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Aug. 1st, 2008 08:48 amI know that Punk is a special and unique snowflake and all of that. I do. And I know that it doesn't matter how many people are created by her sperm donor, she will still be special. That's not really the issue. I just do a lot of reading about donor conceived people and the angst they feel later on in life. Granted, a lot of these DC folks are adults and/or young adults now and a lot of them found out about their DC origins later in life and/or were lied to, but I still worry. I mean, you just never know.
We used an anonymous donor who is not willing to be identity-released. At the time, we thought that was the best decision for our family. It was very important to Jen to do things this way, and as she was the "non-bio mom" and therefore had enough stressors about things, I felt that her feelings should be respected on this issue. Originally I wanted a known donor, and I still tend to think I prefer that, but it is what it is. I just wish I could get reliable genetic information for Punk when/if she ever needs it, you know?
Forty families is a lot. It doesn't mean 40 children. It means they say they will give the sperm to 40 different families. Families can buy as many vials as they want and have as many children as they want. And families can always sell/give sperm to other families. And who knows how accurately they really stick to the 40. Most banks say 10 families or 10 families with reported pregnancies. And it's been estimated that only 40% report. (We did, but waaaaaay later. You know, you get busy.) There are already 20 reported births with this particular donor. 20! Many are in Canada because Xytex is one of the few banks that meets Canadian regs.
I am thankful to our donor because I am eternally grateful for Punk. She is the most awesome ever and now knows how to stack two blocks together which is so awesome awesome and makes the EI mama happy. And I want her to be aware of her half-sibs and her origins and all of that, and I do believe in the end she will be happy and glad she was born into our family... but I do worry that she thinks it's unfair that she doesn't really know about half of her genetic material.
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We took Punk to Friendly's last night for a quickie night out. We ordered her a dinner of her own (mac and cheese and hot dogs, not the best ever but we ordered her some broccoli, too) which came with a drink and a little sundae. I ordered her some strawberry ice cream with strawberry sauce. She. Loved. It. She only had a couple of bites (I ate the rest, burp) but she was jonesing for it BIG TIME. She actually busted out the 'more' sign which she never ever ever uses.
I guess "Ice Cream Junkie" is a genetic trait. She must have gotten that along with my blue eyes. :)
We used an anonymous donor who is not willing to be identity-released. At the time, we thought that was the best decision for our family. It was very important to Jen to do things this way, and as she was the "non-bio mom" and therefore had enough stressors about things, I felt that her feelings should be respected on this issue. Originally I wanted a known donor, and I still tend to think I prefer that, but it is what it is. I just wish I could get reliable genetic information for Punk when/if she ever needs it, you know?
Forty families is a lot. It doesn't mean 40 children. It means they say they will give the sperm to 40 different families. Families can buy as many vials as they want and have as many children as they want. And families can always sell/give sperm to other families. And who knows how accurately they really stick to the 40. Most banks say 10 families or 10 families with reported pregnancies. And it's been estimated that only 40% report. (We did, but waaaaaay later. You know, you get busy.) There are already 20 reported births with this particular donor. 20! Many are in Canada because Xytex is one of the few banks that meets Canadian regs.
I am thankful to our donor because I am eternally grateful for Punk. She is the most awesome ever and now knows how to stack two blocks together which is so awesome awesome and makes the EI mama happy. And I want her to be aware of her half-sibs and her origins and all of that, and I do believe in the end she will be happy and glad she was born into our family... but I do worry that she thinks it's unfair that she doesn't really know about half of her genetic material.
~//~
We took Punk to Friendly's last night for a quickie night out. We ordered her a dinner of her own (mac and cheese and hot dogs, not the best ever but we ordered her some broccoli, too) which came with a drink and a little sundae. I ordered her some strawberry ice cream with strawberry sauce. She. Loved. It. She only had a couple of bites (I ate the rest, burp) but she was jonesing for it BIG TIME. She actually busted out the 'more' sign which she never ever ever uses.
I guess "Ice Cream Junkie" is a genetic trait. She must have gotten that along with my blue eyes. :)
