Where does the time go?

[judecorp]

I really don't understand how mayna can manage to post and comment so much. Her baby is one week old! My kid will be four weeks old on Sunday and I don't feel like I have time to do anything other than clean bottles, do laundry, and try to stuff food in my face whenever I can. And if I ever have to leave the house to run an errand or something, forget it. All bets are off.

I had my postpartum checkup today and it was good to see The Midwife I Love, especially since she was so sweet and supportive about our nursing woes. She told me to "throw away all of the teas and tinctures" and stop beating myself up for low supply. I'm working on it, but it was nice to know that my hippie midwife was like, "It happens. Some people don't make much/any milk," and didn't give me any more pumping schedules or "helpful tips."

My mom and John (her husband) are in RI overnight visiting friends. It is so quiet here without people in the house, but I had to do my own dishes. Bummer. What am I going to do on Sunday when she leaves for real? I am comfortable with my mom doing chores around the house but I feel weird about the idea of Jen's parents cleaning my house. I guess it's because they're not my parents. *shrug* Hopefully I can get over it.

Jen put up some cute pictures on her Flickr account. Yay!

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[laursabeth.livejournal.com]

very cute pictures!

[ladysapphire.livejournal.com]

I completely understand with the whole "they're not my parents". My mom is going to come help us out when the boys come home and after that Chris's parents will be comming and that is weird to me and hopefully i wont go crazy.

[kjames.livejournal.com]

i'm not on her FL but i can say, when it's not your first kid it's A LOT easier to go back to some semblance of normal life. your life has already been adjusted to the world of kids and babies... so there is what appears to be more time.

i'm really glad your midwife is so supportive. that helps so much.

those pictures of august? i love! i esp love the one of you holding her. so sweet!

[sassywoman.livejournal.com]

I can totally relate to the in-law thing. I love it when my mom/dad are here and cringe sometimes when Joel's parents are here. His mom is great with her but she is so neurotic about things ... example, she was crying so I put a blanket over her head to where she could still breathe but didn't see me so maybe she would think it was you holding her. Seriously ... WTF.

I'm off to clean bottles. Nightly and morning rituals help keep things under control here but I never feel like there is time to sit down and just rest.

[vlindinhauer.livejournal.com]

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I don't know how U post so much! I'll take this moment before your usual 12000 comments come in to say "congrats, good luck, and may divine fortune bless you and yours."

C U 'round.

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[estrange.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean about not being able to keep up! M is 7 months old and D 3 1/2 and I can't keep up for th elife of me!

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

Yay for pictures! *hugs*

[carina-s.livejournal.com]

Also, I don't know anyone with kids has time to post... but I think they make time to remember the good stuff.

It's weird to think of a time when I didn't have livejournal/my blog. Can it be that I really wrote about my kids and all of the things that happened with them with pen and paper?

[smurfbrother.livejournal.com]

Maybe they won't even offer to do the dishes!

[mayna.livejournal.com]

I can nurse and use the laptop at the same time... (and she nurses ALL THE TIME or sleeps). If I haev something good to post, I'll pick the laptop up and write it, then put it down again. If I have time where I'm just sitting around then I'll do my FL, and I hit shift-apple to open up new tabs for what I want to comment on... sometimes I'll get to them the same day sometimes the next day.
My husband is still at home and he's been doing a lot of cooking and housework. And the kids self-entertain quite a bit. They're on the patio with chalk and bubbles right now.
Right now Vivi is sleeping on my chest and I really don't want to put her down. :-)

[mayna.livejournal.com]

Oh and, if she's not sleeping or not being able to be put down without waking up, then I can stick her in the sling and do whatever I need to do.

I've only ran errands once, and left milk but Bill didn't like the old nipples so they used the syringe and it was just chaotic. But we have a couple new bottles now (the playtex drop in kind instead of the Avent) and I've got more milk pumped if I need to run errands again. I probably need to start getting good at taking all 3 kids out... ;-)

[keelamonster.livejournal.com]

I remember when Ella was so wee and I felt like I couldn't do anything but sit with her and watch her. I was afraid something would happen and I wouldn't get to see it. And don't worry, it's hard to let go sometimes of that control, and it's always easier when it's someone you know and love (like your own mom) than it is when it's someone that you didn't so much choose (like an in-law with whom you have to get along because you love your wife). It's okay to feel freaked out about it, just don't let it get in the way of enjoying the time when they're there, and don't let it get in the way of letting them love that grandbaby.

Here's the awesome thing about kids: you get to learn to give up control. Because there is none with babies and kids. I mean, sure you get some control, but really? The people who have to be in control wind up really being overbearing with their kids. Of course, we give our kids guidance and we give them boundaries and we know what's right and what's wrong and we teach our kid those things, but the truth is that there is no real control. And you usually have to learn those things the hard way (like you did with your whole nursing saga). And when you finally relax and let go and realize that you can't control everything when it comes to your kids, you start to feel like not being in total control elsewhere isn't so scary. Know what I mean?

Anyway, you're posting plenty and your baby is freaking gorgeous, just like her mommies. And if you can't get anything else done and the dishes sit in the sink for a while, who cares? She's only this age once. So enjoy the hell out of her and do the dishes later when she's sleeping.

And keep posting pictures, because I show them to Ella and she says "baby!" and thinks that one day it'd be cool to meet August.