Motherversary

[judecorp]

We've been legally married two whole years today! That's just crazy talk. (And yes, if you do the 'back math,' we got married on Friday the 13th, and I wouldn't have had it any other way.) I'm glad for a number of things: that we've still got each other, that we're still in love, and that our marriage is still (at least for the time being) legal in our state. Good times.

It's also our first Mother's Day as mothers-to-be, and that's a nice little accompaniment to the day. Last year, for our first anniversary, I took Jen away to the Cape for a weekend and with a heavy dose of chutzpah gave her a "mommy-to-be" card and told her that I hoped this would be our last Mother's Day without something to celebrate. Phew, I'm glad I wasn't wrong on that one.

Sometimes I think back on the road we've taken to get to this point and it blows me away. In some ways it's particularly suiting that our anniversary and Mother's Day will always come side-by-side, because one of the things that keeps us determined to go as strong as possible is the struggle that we go through every day just to try to keep what sorts of family rights we can hold on to. I can't believe that this time last year we'd already had one failed IUI and were on our way to finding out that #2 was a bust as well. Next would come our cancelled cycle, our break cycle for the awful HSG, and then three back-to-back injectibles cycles. Then the positive test. And the two heartbeats! And the bleeding. And the lost baby. And the bleeding. And the ER. And then... 18 weeks of clear sailing.

I think we've both learned a lot in the past year about both roles: being partners AND being mothers. I'd love to say that it was totally smooth and easy all the way through, but I can't. What I can say, though, with total sincerity, is that it is totally worth it in the end - on both counts.

I love my wife, and I love watching her become a mommy.

~//~

p.s. Happy mama's day to all the mamas out there: kid mamas, animal mamas, mamas-to-be, mamas of angels, mamas-working-on-becoming-mamas, foster mamas, and any combinations thereof. xo

Comments

[prettyvacantone.livejournal.com]

Happy mama's day AND anniversary!! *hugs hugs*

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much. You are a sweetie!

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

Happy Anniversary to you and Jen ... and Happy Mother's Day to the expectant Mommas! I know what you mean about the bumpy road to motherhood. Last year at this time we had just m/c on our first FET cycle after a failed IVF cycle in January. When you hold little August in your arms all of the pain will melt away ...

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Gosh, I can't believe it has been so long since your m/c. It seems like it wasn't that long ago... but then again, you had a whole pregnancy with Emma so I guess it was!

[mayna.livejournal.com]

With 2 moms you get to go out for breakfast AND dinner. ;-)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ha! We actually didn't go anywhere special to eat at all. No money this year. Maybe next year!

[mayna.livejournal.com]

oh and then lunch too to celebrate your anniversary. ;-)

Congrats, guys!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

No anniversary dinner this year, either. First time, I think. But we're going away for a quick weekend next weekend, and maybe we can do some anniversary stuff then.

[shadist.livejournal.com]

Happy mothers day to you.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

[everyday-fire.livejournal.com]

AWWWWWWWW!!!!!!! I can not wait until my wife and I can have a baby... and when I can call her my wife in NY and have it be actually a technical term and not just a sentiment... ugh. But watching (ok, reading) about every step of the journey you've been on together is just amazing and makes me realize that it can happen someday; it will just take a lot of planning and a lot of loving and supporting each other and extra tears over the mere coincidence that one of us doesn't happen to have any sperm... oh, bother. But so worth it!! So maybe this makes me a complete cyber geek, and I'll take that, but I also think it makes me a rural partnered dyke with a big need for a role model- but I can't wait to see the pictures of you and your family when August Ruth is born... and see all that is to come... All the best to you on Mother's Day and your anniversary...
Elyse

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

I am very hopeful that you will have all of those things. I don't know when it will happen, probably never soon enough for me, but one day this country will get its head out of its butt and realize that they are not helping ANYONE with all of this legislation - they are only hurting people.

Thanks for all of your kind words. I know that it is not an easy road all the time, and we have had some less than stellar moments, reactions from families, etc. But in the end it will be worth it if we can all hang on to each other, right?

[fatfeistyfemme.livejournal.com]

Happy Anniversary!! You two are so lovely together.

I'm still making out with you tho.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You'll have to keep it a secret from Jen, though. She called a kibosh on all of my extracurricular making out.

[fatfeistyfemme.livejournal.com]

aww. well, I'm not a downlow kinda girl, so I'll sit patiently until makeouts are non-threatening again ;)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Party pooper.

[girlonthewire.livejournal.com]

happy anniversary and mother's day to you two. i'm looking forward to getting to you know you guys better. :)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Happy Mother's Day to you, times two! xo

[stapynam.livejournal.com]

yay for two years!! happy anniversary and mother's day:)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! Happy Mother's Day to you also!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

As long as she doesn't kick OUR asses, we're all set.

xoxoxoooooo

[aminahfiddler.livejournal.com]

Happy Mother's day and anniversary to both you and Jen.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, K!

[evewasframed.livejournal.com]

Congrats to you and Jen! I remember the day that they made the announcement that the state had 180 days to recognize same sex marriages. I was in shock and sat on my coffee table watching the tv with tears in my eyes. I was so thrilled. I hope I never see the day when it gets repealed.

The babes was kicking (and still is!) as I was reading your good wishes to moms-to-be! I can't wait to be a mother!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Yay! Your kid digs us, that is fun!

You are already a mama. You are doing a great job! xoxo

[evewasframed.livejournal.com]

My baby is HUGE into same-sex marriage.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

That just makes me love her MORE.

[changinglight.livejournal.com]

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Indeed!!

[beckon-you-on.livejournal.com]

congrats!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you! :)

[skatured.livejournal.com]

Congratulations!

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much!

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

Happy Anniversary and Happy Mother's Day...and a world of good wishes to you both.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you for all of your love and friendship. I love you!

[(Anonymous)]

awww you make me all teary eyed!
-Lynn

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's just the hormones. ;)

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you! Happy Mother's Day to you as well!

[childlight.livejournal.com]

Oh you are so sweet thank you

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

You're very welcome!

[wendywoowho.livejournal.com]

I love my wife, and I love watching her become a mommy.


Aw! Now you've got me crying.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

There's no crying in LJ!!

[wendywoowho.livejournal.com]

You are so, so very wrong.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Ain't THAT the truth.

[wendywoowho.livejournal.com]

I would never lead you astray, Jude.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's true. It's why I love you.

[mermil.livejournal.com]

Congratulations-- I think you've earned all the happiness you've gotten, and I wish you much more to come.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I don't know what I've done to earn anything, but I'd like to tap into it all the same. :)