In which it becomes apparent that I have no class

I have to go to a wedding rehearsal in RI tonight (ugh) because I am doing a reading in a wedding tomorrow. I couldn't remember what time the rehearsal was, and since I have to drive down there (in rush hour traffic, kill me now), I was trying to call everyone I could think of. I tried calling the bride, but she apparently has a new cell phone number because I got some dude. I tried looking up her parents' phone number in the white pages, but they're unlisted. Finally I carefully pried open my old phone to call the Maid of Honor. I got voicemail. Left a message. Waited.

She calls me back and says she didn't get my call right away because she's shopping for something to wear to the rehearsal. "Just a nice top," she says, "and a new necklace."

Feck. I was planning to wear a baseball cap.

(Do people dress up for these things? Am I totally clueless? I've never been in a wedding.)

Special rights

Okay, you know what really pisses me off?

The conservative argument that revolves around the fact that GLBT folks aren't excluded from marriage, as they can marry any opposite-sex partner they want, just like everyone else.

It makes me so angry I can't even form coherent sentences. What kind of cold-hearted arrogance leads someone to claim that it is not discriminative (is that a word?) to forbid someone from marrying the partner of his/her/hir choice? I suppose it's easy to smugly make such a statement when the current law is on your side. After all, most of the people making the statements have the state-given go-ahead to marry /their/ chosen partners.

It's the arrogance that kills me - the claim that same-sex marriage rights are "special" rights because queers are already allowed to marry - just maybe not the person they'd choose. That just seems so mean-spirited to me that it breaks my heart. Just hearing the words crushes me. How can you even rationally /discuss/ something like that - that it's perfectly okay to let /some/ people marry partners of their choosing and tell other people they can't... but can choose this other person that isn't in their league?

The whole thing makes me want to throw up.