place based on my salary and he'll start busting his butt and make some money. Ahhhhhh

It is nice to talk about something and hear each other and make decisions together. It's part of being a couple that I'm learning about and really enjoying.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad you guys had good communication! Good luck with the rental house search and maybe in housebuying in the future! It sure is expensive and we couldn't even be considering it if my dad hadn't died and we didn't just sell his house.

[tool-of-satan.livejournal.com]

While I would rather be on the sewer system, we have a septic tank and it hasn't been a problem. The key things to remember are:

Get it inspected before you close, obviously you have this covered.

Remember to get it pumped out every so often.

Have the inspector (and then the pumpers) mark where the tank opening is. When we got it pumped I dug a lot of holes and still couldn't find the bloody thing, despite having the measurements - the septic guys located it, but it cost extra.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Good idea on marking the opening. Thanks for the tip. And I'm glad to know you've had a septic system without problems. I think we're both pretty organized, rational people - so if you keep yours going with regular maintenance and common sense, I think I can, too.

[ktmcda.livejournal.com]

bla bla bla whatever.

LOOK AT HOW CUTE YOU ARE IN YOUR ICON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel a little gay right now!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's the long hair and the strappy dress, isn't it? You're a sucker for the girly girls!

[damdyke.livejournal.com]

That's one of my favorite parts of relationship. That moment when you realize that you've just reconnected in a familiar way again. I wish we lived in that space all the time, but life seems to get in the way. It seems to make those connections all the sweeter.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I totally know what you mean about life getting in the way.

Sometimes it sucks that we feel so much for each other. Feeling so much gets hairy at times.

[damdyke.livejournal.com]

No doubt. And that's a great way of looking at it. It's something I'll keep in mind, especially when I've taken something personally. Thanks, Jude.

[damdyke.livejournal.com]

I couldn't help but use cute twinkie icons!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I love cute!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I can use the reminders, too.

p.s. CUTE picture!

[00solstice.livejournal.com]

what happened to this one (http://idx.mlspin.com/details.asp?mls=70432864&aid=E0000PMG)?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We went into it - it was one of the 8 houses we saw on Saturday. The yard was still gorgeous but it had structural flaws. I think it was built into a yard that had been partially filled and then it had settled - you could actually FEEL the slant in the floor as you went down the hall, and that didn't sit well with me. Also, the windows were super old and drafty, and one window sill had mold. It wasn't a good choice.

[vorpalbla.livejournal.com]

The place in Harrison West was still an excellent location, IMHO. It's not like you were living out in the suburbs.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Totally. But it wasn't right in the swing of things. We looked at a couple of placed on Neil Ave. and closer to High Street but they were much pricier.